Asexuality Awareness Achievements 2023 – Asexuality Global Recognition 2023 By Sandra Bellamy Asexualise

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Biggest asexuality achievement in 2023 – I was on James Miller Lifeology Radio show with over 3 million listeners per episode – That’s 3 million people hearing about asexuality!

The Life of an Asexual Person | Sandra Bellamy By James Miller Lifeology Interview ORIGINAL VERSION watch here https://youtu.be/1_3kkGbHRcE?si=hfNPbWNu-bzW51ahc

 

James Miller interviews Sandra Bellamy

Listen to it on Apple Podcasts here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/james-miller-lifeology-radio/id1190946242?i=1000627920736

James Miller, is the CEO of James Miller | LIFEOLOGY®, LLC and The Executive Producer and Host of LIFEOLOGY® Radio Nationally Broadcast and Syndicated Radio Show www.JamesMillerLifeology.com

(See my show page on James’s site here https://www.jamesmillerlifeology.com/the-life-of-an-asexual-person/)

Which is broadcast on/across:

National Radio Stations

  • 18 AM/FM terrestrial radio stations: Tuesday at 1:30 pm, Friday at 9:30 am, and Saturday at 12:30 pm
    • Washington, DC: FM – 96.7
    • Tampa, FL: AM – 1630, FM – 92.1
    • Las Vegas, NV: AM – 1520, FM – 99.5
    • Macon, GA: AM – 810, FM – 87.9
    • Lancaster, PA: AM – 1640, FM – 102.1
    • Boulder, CO: FM – 96.3
    • Milwaukee, WI: FM – 90.3
    • Pittsburgh, PA: FM – 94.7
    • Long Beach, CA: FM – 101.5
    • New Port Richey, FL: FM – 88.3
    • The Villages, FL: FM – 97.7
    • Colorado Springs, CO: FM – 87.9
    • Jacksonville, FL: FM – 90.3
    • Rocky Hill, NC: FM – 89.5

Streaming Radio

Archived on Podcasting Platforms

Digitally (Under AMFM247 Channel)

  • Roku
  • WorldTV
  • Dish TV
  • Youtube
  • Google TV
  • Other Network Stations Inclusion

Check it out on my own channel here https://youtu.be/1_3kkGbHRcE?si=KjA4tdA-wNKxvpuH and be sure to give it a thumbs up if you like it.

You can also see my reaction video here https://www.youtube.com/live/0GP791VeTeA?si=smftPk6kZ_ly9w5m or by watching the video below:

The Life And Perspectives Of An Asexual 

Listen to it on my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel here https://youtu.be/5XMtAwHT4aI?si=8JRkVr0XJ4jPOfSL

Sandre Bellamy with Shanna Vavra Sense Of Soul Podcast

I was so happy to be featured on Shanna Vavra’s Sense of Soul Podcast, which is a spirituality podcast, talking about asexuality and my spiritual life mission regarding that. She’s had over a million downloads of her show episodes, so it’s in the top % of listened to podcasts – which is great coverage for asexuality.

Shanna Vavra is a very attentive and inclusive interviewer, interviewing me about The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual – on ITunes here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sense-of-soul/id1468725665?i=1000630467751

It’s also on Shanna’s own Sense of Soul Podcast YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/s1X6oN-q2J4?si=AEe1Vr2PRfFv6GkR

I spoke about asexuality and self-reinvention at Oxford University for bLU Talks

 Sandra-Bellamy Speaker At Oxford University

Sandra Bellamy blu Talks Oxford Uni


Asexual Sandra Bellamy Quirky Books Bestselling Author And Publisher Speaks At Oxford University For bLU Talks – Behind The Scenes Highlights



Watch the playlist of clips from my talk in the video below – or click this link https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6sdIToxIi4eaCyEfXpEj-s0dBqcJ4aaA&si=ojSONXiI7sqYBRMg


My self-reinvention talk included my personal transformational life journey:


From being a shy, lonely, deeply unhappy, introverted girl,

Who was a suicidal depressed mess,

With no purpose…

Averse to touch by strangers…

With huge social anxiety,

And I could only see people on a one-to-one basis…


To being extroverted, loud, bubbly, talkative –

Discovering my life purpose… (and living it.)

Being all over social media…

….organising and hosting asexual meetups…

Being able to hug strangers… 

Being able to talk about sex and masturbation, as easily as drinking water… to help asexuals.


Want to know how I achieved all of these transformations and more?

.. And learn the 9 steps to reinventing yourself, to whatever best future version of yourself you want to become?

#1 International Bestselling Author Sandra Bellamy

My talk was based on my chapter in the new bLU Talks book, of Business Life and The Universe, Vol 11, with James Redfield – Bestselling Author of The Celestine Prophecy, and Ken Honda – from MindValley, who is also the Author of Happy Money, as well as Corey Poirier is That Speaker Guy, Multiple-Time TEDx Speaker, bLU Talks Founder, Co-Author of the Wall Street Journal / USA Today Bestseller, Quitless, Featured in and/or seen on: NBC, ABC, Fox, TEDx, Entrepreneur on Fire, Entrepreneur Magazine, Forbes, Second City, The CW and CBS…

Which became a number 1 international bestseller. See screenshots below:

Number 1 hot new release best selling books

Sandra Bellamy International Num 1 Best Selling Author - Co-Author of bLU Talks Vol 11

 

Number 1 Best Seller In Hypnotherapy

So now I can say I’m a #1 International Best Selling Author.  Get the blueprint to changing your self and your life and become who you truly want to be by buying this book here https://amzn.to/4aO9OWk

Best-Selling Asexual Perspectives Book – Best-Selling Publisher Quirky Books – Speciality Asexuality

Before that, on 08/08/2023, I also became a bestselling author with Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book. And because I publish my own books under my own book publishing imprint of Quirky Books, I became a bestselling publisher too – double WOW! Get your copy here https://amzn.to/48nOe9w

Asexual Perspectives Best Seller book


And I wrote Diary Confessions Of A Hyper-romantic Asexual – 78 Life Lessons To ACE Your Life – book, which I am currently proofreading again along with my best friend, who fortunately for me, works in editorial as a job, so he is highly skilled and knowledgable to help me. Although with a diary-style book, it’s meant to have minimal editing done to it, be a casual conversational tone and use colloquial language, so I have to be careful not to overdo the editing, and to keep it very conversational, but I still want to make some final corrections.

This book is very different to any other book I’ve written before as it’s a diary-style book of my inner most thoughts, feelings and emotions, during a difficult hyper-romantic time and all the life lessons I learnt along the way. It’s written very informally. It’s like a behind-the-scenes of my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel – which is also a behind-the-scenes of my life, where I share my own asexual life journey, in order to help you in yours. Talking about things such as dating, relationships, self-love and self-care – which this book also focuses on helping you with. So it’s like an extension of my channel content to help you in your own asexual life – more details on this to follow and it will be at a low launch price when it’s first released, so keep your eyes on my next blog posts for updates about that, so you don’t miss out.

789 Life Lessons To ACE Your LIFE

I was also interviewed by bLU Talks about asexuality on an episode of bLU Talks Amplify Your Message show which was recorded live – and co-hosted that show once too.

Watch Asexuality Interview with Sandra Bellamy ON Blu Talks Amplify your message show, by watching the video below or click this link https://youtu.be/KCdM9jLUbhU?si=I7q_ARrb8ija1U5v

If you want to see the episode I co-hosted, you can see it here https://www.youtube.com/live/yI-PKfV0Rw8?si=GYpmgczR6MI_G_QL

And I was the first keynote speaker at the Be And Become Summit on 14th Of December.

Sandra Bellamy Asexuality Speaker At Be And Become Summit

Here is my full talk in case you missed it:

And here is the full playlist with some of the highlights of that talk:

on 31st of December 2023, I was notified that I’ve been recognised among the 2023 – Iconic 100 Impact Ignitors Worldwide ICONS for making a difference. (Thanks to all you who voted for me into this 100 list of icons.)

Join me in celebrating positive change asexualiseofficial with International Icon Inc. ( @YouAreTheIconOrg ) and the Iconic Speakers Network ( @IconicSpeakersNetwork), led by the founder Antoinette Logan ( @AskMsLogan ).

See the full list of IMPACT IGNITORS here: https://bit.ly/Iconic100ImpactIgnitorOf2023List (I’m included in the special mentions – People who have made special contributions to positive change.)

Sandra Bellamy Special Mention Iconic 100 List

Sandra Bellamy Special Mentions Iconic 100 List


And last year I was interviewed by Shilpi Gupta Shah,

Mention on LinkedIn


So please, do yourself a favour, never, ever, give up on your dreams and keep taking action to achieve each one of those. Your future self will thank you for it.

And make sure 2024, is the year you say, “I do” to you:

Say I do to you

With much love ❤😍

As always, stay ACE,

Sandra xx

Can You Help Me? Love You To Be Part Of This!

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Love you to be part of this

It’s been over 7 years now, since I first started my Asexualise My Asexual Life Channel and boy how this channel has grown in viewership over the years – over 433,000 views and counting.

 

But I still feel there is so much more I can do.

When I originally started this channel in October 2015 to help other asexuals, I was kinda nervous and felt strange talking about intimate topics with strangers. Now it’s like being in a comfy arm chair, among a community of like-minded souls. I feel like it’s my hangout, where I get to inform, educate, entertain, and literally share multiple aspects of my own asexual life journey, and experience, to truly ace your own life, in terms of dating, relationships, friendships, and help to grow you in self-love, confidence, and self-esteem.

You can view and subscribe to my Asexualise channel here https://www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife

But that’s not all…

You see I also shared something else when I got started out, and that was why I started the channel – to raise awareness of asexuality, to help asexuals be comfortable and confident with their asexuality, and to educate others. And I spoke about how I can help raise awareness of asexuality on a more global scale, as I’m also in the entrepreneur space since 2012, and if I can get entrepreneurs who are the thought leaders of the world, and who are often the people with the loudest voices in the world, to know about asexuality and accept it, then it’s going to mean I can fulfil my life mission; of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation throughout the globe, in it’s own right, so no asexual has to live in fear ever again.

With that in mind, I created another channel, but this one is for entrepreneurs, authors, and creatives, called Make Money Make Cash, and I recently started asking other entrepreneurs and authors to be interviewed by me, so they can explain how they make money doing what they love, so you can do the same.

On that channel I’m known as The Asexual Entrepreneur to help raise more awareness of asexuality on a global scale and I would really appreciate your support.

Here is that channel https://www.youtube.com/@makemoneymakecash and I would love to get your support by asking you to subscribe to it please? If you feel it may be at all of any interest.

I’m still editing my first interview with a fascinating person, who is an entrepreneur and author, and a licensed therapist who specialises in helping people with their relationships and addictions. He knew he wanted to help people since he was 7 or 8 years old and has some fascinating stories to share. But in the meantime there are plenty of videos on that channel about how to sell your pre-loved items for quick cash, such as on eBay, Facebook Marketplace and Vinted. Plus, if you like to write like I do, there are tips and insights into book publishing with Amazon and what mistakes to avoid. So if any of this resonates with you or interests you, or you would just like to support me in raising more awareness of asexuality, you can get started by subscribing here https://www.youtube.com/@makemoneymakecash

I still need more subs to get that channel to 100 so I can get the personalised URL on that one, and help raise more awareness of asexuality as The Asexual Entrepreneur. II did recently acquire the YouTube handle for it, which I am super happy about.

Please help me to help more asexuals by watching the video about it on my Asexualise channel here https://youtu.be/VgxAov9kc9I and clicking through the link here https://www.youtube.com/@makemoneymakecash to subscribe to that channel.

I will be publishing my first interview on there shortly, so it would mean the world to me to get that channel to 100 subs before it goes live to the world.

I think you will also find that channel very insightful. Would you be able to subscribe please? I would really appreciate it.

Enjoy checking it out, until next time, stay ACE,

Sandra xx

Asexual Friends Meetups For Asexual Awareness Week – ACE WEEK #aceweek2022

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Have you every wondered what it’s like to hang out with asexual friends in person and what asexuals get up to with all the sex they’re not having? If so, you’re going to love this post.

Yes, not every asexual is sex repulsed, some asexuals do have sex, but for those of us who don’t, you might want to know what fun, non-sexual activities we get up to.

So in this post, I’m going to share with you, what I got up to with my bestest asexual friend Sammie for their 40th birthday and my close asexual friend Vanessa who is 21.
Both of these people are important to me and I am very thankful and grateful for them in my life.

Me and Sammie have known each other since 2017 and became best friends upon the first time of meeting in 2018, and Vanessa I met at an asexual meetup this year in my city, which I orgnanised. After my best friend Andy was too sick to meet up with me for my birthday in April, Vanessa came with me to the Aquarium for it, and I instantly got on really well with her and we became good friends and have since become even better friends, the more we have got to know each other. Because I reprogrammed my mind to be like 21 years old and I live like a teenager on purpose, I like going to a lot of the same places as Vanessa and as Sammie is really young too – they look like they are in their 20s, we like doing enjoyable, young, fun, things together too.

So on 28th October, for Sammie’s 40th Birthday:

* We went to a cafe in the morning.

* Then to a pub for a drink and gift giving (see photos).

* Then we ate in Nandos.

* Then we went to War Of The Worlds Immersive Experience, which was scary and fun. (See photo.)

* After that we drank in the bar and Sammie had a birthday cocktail (see photos below).

* We ate after then in East Street Thai Restaurant 😋

* It was an ACE day.

* And even more ACE as we are both asexual in sexual orientation. We are both sex repulsed and naked repulsed. And it was Asexual Awareness Week. Watch the video

On 30th October, I went to Vanessa to Brean theme park, rode some amazing rides and enjoyed eating delicious foods. Check out these photos.


Watch these videos to see more of Sammie’s 40th Birthday.

Watch these videos to see more behind the scenes footage of Brean Theme Park.

I really loved spending time with my asexual best and close friends for Asexual Awareness Week #aceweek2022 and having a lot of non-sexual asexual fun together. Which proves you can live a very happy life without sex, full of excitement and enjoyment. My life is never boring.

Always stay ACE 

Sandra xx

Asexual Quotes About Love – Asexual Love Quotes – Asexual Love Awareness #aceweek

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Asexual Quotes About Love. These asexual love quotes, show you what it means to experience true asexual love, without the need for sex. Asexual Love Awareness #aceweek

Watch the Asexual Love Awareness #aceweek video above, to see more quotes about what asexual love is. Or click this link to view it https://youtu.be/cqZXpiXjJMA

 

Read more about asexual perspectives on Love, Life and Sex, in my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book here https://amzn.to/2Lk5en3

What’s good about this Asexual Perspectives book, is it doesn’t just give text book definitions of orientations across the asexual spectrum, it shows you them, through the 47 Asexual Stories answers to different questions about Love, Life, and Sex, and the personal details the interviewees share. It answers most questions you could think of about love, life, and sex, from an asexual point of view, including those you feel afraid to ask!! Get you copy here https://amzn.to/2Lk5en3 now.

 

10 Common Myths About Asexuals and Asexuality – BUSTED!

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Myths about asexuals and asexuality

There are many common myths about asexuals and asexuality. Some due to ignorance, some due to closed mindedness and others are just outright confused, which I put largely down to a lack of education and societal conditioning! So here are 10 Common myths about asexuals and asexuality – busted!

  1. Asexuals never have sex – Simply not true. Some asexuals never have sex and others choose to do it or try it, for whatever reason. This could be to please a partner; to do it as an activity to do, which they may even find fun, like a bored game; or to have kids.
  2. If asexuals don’t have sex, then they never masturbate! – Not true! Whilst some asexuals don’t ever masturbate, other’s do, because they do have a libido, despite it not being aimed at any one, as they don’t experience sexual attraction.
  3. Asexuals are asexual because they “can’t get laid” – Not true. Asexuals can have sex if they want to, many don’t want to as they are not sexually attracted to anyone and so sex does not appeal to them. However, some asexuals do have sex and I am asexual and had sex in the past with some of my heterosexual ex boyfriends. I don’t want to have sex ever again, as these days I am personally sex-repulsed for me.
  4. Asexuals are just people who can’t get dates – Wrong. Many asexuals can get dates, but with sex usually expected at the end of the date, many asexuals would rather not bother. On the other hand, if sex is not on the table, then  a large number of sexuals won’t want to have a date with an asexual, (unless they believe we will change our mind about having sex if we previously said we don’t want it), because they want sex and it’s important that they get it, and if they don’t, there is a lower incentive for them to date an asexual – Even though we have got many awesome qualities and can make someone happy without sex, some sexuals need sex, and that is it!
  5. Asexuals never have any sexual behaviour! – Not true. Whilst some don’t exhibit any sexual behaviour, others do! Sometimes this is behind closed doors, such as masturbating themselves, or they may have oral sex, anal sex, or masturbate their partner! It may also be in front of others, such as dancing very sexily, like grinding!
  6. If someone is asexual then it means they are gay or lesbian – Wrong. Whilst asexuality is considered to be part of the LGBT+QIA acronym – the A standing for asexual, but some also consider it to stand for Allie, Agender or Androgynous , it does not mean all asexuals are gay and lesbian, in fact in terms of not being sexually attracted to anyone, gay or lesbian may be considered the wrong term to use for those who are attracted to the same gender, just not sexually. However, some asexuals may identify as a gay or lesbian asexual – for example a homoromantic; homo – meaning attracted to the same gender, romantic – meaning they are attracted romantically (to the same gender). And some asexuals like me, identify as heteroromantic. Hetero – meaning attracted to the opposite gender – romantically. It does annoy me when I say to someone I am asexual and they say, “So you’re a lesbian then” and I say, “No, I am attracted only to guys, but romantically, not sexually. I love to kiss, cuddle and hold their hand, but I don’t want sex with them as I don’t experience any sexual attraction. I have had sex in the past because I thought I had to, as part of a ‘normal’ relationship, before I found out I am asexual! I have gay and lesbian friends, but I am not a lesbian.”
  7. Asexuals never get attracted to anyone. Wrong again! Some asexuals, for example some aromantic asexuals – those who are neither romantically or sexually attracted to anyone, may not experience any type of attraction to anyone, others will likely experience platonic attraction. Many other types of asexuals do experience some form of attraction, even though it’s not sexual. So they could experience romantic attraction, aesthetic attraction, intelligence attraction, spiritual attraction, emotional attraction. And in my case I experience all those towards different guys, and I also experience creative attraction and clothes attraction. So I get super attracted to guys who are creative and making things and doing stuff. I also get attracted to guys wearing certain types of clothes, such as the ‘street’ look, or a black and white suit! And as part of my intelligence attraction, I get super attracted to guys who are into IT, and can build websites and code! With that attraction, coupled with romance and intelligence attraction, well I just want to snog (passionately kiss) the guy! I am a rare asexual in that I don’t experience any platonic attraction, which means I get some type of attraction for my close guy friends even, which can be rather annoying at times, as I don’t wish to feel romantic over a guy who is just a friend, but as I am also a hyper-romantic, I just have to let myself feel these feelings and accept they are a part of me. Resisting them makes things worse, so it’s best just to be open, upfront and honest about it. And no, I don’t want multiple partners as I am fiercely monogamous, not polyamorous. I would rather focus my attractions towards one romantic partner, if I had one.
  8. Asexuals never watch porn! This isn’t true either! Whilst there are asexuals, like me, who never ‘watch’ porn, in fact I personally detest it, I know some asexuals that do watch porn. Many asexuals who do this, say it helps them to masturbate, which they want to do, to relive their libido.
  9. Asexuals never participate in BDSM! Nope! This isn’t true! Some asexuals do participate in BDSM, just without the sexual intercourse. Some asexuals who do have sex, may participate in BDSM whilst also having sex. I personally hate BDSM and want to run a mile from anyone wanting to do that to/with me. Luckily not one heterosexual ex, ever even hinted at that.
  10. Asexuals never have any fetishes! Still wrong! Some asexuals do have fetishes. I have known a few asexual guys who have foot fetishes for example, which makes them want to massage a partner’s feet, and pay close attention to their feet, without the person putting their foot in their penis and stroking their penis with it – which apparently is what a sexual guy likes to do, if he has a foot fetish, or so I was told by one asexual guy, but as I don’t get involved with fetishes either, and I thankfully have not had a relationship in the past with a guy like this, which is my preference, then I have no hands on experience of this, if you pardon the pun!

At the end of the day, ALL asexuals are different and whatever they do or don’t like is up to them and it’s up to you! Our difference is our beauty and it’s more important to be a diverse group of people than copycats of others. There is no one size fits all, when it comes to being asexual or having asexuality as your sexual orientation and that’s ACE!

To quote Wikipedia, the full definition of asexuality is:

“Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity.[1][2][3] It may be considered a sexual orientation or the lack thereof.[4][5][6] It may also be categorized more widely to include a broad spectrum of asexual sub-identities.[7]”

If you want to discover more about these asexual myths and other myths and stereotypes of asexuality, check out my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book on Amazon, here https://amzn.to/2nttgoD 

Until next time, always stay ACE!

And don’t forget to share this post for Asexual Awareness Week from Sunday 20th of October – Saturday 26th of October 2019, to educate others about asexuality!

Sandra xx

ASEXUAL AWARENESS WEEK 2018 ASEXUAL AWARENESS T SHIRTS FOR ASEXUAL AWARENESS WEEK (21st-27th Oct 2018)

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Asexual Awareness Shirt

ASEXUAL AWARENESS WEEK 2018

If you didn’t know, every October is when Asexual Awareness Week occurs, and this year 2018, is no exception, (21st-27th of October 2018, is Asexual Awareness Week).

Asexual Awareness Week gives each and every asexual the opportunity to promote Asexual Awareness and to ‘come out’ to others if you haven’t already. If you have any family or friends that want to help you to raise awareness too, this is the perfect time to get them to do just that.

We need more visibility, we need more education for others, and we need to get our voices heard – there is absolutely nothing wrong with being asexual and I believe living life as an asexual can be one of the most positive and empowering experiences. However, I know the difficulties that crop up, the objections, those awkward moments, the lack of understanding and sensitivity. It’s also tough finding other aces to meet in person, to form strong relationships with, and to find a life partner/s should we wish to. That is why it is so very important for us to raise awareness as much as possible. Wearing an Asexualise Asexual T Shirt, is a great way of raising awareness and that is why I have spent more time learning more Photoshop skills so I can bring you more exclusive designs that are unique and stand out like this ‘Asexual Awareness’ T Shirt on my Redbubble shop.

Asexual Awareness Shirt

Check out the other Asexualise designs on my Redbubble shop here.

Asexualise merch for asexuals

If you live in an area where Amazon USA delivers, check out my shop on the home page of this site www.asexualise.com If not, Redbubble ship all over the world and you can find my shop here.

Don’t forget to connect with me on Twitter www.twitter.com/asexualise and on Facebook www.facebook.com/acexualise. I also run the Asexual Friends group on Facebook www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus. (If you apply to be in my group, please answer all questions.) Hope to see you there.