What is it really like for an asexual who does not have sex?
I recently published this video about not missing out because I have had no sex since 2011, and I still say the same thing as I did in the video below, in 2015, that it feels fantastic – to not have sex!
These are some of the other benefits of no sex for me!
- No worries about getting pregnant.
- I don’t have to take the contraceptive pill that has side effects and can make you feel ill.
- No worries about STDs and no need to be tested for that.
- Less anxiety, worry, and stress, in general.
- No feeling raw and upset after sex.
- No getting bored from having sex with a guy who does no foreplay. (Foreplay is fine and can be enjoyable with the right person in a serious committed relationship, sex is boring with most guys, or really not worth it, or I would rather be doing something else.)
- Less chance of being with a guy who will pounce on me for sex.
- No expectations of sex means I can relax and chill more.
- No forcing myself to do something that does not feel good to me and I am not comfortable doing.
- A sense of relief that I don’t have to be something I am not.
- No having to please a partner in that way if I had one.
- No pain from doing that.
- I can relax around asexual guys.
- I can make lots of asexual friends as I am not focused on getting a sexual boyfriend and having to have sex.
- I can avoid getting into relationships with sexual guys that are no good for me.
- I have a chance of finding real and true love without sex.
- I can kiss without sex, which is far more pleasurable for me.
- I have more time to focus on my career and do other activities that are worthwhile and can be life transforming.
- It’s liberating to be free from something that goes against ones own soul and natural being/personality.
- I feel happier. I feel I am more me, and can live my life my way without being tied to convention.
As you can see from my list of 20 benefits of no sex for an asexual, there are a ton of reasons why I am so happy I don’t have sex. What’s yours?
Until next time, stay ace! Sandra xx