These are just 5 benefits of single life and being single, I can think of many more!! What others would you like me to add? Please comment below!
International Celebrate Being Single Day is a day I founded On February 14th, in 2015, so that no single person has to feel alone ever again on Valentine’s Day, instead, they can celebrate it as they special day! So how are you celebrating today?
Today I am out on a self-date to celebrate being single on #ICBSDAY! #ICBSD (International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th!), I am going to the cinema and for a meal! And I will be even more loved up with myself than usual, as a hyper-romantic, heteroromantic, asexual!
If you are looking for a fab self-love present, I recently designed this beautiful Asexual Pride Hearts Short Sleeve T-Shirt, it also comes as an Asexual Pride Hearts Long Sleeve T-Shirt and as an Asexual Pride Hearts Sweatshirt.
Here are some quotes I put together about why it’s good to be single! I particular like the last one “I’m single because I was born that way”. I think there is a lot of societal pressure to be in a couple when it simply is not necessary to live a happy and fulfilling life, in fact, so far, my happiest times are when I am enjoying being single with no one to worry about but myself!
It’s not long to go now, I am feeling uber excited to celebrate International Celebrate Being Single Day, #ICBSD, on Feb 14th. I founded International Celebrate Being Single Day in 2015, so that no single person has to ever feel alone on Valentine’s Day, instead they can CELEBRATE it as their special day too by self-dating, or meeting up with friends. Every year since 2015 I have had a self-date on that day and I love being single and celebrating my special day.
Not long to go, I am feeling super excited to celebrate International Celebrate Being Single Day, #ICBSD, on Feb 14th. (Not to be confused with ‘Singles Day – which I believe was originally set up as a more cynical view of Valentine’s Day and being single – Whereas the day I founded is to ‘celebrate’ being single – which is key).** I founded International Celebrate Being Single Day in 2015 so that no single person has to ever feel alone on Valentine’s Day – Instead they can CELEBRATE it as their special day too – By self-dating, or meeting up with friends. Every year since 2015 I have had a self-date on that day and I love it – makes me feel great.
How are you going to be celebrating?
If you are going to be staying at home, here are ways you can self-love at home, the asexual way!
Me (Sandra Bellamy) Going For A Self-date To Bristol for #ICBSD International Celebrate Being Single Day.Butterfly In The Butterfly Tent At Bristol Zoo.Can You Spot The Goby?Baby Tortoise At Bristol Zoo.Blue Frog In Bristol Zoo.
Self-dating is a must for all single people, and here are 10 Reasons Why It’s Important To Self-Date!
It reconnects you with your soul!
You can get to know yourself even better.
It builds strength of character.
It boosts your confidence.
It improves your self-esteem.
It’s an act of self-love and compassion.
You can do what you want and see what you want and go where you want, without anyone saying anything negative, so you can fully enjoy the moment.
You can eat as much as you want without feeling bad or guilty. And you can buy yourself gifts to make you happy.
It emphasizes that you don’t need anyone else and empowers you to be more happy as a single person.
You know yourself better than anyone and you can create a feeling of joy, happiness and magic, all by yourself. That is super-empowering!
As you can see from these photos, I had an awesome self-date in Bristol for International Celebrating Being Single Day, #ICBSD. I went to Bristol Zoo, ate 3 meals out, and saw the movies ‘Sing’ and ‘Batman Lego Movie’. Both films were ace!
I am in Bristol later today to celebrate being single – going to the zoo and for a meal and to the cinema – which is what I did last year as shown in this video.
International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th.
International Celebrate Being Single Day is just around the corner (Feb 14th), and having founded this special day for singles to celebrate being single, you may be asking yourself, just what is so great about being single.
Since being predominantly single from November 5th, 2011, I began to challenge my mind about the way it thinks about being in a relationship and being single. I was in relationships with guys who were no good for me since 15 years of age – until 2011 – about 19 years of my life! With the largest period of being single in that time, just 6 months! 2 relationships I had were long term (not good for me) and lasted years. I wasn’t a happy person back then and had low self-esteem. I did not like being on my own because I felt alone and very lonely, I liked to be needed, wanted and loved, and felt I wanted someone there for me 24/7 as life would be boring on my own. I am also a very romantic person.
It is fine to want to be needed, wanted and loved – but what I have discovered is that you need to get these 3 things from yourself first and foremost; to be at one with your own soul – then you will you be happy and fulfilled as a single person and less likely to get into a relationship that is no good for you because you will not ‘need’ to be in a relationship. In fact, you may fill your own life with so much joy and happiness that being in a relationship no longer appeals to you. Either way, you will have unleashed your power of one and be on your way to being a super successful single sensation.
7 STEPS HOW TO BECOME HAPPY BEING SINGLE
Step 1. You need to take stock of your life and realise that you have a problem being single and find out why that is.
Step 2. You need to be willing to have an open mind and accept you need to change in this respect.
Step 3. If you have been in relationships for most of your life, you need to give yourself some time to yourself and vow to do all you can to stay single for a set period of time – mine was a year; so I could have time to stop ‘needing’ someone. If on the other hand you have been single all your life and would like to be in a relationship but don’t know how to go about it, then you have some work to do on yourself to ensure you can be single and be happy – as well as work to do on your dating and relationship skills. You can still enjoy dating as a single person and it is good to see what is on offer from a variety of sources, rather than thinking one person is the only choice you have!
Step 4.You need to explore and find things to build your confidence and self-esteem, as well as discover ways to help you to be happy being single. This could include learning from books, articles, training courses, magazines, blogs, videos, audio books and podcasts, or through coaching and/or being mentored.
Step 5. You need to decide what ways you learn best – visual, auditory (listen), verbal, written, – so you can pick which learning method is best for you and implement it. If you don’t know which suits you best, try each out until you find which works best for you. Being happy to be single is a skill you need to master and maintain and you need to recognise this and accept it.
Step 6. Take massive action. You need to implement what you have learned, if you are not prepared to do this then you will stay stuck being single and unhappy – everyone has a choice regardless of their circumstances. If you have no money there is free to watch YouTube videos, blog posts and online articles to read. There is no excuse for not changing your life!
Step 7. Evaluate and monitor your progress via each learning method. If something doesn’t work, then try something else until you can honestly say you are happy being single.
For those of you who follow me on Twitter, you may have seen my www.Twitter.com/quirkycoaching profile and thought, just what is #powerofone. Power Of One is a powerful online training and coaching programme that I am creating, to show you, just how to be single and be happy being single.
How are you celebrating being single on Feb 14th – International Celebrate Being Single Day?
Please add #ICBSD to any posts and media you post online to show how proud you are to celebrate International Celebrate Being Single Day!!
What struggles do you have being single and what help would you like to overcome them?
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