If you struggle with confidence as an asexual or with your asexuality identity, these 15 things you need to know to boost your confidence as an asexual will really help you.

1. Know asexuality is just as valid as an other sexuality.
2. Know you are whole just as you are and that nothing is missing or broken.
3. Know you are worthy of love, life and happiness.
4. Know that you are worthy of a monogamous relationship, even without sex.
5. Know that if someone has a problem with your asexuality, it’s their problem not yours. This includes family, friends, and acquaintances.
6. Know that you do not have to change for anyone.
7. Know your difference is your beauty.
8. Know it’s okay to not to be the same as others.
9. Know that being asexual is a gift, because it means you see the world in a unique way.
10. You have the right to be treated with respect and to be taken seriously, this means people should accept the fact you identify as asexual and respect that, not dismiss it, interrogate you over it, or act as if it doesn’t exist.
11. You have the right to walk away from anyone who invalidates you or puts you down about your asexuality.
12. Consent is a must no matter what sexual orientation you are and boundaries should be respected. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable by what they are doing or about to do, you don’t have to do it and  you can say no. If you say no, they have to respect that.
13. You have the right to change your mind. If you wanted to do something or try something, but you realise you don’t like it or don’t want to do it again, you can speak up and say so, and you should be able to do that without fear and it be accepted without objection.
14. Never think that someone else’s opinion of you, is more important than your own. You have a right to be who you want to be and live how you want to live, never let anyone constrain you to be what they think you should be.
15. Know your value and your worth, and don’t think you are any less than you are. There is only one of you and that is priceless and highly valuable. The people that deserve to be in your life, keep, those who put you in fear, who don’t see your value and your worth, allow them to go from your life or limit your time with them. Life is too short to stay with, or be around, those who don’t appreciate you for who you are and who don’t make you feel good about yourself. You deserve to be liked, loved, cherished and adored. It’s your birth right.

I hope these 15 things you need to know to boost your confidence as an asexual have helped you? 

Merry Christmas and keep shining your asexual light.