Asexuality – Asexualise My Asexual Life Re-defining SEX – Asexual Perspective – So You Think You Know Sex?

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So you think you know the definition of SEX? Think again… In this new series of re-defining SEX, Kirsty, who is a lesbian, is interviewing a wide range of people about what they think about sex and how they define it. And it’s not what you think! I was absolutely thrilled she asked me to take part in this series and asked me how I defined sex as an asexual. I can’t wait for my Asexuality interview to be premiered on her channel, this Sunday, 13th of September, 2020, at 9am (GMT+1). So set your alarm now, and be sure to show up!

Highlights include:

02:05– Looking at some of the main sub categories within the Asexuality spectrum

3:55– Sandra’s Asexual Coming Out Story

5:37– What is the sex experience like for someone who is asexual?

6:33– What does a healthy, happy relationship look like to you?

7:25– What is the difference between arousal and sexual attraction?

10:45– Changing the current definition of sex

13:00– Looking at Sandra’s book

The premiere is about 15 minutes long, but the podcast version on the Redefining Sex podcast on Spotify will be the full interview and is about 40 minutes long.

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

Asexual Meetup Mastery And How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup #asexual #courses #meetups

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Hi my ACE friend, 

Asexual Meetup Mastery is THE complete step-by-step system, that I have especially created for any asexual who wants to organise their own asexual meetups, but who doesn’t have a clue where to start, or they tried before and failed miserably. Because they didn’t have the right tools, strategies and resources, to make organising and hosting their own asexual meetups, a piece of cake.

It took me 6 months to create this Asexual Meetup Mastery course, and is everything you need to know about how to organise and hold your own asexual meetups, and ensure they’re super successful, even if you’ve never held a meetup in your life, or you’ve tried before and failed. https://checkout.invanto.com/checkout/course/order/56561/11253

I see so many potential amazingly good asexual meetup organisers, who post about a meetup, and they get no responses, and this breaks my heart… Because I can see where they are going wrong right away. But it’s not enough to just say to them, you are doing this bit wrong, because unless they have a complete system in place, that shows them exactly how to arrange asexual meetups, and what to say and do, every step of the way, in a step-by-step strategic manner, they still won’t get the results they want, and fail. They need to follow the complete system I teach in Asexual Meetup Mastery, step-by-step. From what they say in their initial post, to what they say in private messages to people, through to how they need to approach asexuals differently on different platforms. As every platform where asexuals spend their time, speaks a different language. And the way you approach someone who has autism, in private message for example, is a different way, to how you would approach the general asexual population in a group, or forum. These all require slightly different methods.

Asexual Meetup Mastery walks you though exactly how to promote your meetups on 5+ platforms, to get asexuals to attend your meetups. It shows you how to get asexuals from places like Facebook groups, Asexualitic, and it also shows you how to get them through Meetup.com and how to set up a profile there.

As meetups are predominantly used for socialising with other asexuals, and it’s called social media for a reason – you need to use it to socialise with other asexuals, and get them to know, like and trust you, enough to come to an asexual meetup. This course is not suitable for you, if you are someone who hates using any forms social media. But if you just don’t like one social media platform, there are others to choose from. However, the more places you advertise your meetups, the more likely you are to achieve getting more people to come to your asexual meetups. So your success, largely depends on you. If you are not prepared to put the time, energy, or effort in, that it takes to organise, co-ordinate, and host an asexual meetup, this course wouldn’t be for you. It takes time, patience, understanding, persistence and dedication, to pull off hosting asexual meetups and expand them.

But if you are someone who is prepared to do whatever it takes to meet other asexuals, either face-to-face or online, then Asexual Meetup Mastery is the perfect solution, of showing you exactly how to do that! Step-by-step – every step of the way.

You may need to get out of your comfort zone. Nothing different comes from staying within it. If you are naturally introverted, you need to think of being an asexual meetup organiser, as a facilitator. You are bringing people of your own kind together, to have more close connection with each other, to not feel so lonely, left-out, or isolated. You are giving them a lifeline, when many others don’t, and that lifeline may just be what they need, to stop them feeling left-out, lonely and in emotional pain. To stop their suicidal thoughts, because they know someone gives a s–t about them, and cares for them.

Asexual meetups mean so much to me, without them, I would still be feeling all alone, even though asexuals are available to message online, it’s not the same as interacting with them face-to-face. I wanted to meet asexuals in real-life, that would solidify asexuality for me, in real-world experiences, offline. I wanted a deeper connection. I meet my two best friends through them, and other friends too.

2 things change your life:

  1. Either something new comes into your life, to change it in someway, that could be good or bad. That change happens to you, whether you like it or not…
  2. Something new comes from within you. You change you, you change your circumstances, you change your life. You realise no one else is going to do this for you, and it’s better to change your life for yourself, than have change plonked upon you.

So I would encourage you to get Asexual Meetup Mastery. Rather than look back on your life, at the end of it, with regrets, at what you didn’t do.

When you get this course, you make a one-time only investment payment, and have my ongoing support for life. Anytime you are taking the course, you can message me.

Once you have these skills, you have them for life, and can adapt them for any meetup you want.

My best friend Sam bought the course, and you can see Sam’s video testimonial about my asexual meetups, from the UK Asexuality Conference, in the video below, or here https://youtu.be/N12zEfxSmfM

When Sam first got the course, they were messaging me how to do this and that. I kept replying… it’s in the course… That’s in the course too… Yes, I go through that in the course as well… Everything you need is in the course. They realised when going through the course, they can use the information in this course, to organise asexual meetups, and other meetups too. Such as mental health support. Which is something they are very passionate about.

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These also include, my 30 DAY ACE Satisfaction Guarantee, or your money back. So you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

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There’s 20 parts to ASEXUAL MEETUP MASTERY. With 107 lessons in total. Which includes 79 videos in the main course, and 1 video in Bonus Part 18. As well as 15 videos in MEGA BONUS Part 20, as explained above. Making a total of 95 videos. It also includes 6 downloadable handouts in the main course, 1 download in Bonus Part 18, and 1 download in Bonus Part 19. And 4 downloads in MEGA BONUS Part 20, as explained above. Making 12 downloadable handouts in total.

Here’s a reminder of everything you are getting with Asexual Meetup Mastery right now –

When You Order Asexual Meetup Mastery Video Training Course, Here’s Exactly What You’ll Get Right Now!

PART 1 – Welcome – About Asexual Meetup Mastery Course

 Revealed to you… the one that can make all the difference!

PART 2 – How To Be A Master Without Disaster

 Unlock the magical ingredients you need to succeed, at organising and hosting your own asexual meetups.

 Discover the 4 keys to thrive and flourish as an asexual meetup organiser.

 Uncover the two key factors, that make or break your asexual meetup success.

 Discover the Fantastic 5 places you can find asexual attendees for your meetup. So you aren’t left hanging at the bar all alone, watching the clock tick by, thinking WTF is everyone?

PART 3 – Asexual Meetups And Your 5 Ways To Wellbeing

 Uncover your 5 ways to wellbeing.

 Discover how asexual meetups improve each of these 5 aspects of your life. Both for you and your attendees.

 Revealed… the confidence competence loop. How you can use it to get ahead, in your meetups and your life. And reduce any anxiety you may be feeling.

 Uncover the things you must take notice of, if you want to make sure your meetups are super successful.

 Discover the power of giving. And what it can do for you and your attendees.

PART 4 – Essential Qualities You Need As An Organiser And How To Get Started

 Revealed, the must know dos and don’t of asexual meetup mastery.

 Discover the best times and days, for your asexual meetups. To ensure people show up and want to be there.

 Uncover major date blunders, which could spell disaster for your meetups.

 Discover different types of meetups to hold and to avoid. The good, and the horrifying! Save yourself pain and time, with these ideas.

 Uncover the major differences between national and local meetups.

 Revealed… how to go that extra mile to ensure people show up and want to be at your meetup.

 Discover how to create a safe environment for those with anxiety. To prevent them from panicking, so they feel happy to come to your meetups, instead of dreading them.

PART 5 – Examples Of Previous Asexual Meetups And Things You Need To Know

 Revealed… the one embarrassing mistake to avoid, which could ruin your entire meetup..

 Uncover what you need to know about ‘different’ meetups.

 Revealed… which are the most popular types of meetups for asexuals.

 Uncover how to cater for introverts who attend your meetups.

 Learn how to cater for those with health conditions such as CFS, (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.)

 Discover how your attendees can get cheap train tickets and accommodation, to encourage them to attend.

 Learn how to cater for special dietary requirements to be fully inclusive.

PART 6 – How To Gain Commitment To Ensure People Show Up

 Revealed… the #1 thing you need to check, before you invite people to attend your meetup. Get this wrong, and it could spell disaster.

 Revealed… the #1 mistake other meetup organisers are making, which encourages non-commitment. If people aren’t showing up to your meetups, this is why!

 Discover the one thing you must always do, to ensure you gain commitment, and people show up to your meetups!

 Learn how to be inclusive when arranging your meetups.

PART 7 – How To Organise An Asexual Meetup – Asexual Meetup Walk Through In Real Time

 Uncover multiple must know mistakes to avoid when choosing the day, date and time for your meetup. This important information, is the difference between people showing up and enjoying themselves, or no one showing up at all.

 Discover why it’s important to book the venue in advance, and the problems of not doing so.

 Watch me book the venue for a real life meetup, in real time, to see how it’s done the right way.

 Learn how to create your ideal meetup script using a real life example, in real time.

 Discover meetup script tops tips for success, and a small detail to pay attention to, that can make all the difference. Miss this small detail out, and you could end up with asexuals going to the wrong venue and being extremely angry with you.

 Watch me uncover your ideal asexual meetup script checklist for success. And two embarrassing mistakes to avoid.

 Learn how to pre-empt objections, to solve problems BEFORE they even become one.

 Get my full Asexual Meetup Script Checklist With Template PDF download.

 Learn how to instill confidence, to make your potential attendees far more likely to attend.

PART 8 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Facebook – Pages And Groups

 Learn best practices, for how to post about your asexual meetup on your personal Facebook profile.

 Explore asexual meetup groups, and best practice for preparing to create your own.

 Discover 3 ways how to create a Facebook Group for your meetup, and things you need to know to make it a success.

 Uncover the important features of a Facebook Group and how to best manage it.

 Get done for you, questions for asexual group admittance. This is a download for you to use, to help you avoid an unwanted guest.

 Learn how to promote your asexual meetup, the right way in your Facebook Group/s.

 Learn how to create a Get-Together in your group/s, for your meetup.

 Get Asexualise Academy editable WORD template download, for posting about your meetup to your Facebook profile, Facebook Groups and Pages, site groups and forums. Delete and amend as appropriate. It’s that simple.

 Discover how to create a Facebook page for your meetup.

 Learn how to sell tickets for your meetup, free or paid. If you want to.

 Discover important things you need to know about posting your meetup to a Facebook page, to avoid an unwanted guest.

 Learn how to create an event for your meetup, on your Facebook page.

 Revealed… an example of what a good asexual meetup facebook Page looks like, so you can learn what works.

 Discover how to ensure your meetup post gets noticed.

PART 9 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Asexualitic And Get People To Attend

 Learn about Asexualitic. And important things you need to know about the site, as a meetup organiser.

 Explore an asexual meetup group and what to do to gain commitment.

 Discover how to create a group for your meetup on Asexualitic, and a word of warning.

 Uncover an example of a good meetup group description.

 Learn how to add a post to a group forum.

 Discover how to private message forum group members, and exactly what to say, to encourage them to attend.

 Get Asexual Meetup Mastery Editable WORD Templates For Asexualitic Private Messaging. Done for you download.

 Exploring Asexualitic profiles, and important things you need to know about them.

 Discover how to find members in your local area or country, to message to come to your meetups.

 Learn how to best promote your meetup on your Asexualitic profile, without full membership.

PART 10 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Twitter And Get More People To Attend

 Learn how to promote your meetup on Twitter. And important things you need to know.

 Get Asexual Meetup Mastery Editable Word Template For Twitter. Done for you, download.

PART 11 – How To Maintain Commitment From Attendees

 Learn the right way to follow up with asexual meetup attendees before the meetup, to ensure they still attend.

 Get Asexual Meetup Mastery Editable WORD Template Facebook Messenger Follow Up Script. Done for you, download.

PART 12 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Ace-book And Get People To Attend

 Explore features of an Ace-book profile.

 Learn how to create a blog post for your meetup.

 Learn how to create an Event for your meetup on Ace-book, and mistakes to avoid.

 Learn how to create a new topic in a forum on Ace-book, for your meetup.

 Discover the best way to message strangers on Ace-book to get them to attend your meetup.

 Get Asexual Meetup Mastery Editable WORD Template Script For Ace-book. Done for you, download.

 Uncover the power of messaging someone who wants to attend your meetup, and how to avoid spamming.

PART 13 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Asexuality.org (AVEN) And Get People To Attend

 Learn how to promote your meetup on AVEN for maximum impact.

 Discover how to check existing meetup threads for meetups already in your area, so you avoid holding yours at the same time.

 Explore further, how my first asexual meetup happened. So you can learn what to do and not to do.

 Discover what problems you can encounter when organising asexual meetups, so you know how to deal with them.

 Learn how to reply to posts on AVEN.

 Discover how to start a new forum topic for your meetup.

 Learn how to post your meetup on your personal profile for maximum exposure.

 Discover how to private message people on AVEN. And be proactive, for maximum attendance.

PART 14 – How To Promote Your Meetup on Meetup(.com) And Get People To Attend

 Explore the purpose of Meetup website, and a message of caution.

 Learn how to create an account on Meetup and important things you need to know.

 Discover how to create a profile on Meetup to best utilise its helpful features, for maximum meetup exposure.

 Explore the benefits of Meetup Pro and how it can benefit you and your meetups.

 Learn how to best manage your account, email updates, settings, and notifications. So you can keep track of all Meetup activity relevant to you and your meetups.

 Discover how to join existing asexual meetup groups and related groups. For your own personal benefit, and the benefit of your own meetups.

 Explore a different type of meetup group, as an example of an enticing group description. So you can get ideas for your own meetup, to encourage more people to attend.

 Explore an example of a good welcome message, which is especially encouraging to those who have anxiety or special needs. So you can be inclusive.

 Learn how to start your own meetup group on Meetup website, and important things you must know before you get started.

 Explore features of an existing asexual meetup group. So you can learn from the things they are doing right.

 Discover how to best use those features for your own meetup, with more ideas of the types of meetups you can hold.

 Learn how to get suggestions for future meetups, and how to best accommodate different needs.

 Uncover how to get group reviews and encourage attendance.

 Explore meetups for asexuals only, Vs including non-asexuals, so you can make an informed decision whether to include non-asexuals at your meetups, or not.

 Uncover a mistake to avoid, to stop missing out.

PART 15 – How To Promote Your Meetup On ACEapp And Get People To Attend

 Learn the purpose of ACEapp, and how to create the best profile.

 Discover how to find asexuals for your meetup and apply filters.

 Revealed… how to recognise and avoid, scammers and fakes. With a real life example.

 Uncover what other meetup organisers are getting wrong about national Vs local meetups, and what you need to do about it, to gain maximum attendance. If you don’t know what’s wrong, you won’t do what’s right.

 Discover the best techniques for approaching someone on ACEapp to encourage them to attend.

 Revealed… the best way to reply to someone who is autistic, and get them to attend. Using a real life example.

 Discover how and why, it’s important to be a pro organiser Vs passive organiser. And what this means for you.

PART 16 – How To Grow Your Asexual Meetup

 Revealed… how to find different places to go and things to do at your asexual meetups.

 Explore asexual merchandise for your meetups.

PART 17 – Next Steps

 Discover what you should do next, if you want to thrive and flourish as a pro meetup organiser.

PART 18 – BONUS UK Asexuality Conference 2018 – How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup Talk And Notes

 This video is a recording of my 49-minute talk, at the UK Asexuality Conference in London, July 2018. Which explains the what, when, where, how and why, for organising a successful asexual meetup, which ensures people show up!

 How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup, UK Asexuality Conference notes. The foundational roadmap for your meetup success, which makes organising and hosting your meetups, a piece of cake! (These notes were not available as a handout at the Conference; they are exclusive to those who take this course.)

PART 19 – BONUS 156 Places To Go And Things To Do At Asexual Meetups

 Get 156 Ideas For What To Do And Where To Go For Asexual Meetups, And How To Make It A Success. Never be stuck for ideas for asexual meetups ever again, with this done for you, PDF download.

PART 20 – MEGA BONUS

 How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup, The Entire Course FREE, Only With Asexual Meetup Mastery.

What You Need To Know About What You’re Getting Right Now, With This FREE MEGA BONUS

How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup

The Only Online Asexual Meetup Course With A Proven 7 Steps Success Blueprint Which Can Be Used For Both Online And In Person Asexual Meetups

PART 1 – 3 Success Indicators You Need To Know To Be Super Successful

 Revealed to you… the 3 Success Indicators. Set yourself up for success from the start. Take the guesswork out of your success with these 3 must know Success Indicators.

PART 2 – Secret 7 Steps Formula For Online Asexual Meetup Success

 Unlock the secret 7 Steps Of Success. These simple steps make arranging and holding asexual meetups, hassle free, and as easy as 1,2,3,4,5,6,7. They may be simple, but not obvious.

 Discover the one question you need to ask yourself and focus on first, before you even start arranging your own asexual meetup. Miss this one question out, and it could spell disaster!

 Uncover must know mistakes, before you arrange your own asexual online meetup. These can be the difference between your success and failure.

 Discover the 3 main reasons why people hold asexual meetups, and explore which option is best for you.

 Discover the 3 main methods used to facilitate your online meetup, and identify which one’s best for you.

 Revealed to you… the 3 simple steps to structure your meetup to ensure it’s successful. Without a plan, you won’t reach your destination.

 Revealed… the one thing most people are not doing to gain commitment. Miss this one thing out, and it’s like betting on a horse you’ve never seen race.

 Discover the 3 powerful things you need to say to persuade people to show up. This is how you guarantee commitment and reduce your anxiety.

 What things to include in your online meetup description to ensure your online meetup runs smoothly and it’s super successful. Learn from my mistakes, to save you the embarrassment.

 Done for you, editable meetup description template download. Saving you time working it out on your own.

PART 3 – How To Promote Your Online Asexual Meetup To Ensure People Show Up Including Success Scripts

 Discover multiple ways to promote your online asexual meetup and identify which are best for you.

 Uncover a major mistake to avoid when promoting your asexual meetup. So you avoid an unwanted guest.

 What exact words to use, to persuade people to come to your meetup. Without scaring them away.

 Done for you, editable download script template to encourage attendance. Saving you time working it out on your own.

 Revealed… The little known secret to getting you maximum visibility for your meetup on Asexualitic. Use this powerful technique to gain maximum exposure.

PART 4 – Creating A Skype Group For Your Online Meetup For Zero Cost And Maximum Impact

 Look over my shoulder at exactly how to set up and use a Skype group for your online meetup success. For zero cost and maximum impact.

 Discover the two ways people can join the group.

 Discover important things to say to your attendees, so they are not left speechless and in the dark.

 Revealed… the one embarrassing mistake to avoid, which could ruin your entire meetup.

PART 5 – Success For Life – Secret 7 Steps Of Success Blueprint

 Summarising the 7 Steps Of Success you’ve learnt, for life. These can also be used for an in person meetup, over and over again.

 7 Steps Of Success Blueprint download. Includes the 3 Success Indicators. Takes the guesswork out of any meetup you want to arrange. Keep these handy to ensure any meetup you organise and hold, is super successful.

What Else You Need To Know About What You’re Getting With This MEGA BONUS Right Now

♠ There’s 19 lessons. Which include 15 videos. And 4 downloadable handouts, which are just amazing, as they’re editable scripts. You’ll get my 7 Steps Of Success Blueprint, plus my 3 Success Indicators.

♠ You’ll learn how to promote your online asexual meetup and where to promote it. Including a really, really top tip, which most people don’t know. This top tip will show you how to promote your meetup and get hundreds of eyeballs on it, on a specific site.

♠ The downloads are easily downloadable at the click of a button. So you can print them off. But if privacy’s an issue I go through everything on the screen. So you can take your own notes and hand write your own scripts out, based on what I’m saying in the videos. Without even using the handouts. So everything that you need to know is in the videos.

♠ You’ll be learning an easy to understand step-by-step formula. And you’ll be able to look over my shoulder at how I arrange online asexual meetups for success.

♠ Many of the videos have important written reminders right underneath them. For your ease of understanding of key concepts, for how to make your own online asexual meetups, super successful.

♠ All you need to do is watch the videos as I hand hold you every step of the way, to your online meetup success. Just read the notes beneath the videos. Be able to copy and paste. It’s that simple.

What Else You Need To Know About What You’re Getting With Asexual Meetup Mastery Right Now

♠ You’re going to be learning from a successful and professional asexual meetup organiser. That’s been organising and hosting asexual meetups for over 5 years. That’s me. And asexuals return to my meetups time and time again. So I’m obviously doing something right.

♠ Asexual Meetup Mastery, which currently includes How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup course, as a MEGA BONUS, is a video training course, which you get to view in your own private members area on secure Amazon servers, so you can have complete peace of mind.

♠ Asexual Meetup Mastery is not based on theory, but uses a real life meetup example; my bestest friend Sam’s birthday meetup. This is what makes this course so special and unique. And super powerful in enabling you to take the right actions, and avoid the painful mistakes I have made along the way in arranging and holding my own asexual meetups, for the past 5 years.

♠ You get to look over my shoulder as I arrange their birthday meetup, in real time, step-by-step. So you can see exactly what works and what doesn’t. As I hold your hand every step of the way to your own asexual meetup success.

♠ Upon purchase, you get instant access to this course, and its 3 bonuses, for life. 365 days a year. 24/7.

♠ Any future updates for this particular Asexual Meetup Mastery course and its current bonuses, will be free, for you.

♠ Learn from the comfort of your own home, or wherever you can access the site, in your own time, making it really convenient for you.

♠ It’s a one-time investment payment, with access for life. No monthly fees. No yearly fees. Once you have these skills, you have them for life. So you can just continue to do more and more meetups, and be super successful.

♠ Email or chat support. Whilever you are taking the Asexual Meetup Mastery course, you can email me asexualise@gmail.com or message me in the chat bubble, about anything to do with this specific course, and any of its bonuses.

(Right now, if you get this Asexual Meetup Mastery course, you can ask me any questions associated with both in person and online asexual meetups, because when order Asexual Meetup Mastery 👉 you get, How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup course right now, as a FREE MEGA BONUS! 💜😍😍💜 Order here  – https://checkout.invanto.com/checkout/course/order/56561/11253  

As Always, stay Ace
Sandra xx

P.S. If you have any questions about these courses, just email me asexualise@gmail.com – I am only ever, an email away.

7 Steps How To Get Started With Asexual Dating A Step-By-Step Guide

Posted on by Asexualise

Some asexuals have never dated before in their life, or are inexperienced at it. If that sounds like you, or you just want some help with asexual dating, read on…

7 Steps How To Get Started With Asexual Dating

 

  1. Join Facebook dating groups for asexuals. Be aware that although my asexual dating groups should have only asexuals in them, some other asexual admins, aren’t so strict with who they allow in their groups, and you might find some sexuals in them, so use careful questioning to determine if they are asexual and if they would be suitable for you, when you get someone approach you, or when you message someone from those groups. Post a post introducing yourself and keep posting every so often as new members are added. Remember to say where you live, what type of asexual you are, what type of relationship you are looking for, and with what gender – including any and all. Whether you are a mover or non-mover – In other words can you move or not? And say a bit about your hobbies and interests, so someone has got something to talk to you about if they approach you. For example, I am Sandra, I live in the UK, I am a heteroromantic asexual, a non-mover, so need to find someone who would move to live near me. I am a heteroromantic asexual and I live in the UK, I am looking for a highly romantic, lots of kissing, with no sex ever relationship, with an asexual guy. I am a non-mover. I don’t want marriage or kids, and I prefer to live on my own, but would love the right asexual guy to move to live near me, but not with me. I have a preference for younger foreign guys, in their 20s, especially Indian. I love writing, going to the cinema, out for meals, to theme parks, zoos, and aquariums. Must be a non-smoker, and preferably clean shaven. 
  2. Join Asexualitic.com fill out your bio on your profile as full as possible. You can copy and paste what you posted in the Facebook dating groups, into your profile on this site. Add more as you feel necessary. The more information the better. Check out the group forums as they can often be more active that the rest of the site. Search “Members”, as well as searching in the various groups and forum threads, for suitable matches for you. Remember it’s a yearly fee if you want private message people on this site. If you don’t want to pay for the site, then in your bio add “I am not a paying member of this site, so cannot private message, if I have friend requested you that’s means I am interested in getting to know you more, so please email me at… or you can also contact me on Facebook at…” Then ensure you send a friend request to those you are interested in getting to know more about, for a potential relationship. Remember, there will likely be some people who aren’t really asexual on this site. I have come across a few.
  3. Join ace-book.net fill out your bio on your profile as full as possible. You can copy and paste what you posted in the Facebook dating groups, into your profile on this site. Add more as you feel necessary. The more information the better. Check “Matches” and “Local Matches” to find suitable matches for you. Take part in the forums, as you never know, you might meet someone suitable for you in those. Remember, there will likely be some people who aren’t really asexual on this site. I have come across a few.
  4. Download aceAPP for your Android or Apple phone. Fill out your bio as much as possible, in the short amount of characters allowed, with all the key point deal breakers for you, such as; no sex, no kids, UK only. Use “Bake Cake” to swipe through suitable matches, change the “filters” as appropriate, to narrow or widen the geographical area you would consider having people match with you within, and also try the “Active Now” feature, to find suitable matches for you. Be aware there are a number of people on this App who are fake, and as well not asexual. Watch the video below to find out more what to look out for. I still think it’s worth joining as I have met two genuine asexuals from that app, who attended my in person asexual meetups.
  5. Be proactive, not reactive. Approach people in; the Facebook Asexual dating groups you have joined, on asexualitic.com on ace-book.net and on aceAPP. Don’t wait to get a message from others, you message them, and understand that rejection both by yourself and by others towards you, is a natural part of dating and nothing personal. It means you can rule that person out and get closer to getting the right person for you. So it’s a good thing, not a bad thing.
  6. Go through the “members” list for each Facebook dating group you are in, and click through the profiles of those who interest you and send a private message to begin a conversation with them – providing there are no group rules specifying otherwise. I encourage private messaging in my dating groups. Politely say you are not interested, if someone messages you, and you aren’t. Just say something like, thanks but you aren’t my type, or you aren’t what I am looking for, but good luck with your search. If you are sending them a message, and you are not friends with them, your message will likely land in their “other” messages inbox. So if you don’t get a reply within 2 days, and you notice they haven’t seen your message, send them a friend request, as if you become friends with them, they will be able to see your messages. You can always unfriend them if they accept and you find out they aren’t even suitable to be friends with you.
  7. If you have been messaging with someone for a while and it’s going well and you think you might be suitable for a potential relationship, have a Skype date/Video date with them. This is the next step. Always do this before meeting up with them in person. If the person refuses to do this or make excuses so they can’t do it for some reason, move on. It’s not worth risking your safety over. It’s a lot easier to find genuine and serious  people, if you ask to video chat, they should be happy to. It shouldn’t be too much trouble to learn how to video chat, or learn together. Skype dating/Video dating, as opposed to a chat with a friend on video, is all about asking questions to find out if they are suitable for you to be in relationship with them. You should be asking the tough questions very early on, the deal breakers, so you have the least amount of attachment to them, so it doesn’t matter if either of you need to move on and you don’t waste each other’s time. Ask specific questions but make them general. So if for example, you are an asexual who wants kids, ask that person what their view on having kids is, despite being asexual. Don’t ask, I want a kid, do you want one with me. That will likely either frighten them off, or they might say yes, just to be polite, or because they are telling you what they think you want to hear. And neither of those is good for you. If they say they want kids, ask them, would that be by natural means or other? Again, this is a very specific question, but you are asking it in a non-pressurising way. Ask what they think of marriage, not would you want to marry me, when you barely know each other, and be aware of anyone who talks about getting married early on, as it could mean they want marriage for a visa. Ask where they see themselves in 5 years time; in terms of where they will live, what job they will have, what their ideal relationship will look like. This way you can compare your needs, wants, goals, ambitions and dreams, for the future, with theirs, in your mind, to determine if there is any likelihood this person may be suitable for you for a long-term relationship. After the Skype date/Video date, you can decide if you would like to do it agin or not. And if they are bad for you, you can say to them part way through or early on, that you aren’t compatible, but thank them for their time, or not as the case might be, and you can end the conversation there and then.

Above all, look at asexual dating, as a journey of discovery, and not something to be scared of. It should be as enjoyable as possible.

Share this post now, with anyone who needs help with asexual dating. 

As always, stay ace.

Sandra xx

P.S. If you want to watch the full length video of these 7 Steps How To Get Started With Asexual Dating, filmed as a Live Stream, you can see it here:

10 Ways How To Stop Feeling Lonely At Christmas

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How To Stop Being Lonely At Christmas

Christmas can be a lonely time for many asexuals, especially if all your friends are partnered with other people, are seeing their families, and if you feel you don’t quite fit into your own family dynamic or have the Christmas spirit within you.

First of all, you don’t have to be religious to celebrate Christmas, you can just love celebrating life and the fact you are living. You can make Christmas you very own special time, to just enjoy the festive break and make it a happy occasion for you.

Here are 10 Ways How To Stop Feeling Lonely At Christmas!

  1. Fill your day with things you love to do, whether that is going for a walk, watching your favourite movies one after the other, or reading a book. Christmas time is a chance to make time to do what you love and to make yourself feel great about being you and your life.
  2. Go out on a self-date to a local restaurant or pub, many are open for the Christmas period, as it tends to be their busiest time. You don’t have to drink alcohol to have a great time.
  3. Treat yourself to something nice, whether that is your favourite chocolate bar, your favourite perfume, or a bubble bath. Spoil yourself.
  4. Connect with others on social media, by phone, video chat or text. Especially with others who are on their own and also may be feeling lonely. Post on social media, such as on Facebook, and especially in asexual groups, asking if anyone else would like to message, phone, or video chat with you. There’s bound to be someone who feels the same way as you.
  5. Change your state to one of happy, positive and upbeat, so you are enjoying yourself and having fun, rather than focusing on being alone. Play your favourite video games that make you feel great, dance around your home to your favourite tracks, watch motivational and inspirational videos on YouTube. (Also comment on YouTube videos and have comment chats with other YouTubers by replying to their comments!)
  6. Use this time for learning. Watch educational videos that teach you a new life skill, or take an online course, so you keep your mind occupied and off the feeling of being lonely.
  7. Go and visit a friend, relative, or go and see someone else, such as an elderly person, who is also on their own at Christmas and make their Christmas feel special.
  8. Look for meetup groups on https://www.meetup.com that meet up on Christmas Day, Boxing Day – they do have some, and be prepared to travel to them to be around other people.
  9. Book a trip away. Being in different surroundings, can be invigorating and re-energising – Making you feel great!
  10. Do something productive. Write that book you have always been wanting to write. Write in your journal. Write your goals for next year with a plan of how to achieve each one. Write that blog post you have always been wanting to write but not had the time for – or start a blog for free, if you haven’t already at www.wordpress.com Then look for other blog posts in your ‘Reader’ feature, allow other people to follow you, and follow other bloggers and comment on their posts and on other people’s comments, to make blogging friends, so you always have someone to chat to online.

I hope you have enjoyed reading this article about 10 Ways How To Stop Feeling Lonely At Christmas, if you have, give it some like love. If you have any other ideas, please share them below.

Wishing you a fabulous and very Happy Christmas.

Lots off acey love

Sandra xxxxxxxx

 

Summits Up – Asexuality – My Heroic Life Journey

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FLY AUTHENTICITY SUMMIT

Today’s the day! Day 4 sharing my own heroic life story.

I’m thrilled to be one of the 78 experts speaking at the Authenticity Global Online Summit, with Freestyle Your Life (FLY)! Over the course of the summit, you discover how to break free from your past, heal your wounds, and live as authentic you, (in all your asexual glory). Something I know many asexuals struggle with. This 7 day event is absolutely free to attend, and videos will be able to be viewed for 24 hours only, with the opportunity to purchase all talks on video and audio.

I am friends with the event organiser and host, and her own story of her battle with cancer and how she overcame it, by discovering how to be her true authentic self, and live life on her own terms, is truly inspirational and exceptional, she literally lives and breathes what she teaches. I know if anyone can help you to be your true authentic quirky self, she can.

Are Your Thoughts….?

  • …I could have done better in life
  • …I have to be popular with everyone
  • …I have to meet the expectations of others
  • …I don’t live as I thought I was going to
  • …I still regret what happened in the past
  • …I’m worried about my future
  • …I feel I’m not enough

If you answered yes to any of these questions, the FLY – Freestyle Your Life Authenticity Week Online Summit 2019, from 9th-15th of Dec, is for you! The FLY Authenticity Week Online Summit 2019 🎬 is revealing the best tips and strategies of the most amazing experts on authenticity and self-realisation and I am thrilled to be part of it – I am sharing my personal Asexuality story on day 4, which is the 12th of December, make sure that date is in your diary! Nobody should be ruling your life, but YOU ❣ On the FLY – Summit, you’ll learn how to break free from limiting beliefs, past conditioning which no longer serves you, and to heal emotional wounds; and how to implement it all in your life, and in your business if you have one! 🍀

Here’s what you’ll learn:

  • ❣Learn how to break free from whatever sucks in your life
  • Learn how to discover your WHY and live your purpose
  • Learn to become conscious and find your authentic self
  • Learn how to liberate from the curse of being not enough
  • Learn how to stop living your past life over and over again
  • Learn how to turn sacrifice into self-LOVE
  • Learn how to stop self-sabotaging thoughts & behaviour once and for all!
  • Learn how to thrive vs. just survive, and live funny and prosper
  • ❣Learn how to reduce stress and heal your emotional wounds
  • ❣Learn how to restyle your life on your own authentic terms
  • ❣Learn how to transform and turn your dream into a reality
  • ❣Learn how to tap into your genius; to thrive personally and as an entrepreneur
  • ❣Learn how to find your voice and grow and monetise your business
  • ❣Learn how to put yourself into the driver’s seat and live your purpose

And so much more!

This is the first international conference worldwide of its type, featuring 78 authentic and awesome experts and speakers, sharing their immense wisdom and best tips to guide you to becoming authentically YOU. I am so proud to be part of it, especially as I am talking about asexuality to a global audience. Don’t miss this life-changing event for free, it will be well worth your time! You can view the summit by signing up at https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2 to receive the email for each day’s event. You get a complete ‘Authenticity Training Blueprint‘ you can follow to break free from whatever sucks at the Status Quo, so you can finally evolve in your life. When you implement the wisdom shared by 78 amazingly authentic and highly inspirational experts & speakers, you can rise and show up as the authentic being you were always born to be; owning who you truly are 🎬🔝. This is not just an interview series, but all interviews and days are built upon each other and are a summarised representation of pure wisdom and mentorship of 78 experts to transform you into the authentic self 🍀. Freestyle-Your-Life is a way of living life on your own authentic terms after pressing Reset and getting rid of all that sucks in your life, so you can truly be the quirky you, you were always born to be, with all your quirky individuality! 😎 I highly recommending attending this event, and you don’t have much time left to register before the even starts on the 9th of December, so sign up here now https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2

If you can’t make all the sessions, no problem, you won’t be able to see the event for that day, after 24 hours has passed, but you can view the next one within 24 hours of it going live. Personally, I would turn off the TV and refrain from playing video games for a week, and spend that time watching the summit, because you will learn so much more about life and business to develop and grow yourself to be the best version of you, and that’s more important. You can do those another time, but this is just for 7 days only and I would hate you to miss out on this opportunity. Personal and professional development, helped to free me of depression which I had since a kid, so I always can’t recommend it enough. I know the event organiser has put so much time, energy, and effort into the summit, to help you to become your true authentic self and really wants to make a change in thousands of live. If you want to see the summit but you can’t do that for whatever reason – especially with work, you can also purchase the recordings to the entire event. 78 experts, for a fraction of the cost it would be to buy their mentorship and coaching on an individual basis! Sign up here before this offer is gone for good https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2

In less than 12 hours my talk won’t free to view anymore, so don’t miss out!

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

 

 

What Does It Mean To Be Asexual? – What Is Asexuality?

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What does it mean to be asexual? Is something that many people are curious about. To be asexual means your sexual orientation is different to heterosexuals, pansexuals, bisexuals, and homosexuals, because those sexualities are all about who you are sexually attracted to, but asexuality is a sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction, and means in broad terms you are sexually attracted to no one. So you don’t look at any gender/person and think I want ‘sex with you’. You don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, in fact you often feel that is one of the worse things you could be doing, and would much rather be doing other things.

An easy way to remember it, is that the word ‘A’ and the word ‘sexual’, are put together to form the word ‘Asexual’, and the ‘A’ stands for ‘absence of’ sexual attraction.

The full definition of Asexuality according to Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality :

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity

So this is where is can get a bit blurry, because many asexuals lack sexual attraction and others could just have low or absent interest in sexual activity, but still have some sexual attraction, yet not want to have sex or not be interested in sexual activities – in my experience these latter asexuals are usually on the Grey-Asexual end of the asexual spectrum. It also depends on how you define sexual activity. Some asexuals who lack sexual attraction, could participate sexual activities, and may like that, as sexual behaviour is not the same as sexual attraction. So for example, some asexuals may like to touch all over the body of their partner, and to touch the genitals of their partner and masturbate them, but not want sex, and never feel the need, urge, or want for sex. Many others will be completely repulsed by that idea. Or they may like doing sexual activities with themselves, such as masturbating themselves, whether that be manually with their hands/fingers, or using sex toys, but not with anyone else. Not all asexuals masturbate, but a number of them do, and they would rather do that than have anyone else doing sexual acts with them. Some asexuals still have a sex drive, but it’s not aimed at anyone and others still get aroused, but that arousal doesn’t lead to a need, urge, or want, to have partnered sexual intercourse, it’s just something their body does naturally. Some asexuals are romantic and still experience romantic attraction and others experience no romantic attraction.

  • Attraction to the opposite gender romantically = heteroromantic
  • Attraction to the same gender romantically = homoromantic
  • Attracted to both the same and opposite gender = biromantic
  • Attraction to any possible gender romantically = panromantic
  • Asexual and no romantic attraction = aromantic asexual (You can also get aromantic sexuals, those who do want sex, and do experience sexual attraction, but are not romantic)

So if you look at anyone and think, I want to have sex with you and you would have it in reality with them, given the chance, you would NOT be asexual. 

So asexuality is a spectrum, ranging from those who experience no sexual attraction and no romantic attraction, to those who experience romantic attraction but no sexual attraction, to those who are on the more sexual end of the asexual spectrum and may experience sexual attraction, under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, but not enough to want to act on it. (There are also lots of sub-identities too on this spectrum, but I want to stick to basics for this article.) There are also people who are known as demisexual, which falls under Grey Asexuality, and means they don’t experience sexual attraction at all, unless and until, a very deep emotional bond has been formed. The bond usually also has to be maintained and sustained for the sexual attraction to still exist. Some demisexuals can live quite happily without sex ever, even if they do form that bond and experience sexual attraction, others need to have sex in a relationship, once they experience sexual attraction, which is no good if they are in a relationship with a monogamous sex-repulsed asexual who doesn’t want sex ever, and especially if they don’t want to do any sexual activities either.

There is also an aromatic spectrum:

  • Aromantic = no romantic attraction
  • Grey-Romantic = can experience romantic attraction, in limited, under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, but not enough to want to act on it
  • Demi-Romantic = can experience romantic attraction only when a deep emotional bond has been formed
  • Cupioromantic = desires to have a romantic relationship and be romantic, despite not experiencing romantic attraction

So there is a lot of things to consider when you first discover you are asexual and where you fall on the asexual spectrum. If you want to know more about asexuality and you want to be shown what the asexual spectrum is, rather than just be given text book definitions, and to read 47 different asexual perspectives on love, life and sex, and what it feels like to be asexual in this highly sexualised world, and get the best advice on how to survive it, get a copy of ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 Asexual Stories: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY here https://amzn.to/2L9Y9qI 

If you have fibromyalgia, or you suffer with depression or anxiety, you should check out my autobiographical Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook as not only does it mention asexuality in the book, it also explains how to overcome depression and decrease your anxiety, and the techniques work, regardless of whether you have fibromyalgia or not. I know a lot of asexuals who have depression and anxiety, and this book will really help with that, check out www.acefibrogirl.com and see the reviews – which are by asexuals who don’t have fibro, and it helped them! https://amzn.to/2Y8msdZ

Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook

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18 Benefits Of Being Asexual And Not Sexually Attracted To Anyone!

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Asexualise T Shirt18 benefits of being asexual and not sexually attracted to anyone!

1 – We can easily say no to those asking for sex.

2 – We can easily block those people who message us to be friends but really want sex.

3 – We can dance in nightclubs and bars, knowing no matter how much someone pleads with us to have sex, the answer is no.

4 – When someone offers in a bar or club to go back to theirs for a drink, we know it means sex and can say a definite no.

5 – We are careful who we add to our Facebook friends list because we have high standards and don’t want sex.

6 – We understand that the majority of people who say let’s do Netflix and chill, really mean let’s have sex and get hot and sweaty.

7 – We don’t have to dress up and put makeup on to be appealing for having sex, we can just chill in our pjs or superhero/cute outfits and have fun.

8 – We can kiss and touch if we want to, without it ever leading to sex.

9 – We cannot get pregnant from all that sex we are not having.

10 – We have more time and energy to do other things and be productive, whilst others are having sex and preparing themselves for it.

11 – We can be trusted to never physically cheat on you, because we don’t ever want sex with anyone. We are more loyal and faithful in this way, by default.

12 – We can experience multiple other attractions, just not sexual. And we can separate these different types of attractions.

13 – We can potentially be in a relationship with someone who is impotent, celibate, or who has a disability which prevents them from having sex. Because we don’t ever need sex. And we can love them as they are.

14 – Our love for someone is based more on a person’s personality, and their heart, mind, and soul, because we don’t need their genitals to keep up happy and attract us to them.

15 – Our love is based on a deep emotional connection, that needs to be maintained and sustained, to have a long, loving, happy, healthy, relationship, because it’s not based on sex but bestest ever friendship and soulmate connection. In this way it’s the purest love you can get, as genitals are not involved.

16 – Asexuals who want a serious relationship are more likely to put the time, energy, and effort, into getting a relationship and making it work, as it’s rarer for us to be able to get someone in the first place.

17 – Asexuals are more likely to get into relationships with people they have lots in common with, such as hobbies and interests, so there is more chance of longevity.

18 – Asexuals are different and their uniqueness is their gift the world. We are free of conditioning and social conformities, and have the ability to see people and the world, in a completely different way to everyone else. Which is like a superpower and special gift.

 

These are 18 benefits of asexuals who are not sexually attracted to anyone! Asexuality is a spectrum, so in general, those on the Grey Asexual end of the asexual spectrum, can sometimes feel sexual attraction, under limited, rare, or specific circumstances. Or they can experience it, but not enough to want to act on it.

Also some asexuals can cheat emotionally and also I have known of a few who are chatting up multiple women at once, or in a relationship and still pursuing another with someone else.

Some asexuals who love sexuals, can find it hard to say no to having sex, or to stop the connection. This is why it’s super important to be upfront and honest about the fact you are asexual before you get into a relationship, especially if you don’t want sex at all. Remember it’s your body and your life, and you always have the ability to walk away. And if you discovered you are asexual while in a relationship, always remember, it’s better to be single, than to be with someone who is sexually incompatible and you can’t make each other happy. There are a few sexuals who can be in relationships with asexuals without sex, and if you are an asexual person who doesn’t mind having sex, then a relationship with a sexual person could work, depending on if you can both agree on standards, boundaries, and expectations for the relationship, both now and for your future together, to be happy and satisfying to both/all people concerned.

Emmerdale UK Soap Character Liv Is Asexual

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Liv is asexual

EMMERDALE CHARACTER LIV IS ASEXUAL – COULD THIS FINALLY BE THE RECOGNITION ASEXUALS NEED FOR SOCIETY TO ACCEPT US?

Finally we have an asexual character in a major soap opera, in the UK. Emmerdale character Liv is asexual. Could this finally be the recognition asexuals need for society to accept us? https://metro.co.uk/2019/01/30/emmerdale-spoilers-liv-flaherty-opens-up-to-jacob-gallagher-about-her-asexuality-during-a-date-8348471/

Although there is far more media publicity about asexuality than there ever was before, with articles, radio interviews, and a few documentaries popping up, including one on Sky News, and one last year with BBC3, I believe what we really need is to have asexuals to be seen in the media for prologue periods of time, and consistently. Rather than there only being one article, radio or TV interview, as and when! This is why I am so thrilled that Liv is asexual, and that finally it should lead to the recognition asexuality deserves within society, as a sexual orientation in its own right.

Having Liv as the first asexual character of a major soap in the UK, will, I believe, pave the way forward for other soaps to follow suit! What happens in Emmerdale, usually emerges soon after in Coronation Street, and Eastenders. So not only will this Emmerdale storyline be amazing for asexuality, in and of itself, it should have a domino effect and rollout into all the other major UK soaps, which in turn should push other TV programmes to do the same, and asexuality should finally start appearing in major films too. If fact, it’s already happening in other soaps! With Tyrone in Coronation Street mentioning the word Asexual, before Emmerdale does in its programme!

Can’t wait to find out which character they confirm is asexual, I’m waiting for it …

I have been approached by people who have revealed their plans for getting asexuality to a more global audience, such as through films, so lets see what happens. I am excited about what the future holds for asexuals and asexuality.

Until next time, as always, stay ace.

Sandra xx

ASEXUALISE DATING SUCCESS STORY | How Two Asexual Grey Romantics Found Love In Asexualise No Sex Dating Group!

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I am absolutely thrilled that two people in my Asexualise Dating group, specifically for asexuals who never want sex, have formed a meaningful asexual no sex relationship! And what’s particularly interesting with this success story, is both the happy couple are on the aromantic asexual spectrum (those who lack romantic attraction and sexual attraction). Asexual Love is ace!

I interviewed Patricia to discover more about how this asexual relationship started. Here are her answers told in her own words …

What was your relationship status was before you joined the group and what difficulties you were having finding someone suitable for a relationship?

I was single when I joined the group. I wasn’t really having a hard time with finding a relationship. It wasn’t an important thing in my life. It just wasn’t the most important thing.

How did you come across the Asexualise Dating group specifically for those who never want sex?

I came across the group looking for friends and if it turns into something else great. I was in other ace groups and I saw this one and decided to give it a go. I wasn’t too sure what to expect with a relationship. I have seen a lot of older movies with romance, so I kinda think I know what I want.

How long was it before you found your potential partner in the group?

I’m not sure. I’m bad with timeframes. I met one guy. He wasn’t supportive. My last friend died and I told him and he gave me no support. Next was Eric who I’m seeing now. So maybe a year.

Were there people in the group you liked before you met your partner but for some reason they weren’t suitable?

I never really looked for someone because I’m ace grey aromantic. So it’s wasn’t a huge thing, but I was interested in what I could find.

Who made the first move in terms of messaging and what happened?

Eric did I believe. We started talking in your Asexualise No Sex Dating group in September 2017 and continue talking. We got together in July 2018. I asked him with nervousness, and we felt the same! We had more of the cicadas that summer, and I would call him up as I walked to the senior centre where I volunteer. I would freak out over the birds shadow thinking it would be a cicada and I don’t want to deal with that! I hate bugs! But it’s nice… to have company on my walks. We make each other laugh. We both love video games, we both love nature. He has some albinism so he doesn’t like brightness. But I’m excited to learn Swedish. I’ve always liked the idea of Sweden since I watch the YouTuber PewDiePie. So I’m excited for that.

I know you both live in different countries. How are you planning to move over there? When will this happen? Do you already have a job lined up and will you live together or not at first?

Okay this a long one. He lives in Sweden. I live in the USA. I’m planning to apply for citizenship, but I have to live in the USA for a year, so probably in 2020 I will move. I don’t know when in 2020 though. I plan on moving into his apartment. It will be awkward at first because I have lived on my own for so long, as he has also. So yeah, it will be awkward. I don’t currently have a job, I’m unable to work. I have a cat and puppy, both female.They will be coming too. So no, I don’t have a job lined up, I plan on applying for sick pay. It will also be a good mental and emotional health booster to get away from toxic family members.

Also he and I want a Nordic wedding. NO real wedding plans yet! Just silly talk of it. But I do make jokes that I want an all white wedding, but would he blend in as he has some albino in him, lol! We haven’t said, “I love you yet” but we may in the future when we are physically together.

What would you say to anyone else who is asexual and not looking for sex ever and thinking about joining the group?

I would say, finding a partner takes time and could take longer than me. Moving would be a big thing, but it will need to be done for it to work out.

What advice would you give to other asexuals in general, who are looking for a serious relationship with another asexual without sex?

It takes time. Friendships are important to make as they could turn into something more. When going into the dating scene look for a friendship first. Let it grow. Take your time. Don’t rush.

I need to stress it is so important to have a caring and supportive relationship. He and I are so caring and supportive of each other. I love how we can laugh about things. Also I tend to rant and he will calmly let me know and I stop. He doesn’t judge. I don’t either. If people want to get an idea of how we are, just look up the gif series milkandmocha (milk and mocha) it’s sooo us!

Don’t give up. There is hope for those who are ace and grey aromantics, because Eric and I are both grey aro and we were lucky enough to find each other. I’m agender though and he respects that. That makes me happy. So yeah we make each other very happy.

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If you are reading this and you are asexual (not sexual), and you want to join this Asexualise no sex dating group, for asexuals who never want sex, how can you apply?

If you are asexual, single, and never want sex, ever, you can apply to be in my Asexualise Dating group, for asexuals who are looking for a serious and committed no sex ever relationship. There will be questions to answer in order to gain access to the group and not everyone is guaranteed to be accepted, however, many are! Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/acexualisedating/

If however you are on the more Grey Asexual or Demisexual end of the Asexual Spectrum and/or, you may want or be wiling to have sex upon occasion, then please don’t request to be in my no sex ever dating group and request to be in this one instead https://www.facebook.com/groups/greyacexualdatinganddemiacexualdating/

If you are asexual and just looking for asexual friends, then please request to join this group https://www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus/

Thanks so much to Patricia and Eric for sharing their wonderful Asexualise Dating successful love story and explaining how they met in my Asexualise Dating group, which is specifically for those asexuals who never want sex ever. I wish you lots of love and happiness forever xx

And if you are looking for more relationship insights, don’t forget to get a copy of my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book here  ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES

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Until next time, as always, stay ace!

Sandra xx

Life without sex – Asexuality explained | Asexuality Documentary Sky News! | Asexuality stereotypes busted!

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You can’t be sexy if you are asexual – Asexuality myth busted!

Sky News – Life without sex asexuality documentary – Asexuality Explained
Asexuality stereotypes busted! Heteronormative myths busted

In this Sky News life without sex asexuality documentary, asexuality is explained and asexual stereotypes are busted! Yasmin’s outer appearance when modelling is that of a very sexy, raunchy girl, who oozes sex appeal to many, yet she confesses she is asexual and aromantic; she lacks both sexual and romantic attraction, and she doesn’t pursue romantic relationships. When asked in this life without sex asexuality documentary how her modelling works with her asexuality when she is modelling in this highly sexualised environment, she says, “I’m not trying to sell myself – I’m selling a product”. She goes onto explain she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike because there is so many stereotypes surrounding asexuality and “lets give the diversity to asexual people to show who they are’.

You can’t be married, in a relationship, or love someone without sex! – Heteronormative myth busted!

In this documentary there is also a homoromantic guy couple (gay asexuals) Thom and Steve Winter-Gray, who have been married for 18 months. They explain that they both lack sexual attraction, but are romantic, they still like to kiss and cuddle, they just don’t have sex, and it’s more than just a bromance or platonic, it’s love, just they don’t experience sexual attraction and sex is not involved. They make an analogy to people loving their mum, dad, aunt, uncle, dogs, cats, and pets, but when asking people if they would have sex with them, people say no I don’t, and they said that is how it works for them.

Everyone loves sex, feels sexual attraction and wants it! – Heteronormative myth busted!

And finally there is a teenager, Emi Salida, who is a sex repulsed asexual. She explains how she is disconnected to sex and imagining certain people she has known before they get into a sexual relationship in a sexual context “it makes my brain kinda crash a little bit”.
Watch this amazing life without sex asexuality documentary, asexuality explained Sky News documentary!

And if you are looking for more real life asexual stories told in their own words, you can buy a copy of my Asexual Perspectives book here

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Sandra xx