ASEXUALITY

 

If you have just arrived here and wonder what is asexuality is, you are not alone.

Asexuals in a broad sense, are people who are not sexually attracted to anyone, or who have limited to no desire to have sex with anyone else. There can be asexuals who watch porn, masturbate, have sex, and be in romantic relationships.

Many Asexuals will not have sex because they are NOT sexually attracted to someone and don’t feel any need, urge, or want for it physically, but also mentally and emotionally too. Many are sex-repulsed. Some asexuals will have sex for practical purposes, such as having a child or to please their partner in a relationship. Some asexuals are sex positive, sex neutral, or sex indifferent, or just curious.

Sexual behaviour is not the same as sexual attraction. And arousal is not the same as sexual attraction.

ASEXUAL SPECTRUM

 

Asexuality is a spectrum. Ranging from the ‘pure’ asexuals’, those who experience no sexual attraction and NO romantic attraction (aromantic asexual (Aro-Ace). To those who ARE romantic and experience romantic attraction, but they still don’t experience any sexual attraction. To those who are on the more grey/sexual end of the asexual spectrum, and who do experience sexual attraction, but ONLY under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, or who experiences it but NOT enough to want to act on it. And many subcategories of types of asexuals, exist in-between all these.

Aven Wiki is good for defining asexual terms and meanings within the asexual spectrum, as textbook definitions. But not everyone fits into an exact asexual box. That’s why I wrote and published, Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity, to celebrate out asexual diversity across the asexual spectrum, and our differences within it. This book doesn’t just give you textbook definitions of asexuality, but helps you to understand asexuality, as a spectrum, in real life contexts and situations, relating to love, life, and sex. Told through a series of interviews with 46 different asexual perspectives. And I also tell my own personal story and you get to interview me at the end of the book too. This book answers every question you could possibly think of, when you first discover asexuality, and you’re trying to understand all the nuances of it, and how it works in real life instances. Order it here https://amzn.to/32agk7v

Check out these asexual terms:

Asexuality – The lack of sexual attraction.

Aromantic Asexual (Aro-Ace) – A person who does not experience romantic or sexual attraction. (Aromatic sexuals exist too. Those who experience no romantic attraction, but they DO experience sexual attraction.)

Heteroromantic – A person who is romantically attracted to a member of the opposite sex or gender.

Homoromantic – A person who is romantically attracted to a member of the same sex or gender.

Biromantic – A person who is romantically attracted to two sexes or genders.

Panromantic – A person who is romantically attracted to someone regardless of gender. So they could be attracted to male, female, trans, non-binary, agender, gender fluid, or other.

Demi-romantic –  A person who can only feel romantic attraction for someone once a deep emotional bond has been formed.

Grey A Asexual – A person who DOES experience sexual attraction, but ONLY under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, or who experiences it but NOT enough to want to act on it.

Grey A, Grey Asexual, and even Grey Sexual, are usually all clumped together, to mean the same thing.

When I first came across these terms, they meant a person who regarded themselves as being somewhere in-between asexual and sexual. And in my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book, I redefine Grey A, to mean a person who is asexual with Grey Areas. For example, I can have high levels of arousal, despite having zero sexual attraction. I also some sexual behaviour with the way I like kiss, despite experiencing no sexual attraction. Therefore I like to add Grey A, after heteroromantic, to my own asexual definition of how I identify.

Demi-Sexual – A person who can ONLY feel sexual attraction for someone, once a deep emotional bond has been formed. That bond usually has to be reciprocated, maintained, and sustained, in order for the demi-sexual to still experience sexual attraction. A demi-sexual person is on the Grey end of the Asexual Spectrum.