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Being asexual is a unique and valid sexual orientation but it can come with a lot of difficulties and challenges as you buck the norm of societal thinking and expectations. So it’s important to prioritise your well-being throughout your asexual journey, in order to feel good about yourself, your life, and your sexual orientation of asexuality.

In this blog article, I want to share and explore with you, 10 essential tips that can help you stay healthy, happy, and fulfilled, as an asexual individual. Whether you’ve recently discovered your asexuality or have been identifying as asexual for a while, these tips will provide guidance and support for maintaining your well-being. Sandra Bellamy - Self-care, 21st Mindset Birthday trip to Eurodisney

Self-Acceptance:

Embrace your asexuality as a valid part of who you are. Recognise that your feelings and experiences are real and valid, and give yourself permission to fully accept and embrace your identity.

Seek Community:

Connect with the asexual community, either online or in person, to find a supportive network of individuals who share similar experiences. Engaging with others who understand and validate your asexuality can provide a sense of belonging and support.

Educate Yourself:

Take the time to educate yourself about asexuality and its various nuances. Learning about different asexual identities, experiences, and resources, can help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and empower you to navigate discussions about asexuality with confidence. You can take my FREE Asexuality Basics For Beginners Course here https://asexualise-academy-courses.thinkific.com/courses/asexuality-basics-for-beginners-introduction-to-asexuality

Communicate Your Needs:

Open and honest communication is key in any relationship. Express your boundaries, desires, and needs to your friends, family, and potential partners. It’s important for them to understand and respect your asexuality to maintain healthy relationships with you.

Self-Care:

Prioritise self-care activities that promote your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, relaxation, and fulfilment. This might include hobbies, self-dating, mindfulness practices, exercise, or spending time with loved ones and friends. Asexual Sandra Disney Princess Look

Seek Support:

If you’re facing challenges related to your asexuality, consider seeking professional support. A therapist or counsellor who is knowledgeable about asexuality can provide guidance, help you navigate personal struggles, and offer valuable insights. I offer coaching, and advice and support sessions, but I’m not a licensed therapist or counsellor. If you want my help, hit me up in the chat bubble.

Set Boundaries:

Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial for your well-being. Be clear about what you’re comfortable with and communicate your boundaries to others. Remember that it’s okay to say no and prioritise your own needs and comfort. This means it’s okay to say no to having any type of sex or being touched in any way you’re not comfortable with.

Celebrate Your Identity:

Take pride in your asexual identity and celebrate it in ways that resonate with you. Participate in asexual visibility events, connect with online communities, or express yourself through art, writing, or other creative outlets.

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Find Allies:

While it’s important to connect with the asexual community, it’s equally valuable to have supportive allies in your life. Allies are individuals who may not be asexual but understand, respect, and support your identity. Cultivate relationships with those who are accepting and willing to learn.

Educate Others:

If you feel comfortable and empowered, advocate for asexuality and help raise awareness. Educate others about asexuality, challenge misconceptions, and promote understanding and acceptance. By sharing your experiences, you can contribute to a more inclusive society.

Staying well as an asexual individual involves self-acceptance, seeking community, educating yourself and others, setting boundaries, and prioritising your self-care. Remember, you deserve to live a fulfilling and authentic asexual life. By implementing these essential tips, you can enhance your well-being and embrace your asexual identity with confidence and pride.

Embrace your journey and know that you are not alone – a supportive community awaits you.

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As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

If you struggle with confidence as an asexual or with your asexuality identity, these 15 things you need to know to boost your confidence as an asexual will really help you.

Know asexuality is just as valid as an other sexuality.
Know you are whole just as you are and that nothing is missing or broken.
Know you are worthy of love, life and happiness.
Know that you are worthy of a monogamous relationship, even without sex.
Know that if someone has a problem with your asexuality, it’s their problem not yours. This includes family, friends, and acquaintances.
Know that you do not have to change for anyone.
Know your difference is your beauty.
Know it’s okay to not to be the same as others.
Know that being asexual is a gift, because it means you see the world in a unique way.
You have the right to be treated with respect and to be taken seriously, this means people should accept the fact you identify as asexual and respect that, not dismiss it, interrogate you over it, or act as if it doesn’t exist.
You have the right to walk away from anyone who invalidates you or puts you down about your asexuality.
Consent is a must no matter what sexual orientation you are and boundaries should be respected. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable by what they are doing or about to do, you don’t have to do it and you can say no. If you say no, they have to respect that.
You have the right to change your mind. If you wanted to do something or try something, but you realise you don’t like it or don’t want to do it again, you can speak up and say so, and you should be able to do that without fear and it be accepted without objection.
Never think that someone else’s opinion of you, is more important than your own. You have a right to be who you want to be and live how you want to live, never let anyone constrain you to be what they think you should be.
Know your value and your worth, and don’t think you are any less than you are. There is only one of you and that is priceless and highly valuable. The people that deserve to be in your life, keep, those who put you in fear, who don’t see your value and your worth, allow them to go from your life or limit your time with them. Life is too short to stay with, or be around, those who don’t appreciate you for who you are and who don’t make you feel good about yourself. You deserve to be liked, loved, cherished and adored. It’s your birth right.