How To Be Your Authentic Asexual Self By Being Who You’re Meant To Be Not Who You’re Born Into Being

Are you living who you are meant to be? 🤔

Or are you living who you are conditioned into being? 🤔

I think it’s so important for people to lean into who they truly are, by listening to your own inner voice, rather than other’s which is trying to drown out your own.

On Wednesday last week, my interview about asexuality with Jennifer Regular on her Awaken And Ascend podcast was published at 11pm BST. And I had asked her for a video clip to put on my own channel, so I could announce when my episode was about to air. 

The video clip she chose is all about authenticity and was the central message I wanted her audience to takeaway, that sometimes we are born into being something – in my case heterosexual, when in reality we’re meant to be something else – in my case I was really asexual and didn’t know it – see what I mean by watching the clip here https://youtu.be/Kn_M3KAvL_g?si=tHOuuuufl9nMr5dc  or by watching the video below, underneath this text 👇

I would love you to listen to my whole episode about how to be your authentic asexual self, which  I did with Jennifer Regular on her Awaken And Ascend podcast.

Central themes are asexuality, authenticity, and how society conditions us into being – when REALLY we can be something different – which is very appropriate for Pride Month – Happy Pride if you celebrate it. 

Click through this link to watch the full interview  👉🏿 https://youtu.be/R-ZV9hjef8s?si=eEkPoUe3YrmTuiZF or watch the video below 👇

 

In this interview I share my asexual life journey and how to Be Who You’re Meant To Be Not What You’re Born Into Being.

I talk about:

• An asexual life

• Desiring romance without sex

• The asexual spectrum

• Physical attraction vs. arousal 

• Asexual vs. celibate

• Awakening to being different

• Advice from a therapist

• Passionate kissing when you’re asexual

• My asexuality mission

• Discovering yourself and your passion • Living your authentic life

• Building community

• Overcoming societal conditioning 

• Standing in your convictions

• Being congruent with what you think and feel

Jennifer Regular, the host of Awaken And Ascend podcast, selects show guests who are transformational specialists that can help others step into a fuller expression of who they are, by sharing their insights, knowledge and wisdom from their own life experience. Her website is here https://lightingthepath.ca/

I feel so honoured to have been chosen as one of those transformational specialists who is living on purpose with helping asexuals, writing books, and always striving to fulfil my asexual life mission of – getting asexuality recognised as an sexual orientation in its own right so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again.

While not every asexual lives in fear of ridicule and a number are out loud and proud with no fear, there are still others around the globe, who sadly either don’t feel they can come out, or who my be punished in some way by their family, or others, for doing so.

And it’s my mission to help foster global acceptance by spreading the word of asexuality to as many thought-leaders and across as many podcasts and other media outlets as possible, and especially to get heterosexuals to understand asexuality, as they are still the largest sexuality population – and so this is where I feel we can have the most impact on changing lives and the way society views sex, love, and relationships.


A recent live video I did on my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel which was one of the more popular recent live streams I’ve done, was also about authenticity…

Have you ever struggled to be your true authentic self?

Or are you confused about what it means to be your true authentic self and the dangers of not being your true authentic self?

If so, then this video below is for you👇 so please click through it and watch it, or click through this link https://www.youtube.com/live/MkMaP77mjbg?si=eZf1mQDf4xs8mB0m

In this live stream episode I started with life lesson 56, from my Bestselling Diary Confessions Of A Hyper-romantic asexual book, which you can get on Amazon here https://amzn.to/4bhxC3Z in fact this hit the bestseller list again yesterday, even though it was a bestseller in April after I published it.

Here is a screenshot from yesterday – Monday 24th June 2024 – bestsellers change hourly.

“Not everyone is going to like you and get on with you and vice versa, and that’s okay, but remaining true to who you are, in spite of what others say, think and do – about you, is important. You can’t be someone you’re not just to please other people. You need to live your life for you. It’s the only way to true success and happiness, and it will take courage and strength to keep you as you, in a world where people are trying to make you conform to their way of being. Stand your ground and keep being you. You’re beautiful just as you are, and not everyone is going to see that – but it’s usually because they can’t be their true authentic self, like you can, and that’s why you bother them the most.”

This is from my Diary Confessions Of A Hyper-romantic Asexual – 78 life lessons to ACE your life – book, so don’t forget to get a copy from Amazon here https://amzn.to/4bhxC3Z

So first of all, what does it mean to be your true authentic self?

As I said in this quote, it means being who you are regardless of what anyone else says, thinks, or does.

Before I helped asexuals, I was actually known as quirky, and I published under my own book publishing imprint of quirky books – which I still do.

I have an embrace your quirky philosophy, which is all about embracing your true authentic self, no matter what anyone else says, thinks, or does.

And this is a philosophy I still abide by and rings true with me to this day.

And being your authentic self is being in your personal power as you and who you are.

With it being pride month, June 2024, it’s a very good opportunity to celebrate all our differences and our uniqueness.

And in order to see our uniqueness, we need to be our authentic self. 

It’s being true to who you are, and it’s letting the world see yourself.

Every person’s self is different because we’ve all got different DNA.

We’ve all got different genetic makeup.

We’ve all been raised differently.

We’ve got different environments around us, and so we each bring unique gifts to the table, unique gifts to the world.

When I say gifts, you could think of them as experiences, skills, life lessons, things that have happened to you in your life that you can then use to help other people or help yourself or do both.

Watch the full episode now here https://www.youtube.com/live/MkMaP77mjbg?si=eZf1mQDf4xs8mB0m and don’t forget to hit the subscribe button and the bell icon, so you never miss another episode.


About Sandra:

Sandra Bellamy is an International Bestselling Author and Publisher, Speaker, Trainer, advisor and coach. She’s most famous for her reality-TV-style chat show and vlog, Asexualise My Asexual Life, which has had over 833,000 views. Educating people about the sexual orientation that is asexuality and inspiring and empowering asexuals to be comfortable and confident as their authentic self, using her own asexual life journey to help others with advice and guidance on love, life, confidence, dating, relationships, self-love and self-care. 

For asexual education, information, entertainment and lifestyle videos – subscribe here / asexualisemyasexuallife

If you want to know more about asexuality and the asexual spectrum, and what 47 different asexuals think of love, life and sex from an asexual point of view and if you’re confused about what it really means to be asexual – get all of your questions answered in Sandra’s other bestseller Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity, here https://amzn.to/3VAGufr


FREE Authenticity Summit With Asexuality And Embrace Your Quirky Expert Sandra Bellamy – How To Break Free From Your Past And Live Your Truth!

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I’m thrilled to be one of the 78 experts speaking at the Authenticity Global Online Summit, with Freestyle Your Life (FLY)! Over the course of the summit, you discover how to break free from your past, heal your wounds, and live as authentic you, (in all your asexual glory). Something I know many asexuals struggle with. This 7 day event is absolutely free to attend, and videos will be able to be viewed for 24 hours only, with the opportunity to purchase all talks on video and audio.

I am friends with the event organiser and host, and her own story of her battle with cancer and how she overcame it, by discovering how to be her true authentic self, and live life on her own terms, is truly inspirational and exceptional, she literally lives and breathes what she teaches. I know if anyone can help you to be your true authentic quirky self, she can.

Are Your Thoughts….?

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This is the first international conference worldwide of its type, featuring 78 authentic and awesome experts and speakers, sharing their immense wisdom and best tips to guide you to becoming authentically YOU. I am so proud to be part of it, especially as I am talking about asexuality to a global audience. Don’t miss this life-changing event for free, it will be well worth your time! You can view the summit by signing up at https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2 to receive the email for each day’s event. You get a complete ‘Authenticity Training Blueprint‘ you can follow to break free from whatever sucks at the Status Quo, so you can finally evolve in your life. When you implement the wisdom shared by 78 amazingly authentic and highly inspirational experts & speakers, you can rise and show up as the authentic being you were always born to be; owning who you truly are 🎬🔝. This is not just an interview series, but all interviews and days are built upon each other and are a summarised representation of pure wisdom and mentorship of 78 experts to transform you into the authentic self 🍀. Freestyle-Your-Life is a way of living life on your own authentic terms after pressing Reset and getting rid of all that sucks in your life, so you can truly be the quirky you, you were always born to be, with all your quirky individuality! 😎 I highly recommending attending this event, and you don’t have much time left to register before the even starts on the 9th of December, so sign up here now https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2

If you can’t make all the sessions, no problem, you won’t be able to see the event for that day, after 24 hours has passed, but you can view the next one within 24 hours of it going live. Personally, I would turn off the TV and refrain from playing video games for a week, and spend that time watching the summit, because you will learn so much more about life and business to develop and grow yourself to be the best version of you, and that’s more important. You can do those another time, but this is just for 7 days only and I would hate you to miss out on this opportunity. Personal and professional development, helped to free me of depression which I had since a kid, so I always can’t recommend it enough. I know the event organiser has put so much time, energy, and effort into the summit, to help you to become your true authentic self and really wants to make a change in thousands of live. If you want to see the summit but you can’t do that for whatever reason – especially with work, you can also purchase the recordings to the entire event, at a highly reduced price, before the summit even starts with the EarlyBird pricing offer (well worth it)!  78 experts, for a fraction of the cost it would be to buy their mentorship and coaching on an individual basis! Sign up here before this offer is gone for good https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2

Don’t forget I will be sharing my personal Asexuality story on day 4 of the event, which is on the 12th of December – Learn From Heroic Life Journeys. I’m super excited about that!

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx