The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual – Asexual Best Selling Author Sandra Bellamy Interviewed On Sense Of Soul Podcast

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I was absolutely delighted to be featured on Shanna Vavra’s Sense of Soul Podcast, which is a spirituality podcast, talking about asexuality and my spiritual life mission regarding asexuality @senseofsoulpodcast

I was interviewed as best selling author of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book –  on Shanna Vavra’s Sense Of Soul Podcast – About The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual on ITunes here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sense-of-soul/id1468725665?i=1000630467751 

GET ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES BOOK HERE https://amzn.to/3PFIrUO

You can also listen to my interview – The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual, on Shanna Vavra’s YouTube here https://youtu.be/s1X6oN-q2J4?si=kqRloHwpkKfPSQ1U

And on my own YouTube Asexualise My Asexual Life channel here https://youtu.be/5XMtAwHT4aI?si=dtzYkn_TKjfteLxf

In this interview me and Shanna:

* Discuss my personal journey from thinking I was heterosexual for years and having sex, to discovering I’m asexual and I’ve now been sex free for years.

* Clarify what it means to be asexual, different types of asexuals – including grey asexual and pure asexual, and different types of relationships people might have if they’re asexual.

* Explore topics covered in my up and coming book: Asexual Guide To Sex book and why I chose to write this book.

* Why it’s so important to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe.

* Bust through myths of asexuality.

* And so much more….

Listen and download the episode here: on ITunes here https://lnkd.in/eRTtJ_iK

GET ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES BOOK HERE https://amzn.to/3PFIrUO

Watch an interview highlight here:

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Asexual Perspectives Book – Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month – Discover What is TRULY Means To Be Asexual

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Asexual Perspectives Book –

Unlock The Myths Of Asexuality, And Bust Through Asexual Stereotypes – Discover What is TRULY Means To Be Asexual



Hi my ACE friend 💥 Go grab a copy of Asexual Perspectives here https://amzn.to/3rBLy7R 

In the USA here https://amzn.to/3ruUko2

So what is this book about:

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book.

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

So go grab yourself a copy here https://amzn.to/3rBLy7R 

Stay beautifully ACE.

Sandra xxx

P.S. If you’ve already bought a copy of Asexual Perspectives book but not yet left a review on Amazon – please can you do so here https://amzn.to/3DjT4Hc as it will really help raise asexuality awareness and also help others to make an informed purchasing decision. 

Here are some of the reviews received so far:


Andrew 1
5.0 out of 5 stars A very helpful book for understanding asexuality
Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 7 January 2018
Verified Purchase
An essential guide to understanding the great diversity in the asexual community. 47 asexuals covering a representative cross-section of gender, age, and nationality, answer a detailed set of questions about their personal experiences and views. The author also answers the same questions herself and expands on her background. A very helpful guide for anyone wanting to understand the psychology of asexuality and to know where they fit into the asexual spectrum, and very reassuring to the reader to know that many people have had the same experiences as them.


Asten
5.0 out of 5 stars This is a great explanation of asexuality
Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 23 July 2017
Verified Purchase
This is a great explanation of asexuality. As an ace myself I would recommend it to my friends and family in an effort to understand our orientation more. I enjoyed reading Sandra’s story as well as all the other stories in the book. Really inspiring, thanks Sandra xxx


Mr John Molda
5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent read
Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 27 September 2017
Verified Purchase
A very well written book giving you an insight into the lives of various people. As an Ace, i would recommend it to anyone looking to learn about the world of asexuality.


Josie
5.0 out of 5 stars Sandra’s book is absolutely brilliant for people who are Asexual or even for their …
Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 4 February 2018
Sandra’s book is absolutely brilliant for people who are Asexual or even for their friends and family if they want to understand more about what it means and the different sexualities and romantic attractions that can come under the umbrella term of ‘A Spec’. Sandra must have spend a lot of time researching and finding people who identify differently but on the spec. The fact that she has found people of different nationalities and ethnecities gives the book a well rounded and global feel. Definitely recommend it


Amazon Customer
5.0 out of 5 stars Love the Book
Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 29 July 2017
The absolute best book on the subject for anyone looking to learn about asexuality from the worldview of real asexuals.


Yuliya
5.0 out of 5 stars Sandra is a great writer
Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on 15 March 2022
Verified Purchase
Very insightful and a wise book and I would recommend it to anybody who likes to read any type of non-fiction!


Amazon Customer
5.0 out of 5 stars 
Candid stories tell the stories in an honest and transparent fashion in every chapter and this book by far captures the spirit of what asexuality actually is better than any other book on the subject
Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on 27 July 2017
Verified Purchase
The most diverse collection of up close and personal in depth looks at real life experiences and world views of asexuals.
Candid stories tell the stories in an honest and transparent fashion in every chapter and this book by far captures the spirit of what asexuality actually is better than any other book on the subject.

You can grab yourself a copy here https://amzn.to/3rBLy7R  


What Does It Mean To Be Asexual – What Is Asexuality And The Asexual Spectrum

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Have you’ve ever wondered what does it mean to be asexual? How do I know if I’m asexual? How can I tell if I’m asexual? What is asexuality? And what is the asexual spectrum?

If the answer is yes to any of these questions, you’ve come to the right place.

Please watch this video below, which I created especially for you to explain more in-depth about what does it mean to be asexual.

This video also explains the asexual spectrum in a way which you should find easy to understand and be able to relate to in some way, including the Aro Ace spectrum within it.

To give you a starting point of what is means to be asexual and aromantic, you can read these Asexual Flag quotes below, but please watch the video above, for a more in-depth picture of what it truly means to be asexual and part of the asexual spectrum.

 

 

 

Watch the video below for the full explanation of what does it mean to be asexual and what is the asexual spectrum.

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

I Love Kissing But Not Sex – How Asexuality Transformed My Life – With Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy

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I was interviewed by Catana @TransformationalArtWithCatana  about how Asexuality completely transformed my life! “I love kissing but not sex.”

It all started in 2014, when I went to see a counsellor, because I was worried that I wanted a relationship and liked kissing and romance, but I didn’t like sex, and she told me, “I’m worried about you, because if you want a good guy, you will need to have sex to keep him.”

I was absolutely horrified!

This was the worst thing I could have been told…

I thought to myself, how can any guy be good for me, if they want me to do something to me, that I don’t want to do?
To me, that’s like giving a guy a license to rape me – and that’s not happening.

It meant she was telling me I can’t get love without sex, and that my only value and worth of being in a relationship with a “good” guy, is based on if I have sex with him or not!

Not only is this sending a very dangerous message to me and anyone who is counselled by her…
… it’s the equivalent of saying that anyone who doesn’t have sex, cannot get a “good” guy, so they can’t have a “good” relationship, and aren’t worthy of love.

So what happens to all the people who are not asexual, but who can’t have sex because their disability or special needs, makes it impossible to do that and too painful???

What happens to all the impotent people in the world who can’t have sex???

Do these people also, not deserved to be loved without sex?

Do the they just end up with “bad” guys, because having sex, somehow changes a bad guy into a good guy???

I don’t think so. If they are a bad guy, having sex with them is not going to make them good.

What a load of bullshit.

And if people measure how much they are loved in a relationship by the amount of sex they are or are not having, they are valuing their own worth on how much contact they have with another person’s genitals, which they can’t control, – so there’s no wonder there are high divorced rates, broken relationships, and people feeling unloved and worthless.

So I went back home and Googled “I love kissing but not sex” and this is what happened next…

Listen closely to this until the end, and I am sure you will see how being asexual can be the best thing you ever discover about yourself, and create so many amazing life transformations, to truly enhance and empower your asexual life xx

Becoming An Asexual Entrepreneur On Dreams ARE Real Podcast Interview

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As asexuality is a sexual orientation largely based on a lack of sexual attraction, it can be hard to make our own voice heard.

Especially as sexual stereotypes and societal conditioning tell everyone that it’s natural to like, want, and need sex, and that anyone who says otherwise must be lying or have something wrong with them.

People tend to discard what they don’t understand.

They tend to disregard what is considered as “not” normal.

And they tend to feel extremely uncomfortable when something doesn’t fit in with their ideology.

But I encourage you to always stand proud of who you are, and to stop listening to what other people say, that drowns out the sound of your own voice. 😍

Asexuals have as much right to speak out about how they think and feel, including if they don’t like, want, or need sex, and have the right to be taken seriously. 😍

Just because asexuality is a minority sexuality, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong and not normal.

It’s normal for SOME people to not like, want, need, or get the urge for, partnered sexual intercourse, ever. 😍

Don’t let anyone blind you into believing we are all the same – because we are not.

There ARE people who never want sex, and that’s okay. 😍

The only reason most people don’t speak out, is because other’s ridicule them and tell you, you can’t be who you are born to be.

I am here to show you, you can.

That your life is your own and that speaking up, in your own voice, is essential to live your own life dreams and no one else’s. Regardless of your sexuality.

That’s why I’m thrilled to be able to give a voice to the voiceless, and share my own asexual life journey of how I became known as The Asexual Entrepreneur and explain what it feels like to be asexual in this highly sexualised world, and how to live your asexual dreams and be your true authentic self, no matter what, on the Dreams ARE Real podcast.

Don’t miss this ACE episode by listening through either of the links below, now, and tell me what you think…

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-182-becoming-an-asexual-entrepreneur-with/id1480067188?i=1000558237426

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4espw93YE4SfcTYMuZjRQQ?si=893897d6b8484f03&nd=1

5 Misconceptions And Misinformation About Asexuality

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Even in the 21st century, asexuality is still not heard of by many heterosexuals, and is still deeply misunderstood.

In this post, we will discuss 5 misconceptions and misinformation about asexuality, and what the truth actually is.

Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 1:

Asexuals are people who want to be alone 😔

Whilst it is true that some asexuals like to spend time on their own, most likely because those asexuals are introverted and/or have social anxiety, other asexuals don’t like to be alone.

Saying a blanket statement that asexuals are people who want to be alone, is simply not true, asexuality is a sexual orientation. 🙄

Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 2:

Asexuals are people who have never had sex 😔

Whilst it’s true that some asexuals have never had sex and never will, this is not what makes someone asexual.

Asexuality is a sexual orientation that is based on a lack of sexual attraction, not a lack of action. 🙄

Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 3:

Asexuals are people who can’t get laid. 😔

Whilst I absolutely personally hate the term getting laid, what I hate more, is this statement implies people who are asexual are not able to get someone to have sex with them because they are unattractive. Because people associate not being able to get anyone to have sex with them (getting laid), as a sign of unattractiveness, which is utter bulls*it.

A person who is asexual, is not deemed to be so based on whether they can get someone to have sex with them or not, it’s based on if they experience little to no sexual attraction or not. Many asexuals have lots of offers of sex, but many are repulsed by the idea. Asexuals are still beautiful even if they don’t want sex. 🙄

Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 4:

Asexuals are people who abstain from sex. 😔

Whilst some asexuals abstain from sex, abstinence is not the same as asexuality. 

Those who abstain from sex, are doing so out of choice.

Asexuality is not a choice, it’s a sexual orientation. 🙄

Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 5:

Asexuals are people who are celibate. 😔

Asexuality is not the same as celibacy.

Unlike those who are choosing to be celibate and are stop themselves from having sex as they try to resist their urges for it, asexuality is not a choice, and asexuals are not people who are forcing themselves to refrain from having sex. As they don’t experience the usual sexual attraction, they don’t usually have the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse in the first place, so they are not forcing themselves to not do something, which they have no need or ‘urge’ to do. 🙄

Asexual Quotes About Love – Asexual Love Quotes – Asexual Love Awareness #aceweek

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Asexual Quotes About Love. These asexual love quotes, show you what it means to experience true asexual love, without the need for sex. Asexual Love Awareness #aceweek

Watch the Asexual Love Awareness #aceweek video above, to see more quotes about what asexual love is. Or click this link to view it https://youtu.be/cqZXpiXjJMA

 

Read more about asexual perspectives on Love, Life and Sex, in my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book here https://amzn.to/2Lk5en3

What’s good about this Asexual Perspectives book, is it doesn’t just give text book definitions of orientations across the asexual spectrum, it shows you them, through the 47 Asexual Stories answers to different questions about Love, Life, and Sex, and the personal details the interviewees share. It answers most questions you could think of about love, life, and sex, from an asexual point of view, including those you feel afraid to ask!! Get you copy here https://amzn.to/2Lk5en3 now.

 

What Is Asexuality? Asexual Awareness #aceweek

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What is asexuality? What does it mean to be asexual? What is grey asexual? What’s a pure asexual? What is the asexual spectrum?

Watch the What Is Asexuality – YouTube #shorts video above and read the asexual flags below, to find out…

 

If you are new to asexuality, or you want more help understanding the asexual spectrum, and how to navigate dating, relationships, and life, as an asexual, in a highly sexualised world, I have been helping asexual for over 6 years now on my Asexualise channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife that you can subscribe to, which will help you with many aspects about asexuality, and especially dating and relationships. I usual live stream daily and you can ask me anything you want in chat there.

If you are still discovering about asexuality and more about the asexual spectrum, I have a Free Asexuality Basics For Beginners course that you can sign up to here that also shows you what the asexual spectrum is www.asexualiseacademy.com

I also wrote a book and interviewed 46 asexuals around the globe and across the asexual spectrum for it, https://amzn.to/2Lk5en3 What is good about this book, is it does not just give text book definitions of orientations across the asexual spectrum, it shows you them, through their answers and the personal details they share. It answers most questions you could think of about love, life, and sex, from an asexual point of view, including those you feel afraid to ask!!

How Do You Know If You’re Asexual As A Teenager – 6 Signs You Might Be Asexual If You Are A Teenager

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How Do You Know If You’re Asexual As A Teenager

I’m a teenager and not sure if I’m asexual.

I am only 12 can I be asexual?

I am only 13 but feel asexual. Can I be asexual?

Can I know I am asexual if I am as a teenager?

How can I tell if `I am asexual if I am a teenager?

These are some of the questions I get asked and are searched for.

You don’t have to be an “adult” to know you are asexual or not.

Here are 6 signs you might be asexual if you are a teenager:

  1. You are not interested whatsoever in sex.
  2. You are not interested in getting involved with another person’s genitalia.
  3. You might like kissing, cuddling, holding hands, but you have no interest in going any further.
  4. People in your class are talking about being in a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend, and making a big deal about it, and you are wondering what all the fuss is about, and you really don’t get it!
  5. You might find people talking about boyfriends and girlfriends and getting off with each other, doing different sexual acts, and you’re like, “I just don’t understand.”
  6. When everyone is going on about sex, you are more interested in your projects, hobbies, and your own interests.

I hope you have enjoyed reading these 6 signs you might be asexual if you are a teenager.

Happy ACE week.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and hit the bell icon so you get notified of every time I go live or post a new video. Don’t forget to share any of the videos you see there, with your asexual friends, or with anyone you think may benefit from them. With over 6 years of asexual education, you can be sure you will learn a lot.

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

 

 

5 Less Obvious Signs You Might Be Asexual

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5 Less Obvious Signs You Might Be Asexual

  1. You experience arousal but you don’t experience sexual attraction. So in other words you get an arousal feeling in your genitalia but that still doesn’t make you think “I want sex” with anyone.
  2. You have a sex drive, but it isn’t aimed at anyone.
  3. You like naked bodies but the idea of inserting your genitalia into someone else’s, or vice versa, doesn’t appeal to you.
  4. You have sexual fantasies but you don’t want to act on them in real life.
  5. You watch porn but you have no inclination to participate in sex itself.

3 Other Less Obvious Signs You Might Be Asexual – If You’re Having Sex

  1. You enjoy the physical sensations of sex when you have it, but you could easily live without it, and it’s not something you actively pursue.
  2. You will participate in sex, but you you never instigate it, as you are not bothered about doing it.
  3. You feel a disconnect when having sex, like you are just through the motions and would rather be doing other things.

I hope you have enjoyed learning about these 5 Less Obvious Signs You Might Be Asexual and 3 Other Less Obvious Signs You Might Be Asexual. Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and hit the bell icon so you get notified of every time I go live or post a new video.

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx