Asexuality Awareness Achievements 2023 – Asexuality Global Recognition 2023 By Sandra Bellamy Asexualise

Posted on January 6, 2024January 6, 2024 by Asexualise

Biggest asexuality achievement in 2023 – I was on James Miller Lifeology Radio show with over 3 million listeners per episode – That’s 3 million people hearing about asexuality!

The Life of an Asexual Person | Sandra Bellamy By James Miller Lifeology Interview ORIGINAL VERSION watch here https://youtu.be/1_3kkGbHRcE?si=hfNPbWNu-bzW51ahc

Listen to it on Apple Podcasts here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/james-miller-lifeology-radio/id1190946242?i=1000627920736

James Miller, is the CEO of James Miller | LIFEOLOGY®, LLC and The Executive Producer and Host of LIFEOLOGY® Radio Nationally Broadcast and Syndicated Radio Show www.JamesMillerLifeology.com

(See my show page on James’s site here https://www.jamesmillerlifeology.com/the-life-of-an-asexual-person/)

Which is broadcast on/across:

National Radio Stations

18 AM/FM terrestrial radio stations: Tuesday at 1:30 pm, Friday at 9:30 am, and Saturday at 12:30 pm
- Washington, DC: FM – 96.7
- Tampa, FL: AM – 1630, FM – 92.1
- Las Vegas, NV: AM – 1520, FM – 99.5
- Macon, GA: AM – 810, FM – 87.9
- Lancaster, PA: AM – 1640, FM – 102.1
- Boulder, CO: FM – 96.3
- Milwaukee, WI: FM – 90.3
- Pittsburgh, PA: FM – 94.7
- Long Beach, CA: FM – 101.5
- New Port Richey, FL: FM – 88.3
- The Villages, FL: FM – 97.7
- Colorado Springs, CO: FM – 87.9
- Jacksonville, FL: FM – 90.3
- Rocky Hill, NC: FM – 89.5

Streaming Radio

RadioPublic
PodParadise.com
Player.FM
Overcast FM
Radio Vybe
AM/FM247
Amazon Alexa/Echo

Archived on Podcasting Platforms

Digitally (Under AMFM247 Channel)

Roku
WorldTV
Dish TV
Youtube
Google TV
Other Network Stations Inclusion

Check it out on my own channel here https://youtu.be/1_3kkGbHRcE?si=KjA4tdA-wNKxvpuH and be sure to give it a thumbs up if you like it.

You can also see my reaction video here https://www.youtube.com/live/0GP791VeTeA?si=smftPk6kZ_ly9w5m or by watching the video below:

The Life And Perspectives Of An Asexual

Listen to it on my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel here https://youtu.be/5XMtAwHT4aI?si=8JRkVr0XJ4jPOfSL

I was so happy to be featured on Shanna Vavra’s Sense of Soul Podcast, which is a spirituality podcast, talking about asexuality and my spiritual life mission regarding that. She’s had over a million downloads of her show episodes, so it’s in the top % of listened to podcasts – which is great coverage for asexuality.

Shanna Vavra is a very attentive and inclusive interviewer, interviewing me about The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual – on ITunes here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sense-of-soul/id1468725665?i=1000630467751

It’s also on Shanna’s own Sense of Soul Podcast YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/s1X6oN-q2J4?si=AEe1Vr2PRfFv6GkR

I spoke about asexuality and self-reinvention at Oxford University for bLU Talks

Asexual Sandra Bellamy Quirky Books Bestselling Author And Publisher Speaks At Oxford University For bLU Talks – Behind The Scenes Highlights

Watch the playlist of clips from my talk in the video below – or click this link https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6sdIToxIi4eaCyEfXpEj-s0dBqcJ4aaA&si=ojSONXiI7sqYBRMg

My self-reinvention talk included my personal transformational life journey:

From being a shy, lonely, deeply unhappy, introverted girl,

Who was a suicidal depressed mess,

With no purpose…

Averse to touch by strangers…

With huge social anxiety,

And I could only see people on a one-to-one basis…

Number 1 hot new release best selling books

Sandra Bellamy International Num 1 Best Selling Author - Co-Author of bLU Talks Vol 11

So now I can say I’m a #1 International Best Selling Author. Get the blueprint to changing your self and your life and become who you truly want to be by buying this book here https://amzn.to/4aO9OWk

Best-Selling Asexual Perspectives Book – Best-Selling Publisher Quirky Books – Speciality Asexuality

Before that, on 08/08/2023, I also became a bestselling author with Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book. And because I publish my own books under my own book publishing imprint of Quirky Books, I became a bestselling publisher too – double WOW! Get your copy here https://amzn.to/48nOe9w

And I wrote Diary Confessions Of A Hyper-romantic Asexual – 78 Life Lessons To ACE Your Life – book, which I am currently proofreading again along with my best friend, who fortunately for me, works in editorial as a job, so he is highly skilled and knowledgable to help me. Although with a diary-style book, it’s meant to have minimal editing done to it, be a casual conversational tone and use colloquial language, so I have to be careful not to overdo the editing, and to keep it very conversational, but I still want to make some final corrections.

This book is very different to any other book I’ve written before as it’s a diary-style book of my inner most thoughts, feelings and emotions, during a difficult hyper-romantic time and all the life lessons I learnt along the way. It’s written very informally. It’s like a behind-the-scenes of my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel – which is also a behind-the-scenes of my life, where I share my own asexual life journey, in order to help you in yours. Talking about things such as dating, relationships, self-love and self-care – which this book also focuses on helping you with. So it’s like an extension of my channel content to help you in your own asexual life – more details on this to follow and it will be at a low launch price when it’s first released, so keep your eyes on my next blog posts for updates about that, so you don’t miss out.

I was also interviewed by bLU Talks about asexuality on an episode of bLU Talks Amplify Your Message show which was recorded live – and co-hosted that show once too.

Watch Asexuality Interview with Sandra Bellamy ON Blu Talks Amplify your message show, by watching the video below or click this link https://youtu.be/KCdM9jLUbhU?si=I7q_ARrb8ija1U5v

If you want to see the episode I co-hosted, you can see it here https://www.youtube.com/live/yI-PKfV0Rw8?si=GYpmgczR6MI_G_QL

And I was the first keynote speaker at the Be And Become Summit on 14th Of December.

Here is my full talk in case you missed it:

And here is the full playlist with some of the highlights of that talk:

on 31st of December 2023, I was notified that I’ve been recognised among the 2023 – Iconic 100 Impact Ignitors Worldwide ICONS for making a difference. (Thanks to all you who voted for me into this 100 list of icons.)

Join me in celebrating positive change asexualiseofficial with International Icon Inc. ( @YouAreTheIconOrg ) and the Iconic Speakers Network ( @IconicSpeakersNetwork), led by the founder Antoinette Logan ( @AskMsLogan ).

See the full list of IMPACT IGNITORS here: https://bit.ly/Iconic100ImpactIgnitorOf2023List (I’m included in the special mentions – People who have made special contributions to positive change.)

And last year I was interviewed by Shilpi Gupta Shah,

So please, do yourself a favour, never, ever, give up on your dreams and keep taking action to achieve each one of those. Your future self will thank you for it.

And make sure 2024, is the year you say, “I do” to you:

With much love

As always, stay ACE,

Sandra xx

15 Things You Need To Know To Boost Your Confidence As An Asexual

Posted on December 25, 2022December 25, 2022 by Asexualise

If you struggle with confidence as an asexual or with your asexuality identity, these 15 things you need to know to boost your confidence as an asexual will really help you.

Know asexuality is just as valid as an other sexuality.
Know you are whole just as you are and that nothing is missing or broken.
Know you are worthy of love, life and happiness.
Know that you are worthy of a monogamous relationship, even without sex.
Know that if someone has a problem with your asexuality, it’s their problem not yours. This includes family, friends, and acquaintances.
Know that you do not have to change for anyone.
Know your difference is your beauty.
Know it’s okay to not to be the same as others.
Know that being asexual is a gift, because it means you see the world in a unique way.
You have the right to be treated with respect and to be taken seriously, this means people should accept the fact you identify as asexual and respect that, not dismiss it, interrogate you over it, or act as if it doesn’t exist.
You have the right to walk away from anyone who invalidates you or puts you down about your asexuality.
Consent is a must no matter what sexual orientation you are and boundaries should be respected. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable by what they are doing or about to do, you don’t have to do it and you can say no. If you say no, they have to respect that.
You have the right to change your mind. If you wanted to do something or try something, but you realise you don’t like it or don’t want to do it again, you can speak up and say so, and you should be able to do that without fear and it be accepted without objection.
Never think that someone else’s opinion of you, is more important than your own. You have a right to be who you want to be and live how you want to live, never let anyone constrain you to be what they think you should be.
Know your value and your worth, and don’t think you are any less than you are. There is only one of you and that is priceless and highly valuable. The people that deserve to be in your life, keep, those who put you in fear, who don’t see your value and your worth, allow them to go from your life or limit your time with them. Life is too short to stay with, or be around, those who don’t appreciate you for who you are and who don’t make you feel good about yourself. You deserve to be liked, loved, cherished and adored. It’s your birth right.

I hope these 15 things you need to know to boost your confidence as an asexual have helped you?

Merry Christmas and keep shining your asexual light.

World’s First Asexuality Chat Show! Asexuality Late Night Chat Show For Asexuals! Want To Get Involved? Here’s How!

Posted on December 28, 2019December 29, 2019 by Asexualise

I thought I was heterosexual for years, but I just didn’t like sex, as I didn’t associate sex with love, but loved to kiss. But when I realised I could no longer have sex, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it ever again, and I nearly wet myself because I was fearful of dating sexuals because of the expectation of sex at the end of the date, I knew something had to be done about it, because I felt I was the only one in the entire world, planet and universe that felt this. So I went to see a counsellor. But… it didn’t go well at all. She said the worse thing in the world, that I really didn’t want to hear. And that was if I wanted a relationship, I must have sex in order to keep a good guy. Something seemed very flawed about this perspective. If the guy was a good guy, why would he want me to do things that were not good for me, as part of a relationship with me! To me that made no sense. It was like giving a license for rape to happen, disguised as what a ‘good guy’ would be allowed to do, in order for me to keep him! This defied all my reasonable ‘healthy-for-me’ logic! So I went home and Google “I love kissing and not sex” and that is when I came across Asexuality.org and realised there were others like me who didn’t like sex, and who didn’t need it in a romantic relationship to be happy. And that’s when I discovered I am indeed a heteroromantic asexual, not heterosexual.

That was in 2014, when I first discovered I am Asexual. Back then, I couldn’t talk about sex publicly or about my past sexual relationships publicly. I had almost given up completely on the idea of having a relationship and dating ever again. And my past relationships weren’t great, but the opposite.

In October 2015, for Asexual Awareness Week, I decided to get out of my comfort zone, open up about past sexual relationships, and announce to the world, that I am in fact, a heteroromantic asexual! On my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel. It took me awhile to get used to speaking openly on my channel, but when I received comments from viewers, that they found my videos helpful and they were glad they found my channel, it made me happy to continue to create and upload videos and I decided to not copy other asexuality channels, just to become popular, but to share my own asexual life journey in order to help others, to empower asexuals to be comfortable and confident with their own Asexuality, and to educate others! Little did I know back then, how this channel would grow into the unique Asexuality late night chat show it is today!

In 2017, I published my first ever book for Asexuals, called Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Diversity, under my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books. Little did I know at the time, just how popular this book would be and continues to be, to this day. Helping asexuals, those who lack sexual attraction, and who are a recorded 1% of the population, to know there are others like them in the world, who don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, and to know it’s okay, you are not alone and that sex does not equal love, and it is possible to live, love, and be happy, without sex forever, in a loving, happy, and healthy relationship, be it romantic or platonic, or if you don’t ever want to be ‘in a relationship’ it’s okay! (I am currently working on my second book for asexuals which will be published in 2020, with 4 more books planned for asexuals. Each book focuses on different topics, within the asexual spectrum!)

In July 2018, I wanted to do something special for Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, so I started to live stream on my channel, every day, for 31 days. But when the 31 days was over! I got the bug for live streaming. I realised how many more asexuals I could help, rather than in private message one-on-one, if I just let anyone and everyone ask me questions directly in the live stream chat. I could offer something unique, that no other asexuality channel was offering. A way to get instant answers about asexuality, about my own life experiences, and to help other asexuals to overcome depression, like I had done in 2012; lower their anxiety, and get a better mindset and a better quality of life! Fast forward to today, and I am still live streaming daily, but now it’s evolved into being an online daily late night chat show which at its heart, is a Personal Development and Personal Growth channel for Asexuals, and the world’s first of its kind. Specialising in, Asexuality/Surviving and thriving as an asexual in this highly sexualised world, Dating/Relationships, Spirituality/Mindset, Personal Growth/Self-Love. These days, it’s not uncommon for many (not all), of my streams to last over an hour, sometimes two, and the odd occasion has even been over 3 hours long. All of that time has been spent helping asexuals for free, and allies, who also form part of my regular viewership. So on average 7-14 hours a week! My live streams most often start after 11pm UK time.

I have been learning about personal and professional development since 2012. I have also been heavily involved in the Asexual relationships and dating scene, with being on Asexual dating sites since 2014, running 3 Asexual dating Facebook groups, and learning a lot more about healthy dating and relationships dynamics since studying a pattern changing course in 2013, and subsequently learning much more in the last couple of years. I am keen to help as many asexuals as possible to develop long-lasting healthy friendships and relationships, with life, with love, with others, and with yourself. To help grow you as an individual and realise your true potential and beauty, in your own uniqueness.

I would love you to join my channel community, if you think this is something you could benefit from, please subscribe at www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife, and hit the bell icon so you get notified whenever I go live, which is usually each and every day, unless for some reason I am staying away from home and have no access to live streaming, such as over Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Year’s.

Asexual Perspectives Answers | What Advice Would You Have Given A Younger Version Of Yourself In Regard To Asexuality?

Posted on June 3, 2019June 1, 2019 by Asexualise

In my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity book I asked each person I interviewed for the book this question:

If you were to look back at your life, what advice would you have given a younger version of yourself in regard to asexuality?

In Chapter 48, on page 450 of the printed edition of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, South American Anonymous’s answer to this question is awe-inspiring:

Seriously, I would explain to myself everything I know about orientations and genders right now and I would emphasise that we are not broken, and there’s nothing wrong with being who we are, and what other people say doesn’t matter and we should have more courage to face what’s up ahead.

In Chapter 45, on page 418 of the printed edition of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Claire Evelyn’s answer is short and spot on!

That it is okay to follow your own path and not follow the masses.

In Chapter 20, on page 196 of the printed edition of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Geeske Van Der Poel’s answer is important to note:

Asexuality is not wrong, just be who you are. You Should not feel guilty for not giving your parents any grandchildren, either.

In Chapter 13, on page 121 of the printed edition of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, always remember Dee’s advice:

Don’t have any sex unless you’re confident you want it.

In Chapter 10, on page 88 of the printed edition of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Nikki has valuable advice to share:

Realize earlier that it is ok! I thought for ages that I was just slow to develop the urges and interests everyone my age had and pushed myself to be a participant in sexual culture. I would tell my younger self that I’m fine the way I am and to find the confidence to participate in our sexually charged culture in an asexual way.

If you want more fantastic advice like this, from real life asexuals across the globe, get a copy of my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book here if you live in the UK https://amzn.to/2WeBlhf or here if you live in the USA https://amzn.to/2WedNZI It is also available across many other Amazon stores and can be requested from all good book stores in print format, as it’s published using my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books, which is a registered publisher in the UK, and I use Amazon to publish and distribute the books globally for me. I also have the ebook version available at www.sellfy.com/quirkybooks.net

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Asexuality Awareness Achievements 2023 – Asexuality Global Recognition 2023 By Sandra Bellamy Asexualise

Biggest asexuality achievement in 2023 – I was on James Miller Lifeology Radio show with over 3 million listeners per episode – That’s 3 million people hearing about asexuality!