Unfortunately I have had past experience of some sexual guys treating women like pieces of meat – It’s the sex they desire regardless, and they will say some nasty things when you don’t deserve them, just to make you either feel so bad that you think you must have sex, or when you refuse, that you are worthless, ugly, and unlovable.

These guys are shallow and will stop at nothing to get what they want. Sex is just a commodity to them and feelings don’t matter apart from they want to abuse them and manipulate you to do what they want. They cause you pain, get your brain to think you have a problem; then entice you to stop the problem, to their advantage. This is a form of emotional and mental abuse and you need to know it is not your fault and you have done nothing wrong. Even though they will try to get you to believe there is something wrong with you, there isn’t.

Then there are the guys that make you feel like you will lose them because they are more mature than you because you don’t have sex. Again, the end goal is to get the sex.

These guys are what put respectful and thoughtful guys to shame. And although my experience is on the receiving end of some guys, there will no doubt be some women who make guys feel bad if they don’t have sex too.

It has been reported that one in 3 relationships will be abusive, and if you have come across this type of guy or girl, don’t get into a relationship with one, because you are worth more than sex and a guy’s opinion of you, and you don’t need to have sex to be worthy of respect and love, it’s your basic human right. If you are in a relationship like this, seek help, support, and a way to safely leave. If you were thinking about getting into one because you are at fault in some way, you are not, it’s your life and no one should be manipulating you and making you feel bad about something you are not comfortable in doing, and you are free to walk away, so ensure you do.

I am not a councillor or medical practitioner. I am just giving you advice from experience and hope it makes a difference to your life.

Stay ace

Sandra xx