Asexuality And My Self-loathe To Self-love Story – How You Can Self-Love – Empowerography Interview With Sandra Bellamy

Empowerography asexuality interview with Sandra Bellamy

So happy to be featured on Empowerography Podcast telling my personal story of how I went from self-loathing to self-loving through entrepreneurship and what inspires me most about the work I do for asexuals and what asexuality actually is.

Watch a clip from the interview about what inspires me most about the work I do for asexuals, or click here https://youtu.be/c7tuyXe68d8?si=j9XBmA6rKPKCRfLX 

And if you’ve ever lacked  purpose, felt like you don’t belong, or you don’t like yourself or your life – I want you to know I’ve been in that position myself for many, many years, since childhood, and it was tough – is an understatement.

It wasn’t until this moment… that everything changed for me and I went from self-loathing to self-loving…

See what I mean by watching this video below – or clicking through this link https://youtu.be/vJ0rnoVoPos?si=H27JeYBJKRo6gqFF 

 

After watching the video, you may have noticed that in order to self-love, you need to:

  • Take notice of all the special qualities you have.
  • How much life experience you have.
  • How much knowledge you have gained, through work and your life.
  • How many skills you have gained, through work and your life.


  • All of which you can use to help others.
  • Which means you are useful, not useless.
  • You are worthy of being in life.
  • You matter.

So think about all of these.

Helping others gives you purpose, meaning, and helps you to heal also. Even if that’s doing some sort of volunteer work – online or offline.

Helping yourself, by seeing your own value and worth, even when you’re not helping others, is important to your own health and wellbeing. 

The more you see yourself as you truly are, not what love ones, family, so called friends and society have conditioned you to believe and think you are, the more you can be your true authentic self and love yourself. You can’t love yourself if others have manipulated and brainwashed you into believing you are this, that, and the other… and you can never change and there is something inherently wrong with you – what’s wrong with you, is the lies of unworthiness other people have fed you, and you believe, if you lack self-love. I hope you can begin to see, if you lack self-love, that you are worth loving and being in life.

And if you already love yourself, then I’m super happy for you and I’m glad you’re not dealing with the pain of self-loathing like I used to be, of both my life and myself…

In fact, it was in 2012, that my diagnosis of Fibromyalgia saved me from depression and my first ever business seminar I attended, was the start of my entrepreneurial journey that in turn started my self-love journey… before I found out I’m asexual in 2014…

You can listen to the full episode on Apple Podcasts here https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/entrepreneurship-took-me-from-self-loathing-to-self/id1471709447?i=1000644155585

Or Spotify here https://open.spotify.com/episode/4dR9miVPX519uTEbVXScc1?si=ZGvMr-aGQ_eUC_AxcJaWUw

Once again, this interview helps me with my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation is its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again, and I’m so happy that Brad Walsh gave me this opportunity to empower and inspire his Empowerography audience.

Let me know what you think 🤔

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

“Ace”ing Asexual Diversity, Self-love, Intimacy, Touch Sensitivity, Body Confidence, Non-conformity

Ace Diversity event

Thanks to all of you who joined the live and intimate diverse discussion during our “Ace”ing Diversity event on Instagram today https://www.instagram.com/asexualiseofficial/ and https://www.instagram.com/rang.org2020/

In the main host Ritash’s own words they felt – (Re)energised & inspired by this fantabulous & intimate conversation with Sandra & Hayathi on “Ace”ing Diversity.

I felt very honoured to be introduced as a “celebrity” – see this clip in the video below, or click here https://youtu.be/2iUE4Dm-Ghk 

It was one of the most raw, real, authentic, interview discussions I’ve ever had.

“Ace”ing Asexual Diversity, Self-love, Intimacy, Touch Sensitivity, Body Confidence, Non-conformity, covered a wide range of topics:

I was asked about my bestselling Asexual Perspectives book and why I wrote it. – If you haven’t yet got a copy, you can get yours here https://amzn.to/48bZR2C 

We talked about Self-love – Including what that looks like and what actions you can take to self-love / self-love more.

Self-worth, body confidence, self-trust, self-respect, being your own cheerleader and best friend and so much more was discussed under “self-love”.

We talked about self-dating and the fact that on Feb 14th 2015 I founded International Celebrate Being Single Day.

We discussed why it’s good to be happy being single, while also being open to a relationship if wanted, and other types of connections.

We talked about being touch sensitive / averse.

We dived into sensual attraction vs sexual attraction.

We discussed arousal and sexual behaviour without sexual attraction. 

And so much more in-between, if you missed this insightful discussion check out the replay on instagram, now, https://www.instagram.com/reel/C3LKNujPr9K/?igsh=MWthaDRzMG5td2M1aQ

Or on my own YouTube channel here https://youtu.be/qPYKoDnxWAw

Or by hitting play on the video below.

This was filmed live on Instagram using our mobiles.

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

AMPLIFY YOU Ask The Expert: Be Vulnerable And Brave With Your Message – An Asexual Journey With Sandra Bellamy

So thrilled and proud to be featured on the podcast – AMPLIFY YOU: Ask The Expert: Be Vulnerable And Brave With Your Message An Asexual Journey With Sandra Bellamy. 

Once again, this helps to raise awareness of asexuality and bring it to a more global audience that otherwise would never have heard of asexuality. It helps to fulfil my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again.

Please listen to the full podcast episode on ITunes here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/amplify-you-with-podcasting/id1457094134?i=1000642435797

On Google Podcasts here https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5jYXB0aXZhdGUuZm0vYW1wbGlmeW91Lw/episode/YjYwZjI4NjctZjAyMS00YjQ1LTljYWUtMGVkZjFjOTlmYzE1?

On Spotify here https://open.spotify.com/episode/6tAjNVGQxWctBjPpITi1Fz?si=a3de7bc54e6e4b4d

An extraordinary story with a powerful message of fostering understanding and breaking down barriers.

Michelle is diving into a conversation with the remarkable Sandra Bellamy, an inspiring figure wearing multiple hats – advisor, author, speaker, coach – Sandra is best known for her YouTube channel, “Asexualise My Asexual Life.”

Sandra shares her journey as a romantic asexual, emphasising the importance of self-love and creating a safe space for her asexual community.

Get ready for an authentic and empowering conversation that transcends labels, as Sandra takes us on a journey of self-discovery, resilience, and the creation of a safe haven for the asexual community.

Join us in celebrating Sandra Bellamy’s impact and commitment to creating a world where no asexual has to live in fear.

Don’t miss:

> The importance of asexual representation and visibility
> Overcoming fear of judgement
> Creating a safe space for asexual community
> Behind the scene with Sandra Bellamy in their content creation
> Sandra’s mission mission is to help asexuals recognise their orientation globally

About Sandra Bellamy:

Sandra Bellamy, aka: The Asexual Entrepreneur, Asexualise, and ACE Fibro Girl, is the Bestselling Author of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex ACElebration of Asexual Diversity; and Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook, available from Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Blackwell’s, Walmart and more. Asexual Perspectives is also available from Waterstones. Published under her own publishing imprint; Quirky Books. Changing lives from pain to gain, one book at a time.

She’s also contributed to #1 Best Seller the BOOK of WHY (AND HOW) featuring James Redfield: New York Times Bestselling Author, The Celestine Prophecy. Sandra has co-authored bLU Talks Vol 11 book featuring James and Ken Honda which is a #1 International Bestseller. She is a member of bLU Talks ExPeRts Bureau, and a Speaker for bLU Talks – she spoke at Oxford University for them in October 2023.

Sandra’s most famous for her reality-TV-style chat show and vlog, Asexualise My Asexual Life, which has had over half a million views. Educating people about the sexual orientation that is asexuality and inspiring and empowering asexuals to be comfortable and confident as their authentic self, using her own asexual life journey to help others with advice and guidance on love, life, dating, relationships, self-care.

She was a Speaker at the UK Asexuality Conference in London and has been featured in the Daily Mirror, Daily Star and on the Jeremy Vine Show, BBC Radio with Graham Torrington, Apple, Spotify, Channel 4, BBC TV, Femedic, bLU Talks Amplify Your Message and on a variety of podcasts including Lifeology Radio which has over 3 million listeners per episode.

Learn more about Sandra and what she does:

YouTube channel with over 708,000 views: https://www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife
New Asexualise Dating channel: https://www.youtube.com/@asexualisedating
(This site) Asexual blog and website with resources: https://www.asexualise.com
Asexual Courses at Asexualise Academy https://www.asexualiseacademy.com

Follow Sandra on her 3 Asexual Facebook Pages:

Asexuality Unveiled – Sandra Bellamy Empowering A Global Asexual Community – Featured on Humans of Fuzia

Asexuality Unveiled – Proud to be featured on Humans of Fuzia, who approached me for an interview, sharing my very personal asexual life story from self-loathing to empowering a global community.

Humans of Fuzia are on a storytelling mission with a particular focus on inspiring and empowering their community of over 5 Million+ Women.


In this article interview, I had to answer questions that were both personal and professional.

Which included:

What was my life like growing up?

What is my initiative and how is it helpful for people? This is about my asexuality mission. 

What was my experience of the Covid-19 pandemic?

What has been the response to my venture?  To the things I do to help asexuals.

How has my life changed? Since I started to help asexuals.

Who is my support system.

And what change I would like to see in the world, this was my answer:

“I would like the world to accept asexuality and that there are some people who genuinely don’t like, want, or need sex. So we can help prevent sexual abuse situations and make dating and relationships a better experience for all.”

Please give this article a read, Asexuality Unveiled: A Journey From Self-Loathing to Empowering a Global Community, here

https://www.humansoffuzia.com/asexuality-unveiled-a-journey-from-self-loathing-to-empowering-a-global-community/

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

Asexuality Awareness Achievements 2023 – Asexuality Global Recognition 2023 By Sandra Bellamy Asexualise

Say I do to you

Biggest asexuality achievement in 2023 – I was on James Miller Lifeology Radio show with over 3 million listeners per episode – That’s 3 million people hearing about asexuality!

 

James Miller interviews Sandra Bellamy

Listen to it on Apple Podcasts here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/james-miller-lifeology-radio/id1190946242?i=1000627920736

James Milleris the CEO of James Miller | LIFEOLOGY®, LLC and The Executive Producer and Host of LIFEOLOGY® Radio Nationally Broadcast and Syndicated Radio Show www.JamesMillerLifeology.com

(See my show page on James’s site here https://www.jamesmillerlifeology.com/the-life-of-an-asexual-person/)

Which is broadcast on/across:

National Radio Stations

  • 18 AM/FM terrestrial radio stations: Tuesday at 1:30 pm, Friday at 9:30 am, and Saturday at 12:30 pm
    • Washington, DC: FM – 96.7
    • Tampa, FL: AM – 1630, FM – 92.1
    • Las Vegas, NV: AM – 1520, FM – 99.5
    • Macon, GA: AM – 810, FM – 87.9
    • Lancaster, PA: AM – 1640, FM – 102.1
    • Boulder, CO: FM – 96.3
    • Milwaukee, WI: FM – 90.3
    • Pittsburgh, PA: FM – 94.7
    • Long Beach, CA: FM – 101.5
    • New Port Richey, FL: FM – 88.3
    • The Villages, FL: FM – 97.7
    • Colorado Springs, CO: FM – 87.9
    • Jacksonville, FL: FM – 90.3
    • Rocky Hill, NC: FM – 89.5

Streaming Radio

Archived on Podcasting Platforms

Digitally (Under AMFM247 Channel)

  • Roku
  • WorldTV
  • Dish TV
  • Youtube
  • Google TV
  • Other Network Stations Inclusion

Check it out on my own channel here https://youtu.be/1_3kkGbHRcE?si=KjA4tdA-wNKxvpuH and be sure to give it a thumbs up if you like it.

You can also see my reaction video here https://www.youtube.com/live/0GP791VeTeA?si=smftPk6kZ_ly9w5m or by watching the video below:

The Life And Perspectives Of An Asexual 

Listen to it on my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel here https://youtu.be/5XMtAwHT4aI?si=8JRkVr0XJ4jPOfSL

Sandre Bellamy with Shanna Vavra Sense Of Soul Podcast

I was so happy to be featured on Shanna Vavra’s Sense of Soul Podcast, which is a spirituality podcast, talking about asexuality and my spiritual life mission regarding that. She’s had over a million downloads of her show episodes, so it’s in the top % of listened to podcasts – which is great coverage for asexuality.

Shanna Vavra is a very attentive and inclusive interviewer, interviewing me about The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual – on ITunes here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sense-of-soul/id1468725665?i=1000630467751

It’s also on Shanna’s own Sense of Soul Podcast YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/s1X6oN-q2J4?si=AEe1Vr2PRfFv6GkR

I spoke about asexuality and self-reinvention at Oxford University for bLU Talks

 Sandra-Bellamy Speaker At Oxford University

Sandra Bellamy blu Talks Oxford Uni


Asexual Sandra Bellamy Quirky Books Bestselling Author And Publisher Speaks At Oxford University For bLU Talks – Behind The Scenes Highlights



Watch the playlist of clips from my talk in the video below – or click this link https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6sdIToxIi4eaCyEfXpEj-s0dBqcJ4aaA&si=ojSONXiI7sqYBRMg


My self-reinvention talk included my personal transformational life journey:


From being a shy, lonely, deeply unhappy, introverted girl,

Who was a suicidal depressed mess,

With no purpose…

Averse to touch by strangers…

With huge social anxiety,

And I could only see people on a one-to-one basis…


To being extroverted, loud, bubbly, talkative –

Discovering my life purpose… (and living it.)

Being all over social media…

….organising and hosting asexual meetups…

Being able to hug strangers… 

Being able to talk about sex and masturbation, as easily as drinking water… to help asexuals.


Want to know how I achieved all of these transformations and more?

.. And learn the 9 steps to reinventing yourself, to whatever best future version of yourself you want to become?

#1 International Bestselling Author Sandra Bellamy

My talk was based on my chapter in the new bLU Talks book, of Business Life and The Universe, Vol 11, with James Redfield – Bestselling Author of The Celestine Prophecy, and Ken Honda – from MindValley, who is also the Author of Happy Money, as well as Corey Poirier is That Speaker Guy, Multiple-Time TEDx Speaker, bLU Talks Founder, Co-Author of the Wall Street Journal / USA Today Bestseller, Quitless, Featured in and/or seen on: NBC, ABC, Fox, TEDx, Entrepreneur on Fire, Entrepreneur Magazine, Forbes, Second City, The CW and CBS…

Which became a number 1 international bestseller. See screenshots below:

Number 1 hot new release best selling books

Sandra Bellamy International Num 1 Best Selling Author - Co-Author of bLU Talks Vol 11

 

Number 1 Best Seller In Hypnotherapy

So now I can say I’m a #1 International Best Selling Author.  Get the blueprint to changing your self and your life and become who you truly want to be by buying this book here https://amzn.to/4aO9OWk

Best-Selling Asexual Perspectives Book – Best-Selling Publisher Quirky Books – Speciality Asexuality

Before that, on 08/08/2023, I also became a bestselling author with Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book. And because I publish my own books under my own book publishing imprint of Quirky Books, I became a bestselling publisher too – double WOW! Get your copy here https://amzn.to/48nOe9w

Asexual Perspectives Best Seller book


And I wrote Diary Confessions Of A Hyper-romantic Asexual – 78 Life Lessons To ACE Your Life – book, which I am currently proofreading again along with my best friend, who fortunately for me, works in editorial as a job, so he is highly skilled and knowledgable to help me. Although with a diary-style book, it’s meant to have minimal editing done to it, be a casual conversational tone and use colloquial language, so I have to be careful not to overdo the editing, and to keep it very conversational, but I still want to make some final corrections.

This book is very different to any other book I’ve written before as it’s a diary-style book of my inner most thoughts, feelings and emotions, during a difficult hyper-romantic time and all the life lessons I learnt along the way. It’s written very informally. It’s like a behind-the-scenes of my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel – which is also a behind-the-scenes of my life, where I share my own asexual life journey, in order to help you in yours. Talking about things such as dating, relationships, self-love and self-care – which this book also focuses on helping you with. So it’s like an extension of my channel content to help you in your own asexual life – more details on this to follow and it will be at a low launch price when it’s first released, so keep your eyes on my next blog posts for updates about that, so you don’t miss out.

789 Life Lessons To ACE Your LIFE

I was also interviewed by bLU Talks about asexuality on an episode of bLU Talks Amplify Your Message show which was recorded live – and co-hosted that show once too.

Watch Asexuality Interview with Sandra Bellamy ON Blu Talks Amplify your message show, by watching the video below or click this link https://youtu.be/KCdM9jLUbhU?si=I7q_ARrb8ija1U5v

If you want to see the episode I co-hosted, you can see it here https://www.youtube.com/live/yI-PKfV0Rw8?si=GYpmgczR6MI_G_QL

And I was the first keynote speaker at the Be And Become Summit on 14th Of December.

Sandra Bellamy Asexuality Speaker At Be And Become Summit

Here is my full talk in case you missed it:

And here is the full playlist with some of the highlights of that talk:

on 31st of December 2023, I was notified that I’ve been recognised among the 2023 – Iconic 100 Impact Ignitors Worldwide ICONS for making a difference. (Thanks to all you who voted for me into this 100 list of icons.)

Join me in celebrating positive change asexualiseofficial with International Icon Inc. ( @YouAreTheIconOrg ) and the Iconic Speakers Network ( @IconicSpeakersNetwork), led by the founder Antoinette Logan ( @AskMsLogan ).

See the full list of IMPACT IGNITORS here: https://bit.ly/Iconic100ImpactIgnitorOf2023List (I’m included in the special mentions – People who have made special contributions to positive change.)

Sandra Bellamy Special Mention Iconic 100 List

Sandra Bellamy Special Mentions Iconic 100 List


And last year I was interviewed by Shilpi Gupta Shah,

Mention on LinkedIn


So please, do yourself a favour, never, ever, give up on your dreams and keep taking action to achieve each one of those. Your future self will thank you for it.

And make sure 2024, is the year you say, “I do” to you:

Say I do to you

With much love ❤😍

As always, stay ACE,

Sandra xx

FREE TICKET TO VIRTUAL BE AND BECOME SUMMIT – FEATURING ASEXUALITY – DON’T MISS THIS!

Sandra Bellamy Speaker At the Be And Become Summit

LESS THAN 10 DAYS TO GO UNTIL THE BE AND BECOME SUMMIT –

DON’T MISS THIS!


Have you got your FREE ticket yet?

Don’t miss out!

With less than 10 days to go until the Be and Become Summit, I don’t want you to miss out on this ACEsome opportunity to hear me speak about asexuality and how to reinvent yourself to become your best future self.

I know some of you wanted to see me speak at Oxford University for bLU Talks about asexuality and how it completely transformed my life and self, but you couldn’t make it because it was an in person meetup event in the UK.

Many of you wished to see that talk but online – well I’m so happy to say, that I’m speaking online at the Be and Become Summit on 14th of December at 6.20PM ET – 11.20PM GMT – so it’s less than 10 days to go now! 

And my talk at the Be and Become Summit, is based on the talk I did at Oxford University.

Some of the types of feedback I got about this talk were:

“Now I understand what asexuality is, whereas I was confused before., but it all became clear”

“I enjoyed your talk.”

“I thought your talk was good and interesting, even though it’s not something I would usually be looking to learn about.”- They also agreed I made it relatable to the audience, most of whom were not asexual – one woman thought she might be asexual after hearing my talk, and getting clarity.

I would love to have more ACE friends and representation in the audience, so please grab yourself a free ticket here, and let’s ACE IT together

https://mailchi.mp/bbconsulting.biz/sandrabellamythe-be-and-become-summit

I’m the first Keynote Speaker, on the first day, Thursday 14th December, of this 2 day event – the Be and Become Virtual Summit, #beandbecomesummit 

So you don’t have to wait a long time to hear me talk and you can come and go as you please.

For clarification, the event in on the 14th and 15th of December, and each day it officially starts at 6pm ET (EASTERN TIME) which is 11 AM GMT UK TIME. My talk on the 14th of December, is at 6.20pm ET (EASTERN TIME) and as I’m in the UK it will be 11.20pm GMT UK TIME, when I’m speaking for 20 minutes, straight after the host has introduced the summit and why she decided to create it.

I’m talking about how to reinvent yourself to become your best future, sharing how asexuality transformed my life in multiple ways, for the better, forever.

The summit, will primarily focus on mental health difficulties and how these affect your life (and business if you have one).  

So it will have a mixture of business people as well as asexuals in the virtual audience.

It’s about how to transform your pain into your personal power, to overcome adversities, in spite of any mental health challenges you might be experiencing, and a number of different speakers besides me, will also be sharing their own personal story of how they went from pain to purpose.

I will be sharing how I went from being a depressed mess with no purpose, to everything I do now to help asexuals, be a bestselling author and publisher, and live my best asexual life.

I will be explaining the multiple self-reinventions i’ve made. especially since discovering i’m asexual in 2014.

I hope you can join me on this summit, which is virtual and free – so there is no travelling involved.  

I would love to have your support, so we can ACE IT together!
Please get your FREE Virtual ticket here https://mailchi.mp/bbconsulting.biz/sandrabellamythe-be-and-become-summit

You don’t have to have a business to join, so if you work for an employer, or you don’t currently work, that’s okay, in the Business Name box of the registration form, just write follower of Sandra Bellamy and interested in the content – or something similar.
You don’t have to be on camera or speak yourself – you can just listen in.

It would mean to world to me to have your support at the summit.

This FREE ticket offer is open to anyone, regardless of where you live.

This event is ACE for spreading awareness and understanding of asexuality to a global audience! The more awareness we have, the more asexuals will discover each other, and the more inclusive our world will be – how ACE is that?

My mission is to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again – and the more asexual awareness I can raise, the better.

Never give up on your ACE Dreams!

Sandra xx

Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories Is A Best Seller – Best Selling Asexual Book By Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy

Asexual Perspectives Best Seller book

On 08/08/2023 a long-awaited dream came true for me – I became a best selling author of – Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life, and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book – which was first published in Kindle format in January 2017, and the paperback version was published later in July 2017. Get your copy here https://amzn.to/44j4rdq

It’s been my dream since starting my www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com blog in 2010, way before I started helping asexuals in 2015, to have my own book publishing imprint called Quirky Books and to be a best selling author – I’m pleased to say I’ve now achieved both. But the fact I’ve done it while helping asexuals, puts the icing firmly on the cake and makes it the cherry on the top. Combining my two greatest life passions, writing non-fiction books that change live from pain to gain and helping asexuals – feels incredibly amazing and euphoric.

I honestly believe I was put on this earth this time around (I think I’ve been here before in a past life) to help asexuals. I believe God/Universe put me here to help asexuals with love, life, confidence, dating and relationships, so you can truly ACE your life, and to fulfil my life mission – of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. Whilever I’m alive I will try my utmost to achieve this, and my books will live on long after I’ve gone – as my lasting legacy to still help save and change lives for future generations to come.

On 08/08/2023 – Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life, and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book hit the Best Seller list in Human Sexuality – #51. This was an incredible achievement, not just for me personally in terms of achieving my dream, but because it was in a highly competitive category to be a best seller in, as most books in it, are traditional-style sex books, so it’s a huge achievement for an asexual book, and therefore asexuality – which is a sexual orientation based on the lack of sexual attraction – in case you’re not asexual, never heard of asexuality before, or confused.

It took me 7 years to become a registered publisher in the UK under Quirky Books. Which I achieved in 2017, and it was a dream come true for me.

And now it’s taken 6 years for Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, under that imprint, to become a best seller – as I published that in 2017 and now it’s 2023. So 6 years later I got my dream.

Yesterday I was updating my social media – and I shared this achievement on my LinkedIn profile…

And my friend saw it and posted this lovely post and kind words on LinkedIn about my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book – they recommended it as a #MustRead

It’s lovely when someone understands the true purpose and meaning behind your literacy work. Get your copy here https://amzn.to/44j4rdq

See the post here

So however long it takes…

However many sleepless nights…

Late nights…

However many years…

YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS.

I’m so thankful to have achieved all these dreams both for me and asexuals / asexuality.

What’s next for me and asexuality???

On 23rd October 2023, I’m going to be speaking live at Oxford University for bLU Talks and I’ve already been given a lot of prep I need to do for that. I’m co-authoring a bLU Talks books, the Foreword of which is by Ken Honda from Mind Valley, and I just revised the edits of my chapter a couple of days ago for that. Both of these are inclusive of asexuality. I will be using the chapter I wrote for that book, as my foundation for my Oxford talk, that is called 9 Steps To Reinvent Yourself To Become Your Future Self. It describes how I went from being a deeply lonely, shy, and introverted girl as a child, who was scared to be on social media in 2011 and was shy to talk about sex prior to finding out I’m asexual in 2014 – to what I do now, which is helping asexuals through my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel since 2015, being publicly open about being asexual and about my asexual life – all over social media, and able to talk about sex and masturbation as easily as drinking water. I describe the transformational journey I went on, to become the extroverted, loud, bubbly, talkative person I am today. Without which, I would not be able to give a voice to asexuals and help them. Although my talk is going to be based on my chapter concept in the bLU Talks book – it doesn’t have to be and I can talk about whatever I want – so long as it helps the bLU Talks audience, that is mostly made up of entrepreneurs, creatives, and spiritual people. In case you were wondering, bLU stands for business, life and universe, so the talk needs to be relevant to any of those topics areas and suitable for their audience. They spell bLU with a lower case b for their branding – in case you thought it should be capitalised.

I also have a virtual stage talk I will be doing for bLU Talks in the future and I’ve completed the first stage of an initial application to a TedX UK event next year, to do a talk about asexuality – the organiser will have a Zoom call with me in January / February 2024, to explain how the process works from that initial application.

So I still have lots to achieve… and tons more to do.

Plus, I’m still finishing the final edits of my Asexual Guide To Sex book – a book I’ve been working on for over 4 years now.

AND…. All of this goes towards achieving my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again.

I’ve also been given 2 High Five rewards #youtubehighfive by YouTube for my original channel https://www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV which only has 172 subs as that was my first channel which also goes with my Quirky Books blog and my book publishing imprint, although it’s no longer my main channel, as my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel is, so I haven’t paid much attention to it until I got my first reward – it feels amazing that my hard work is finally being recognised by YouTube, and I’ve been interviewed on top rated podcasts talking about asexuality – more on that in later articles when those interviews go live.

I got 2 cinema codes from YouTube for FREE VUE cinema tickets. One I used to see Gran Turismo – amazing movie, which I did a movie review of on my Asexualise channel – see the video below, and the second one I will be redeeming before 2nd Of September.

Feels good to have been making so much progress this year, especially for asexuals and asexuality – as well as my Quirky Books / writing.

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

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Whether you decide to buy the books or not, thanks for your continued support – I appreciate it so much xx

Amplify Your Message bLU Talks – Asexuality Guest Sandra Bellamy – AKA Asexualise / The Asexual Entrepreneur

Listen to my talk about asexuality on bLU Talks by clicking through the link below, My talk starts at 2:14:32.

On Friday 23rd June 2023, I had the pleasure of being a guest on bLU Talks Amplify Your Message, talking about asexuality, what it is, and dispelling the myth that asexuality is a choice – it’s not.

I share my own asexual life journey and about my specific asexuality mission; I explain how some asexuals actually feel left out of the LGBT+ community because others there who aren’t asexual, still experience sexual attraction, whereas asexuality is base on a lack of sexual attraction, and so it’s important to get it recognised as a sexual orientation in it’s own right globally too.

I explain how asexuality has literally transformed my life for the better, forever. 

This video is on the bLU Talks channel. Please give it a watch here https://www.youtube.com/live/P0WYUCcWQTc?feature=share and let me know what you think. My talk starts at 2:14:32.

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

10 Essential Tips for Maintaining Well-being as an Asexual Individual

Being asexual is a unique and valid sexual orientation but it can come with a lot of difficulties and challenges as you buck the norm of societal thinking and expectations. So it’s important to prioritise your well-being throughout your asexual journey, in order to feel good about yourself, your life, and your sexual orientation of asexuality.

In this blog article, I want to share and explore with you, 10 essential tips that can help you stay healthy, happy, and fulfilled, as an asexual individual. Whether you’ve recently discovered your asexuality or have been identifying as asexual for a while, these tips will provide guidance and support for maintaining your well-being. Sandra Bellamy - Self-care, 21st Mindset Birthday trip to Eurodisney

  1. Self-Acceptance:

Embrace your asexuality as a valid part of who you are. Recognise that your feelings and experiences are real and valid, and give yourself permission to fully accept and embrace your identity.

  1. Seek Community:

Connect with the asexual community, either online or in person, to find a supportive network of individuals who share similar experiences. Engaging with others who understand and validate your asexuality can provide a sense of belonging and support.

  1. Educate Yourself:

Take the time to educate yourself about asexuality and its various nuances. Learning about different asexual identities, experiences, and resources, can help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and empower you to navigate discussions about asexuality with confidence. You can take my FREE Asexuality Basics For Beginners Course here https://asexualise-academy-courses.thinkific.com/courses/asexuality-basics-for-beginners-introduction-to-asexuality

  1. Communicate Your Needs:

Open and honest communication is key in any relationship. Express your boundaries, desires, and needs to your friends, family, and potential partners. It’s important for them to understand and respect your asexuality to maintain healthy relationships with you.

  1. Self-Care:

Prioritise self-care activities that promote your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, relaxation, and fulfilment. This might include hobbies, self-dating, mindfulness practices, exercise, or spending time with loved ones and friends. Asexual Sandra Disney Princess Look

  1. Seek Support:

If you’re facing challenges related to your asexuality, consider seeking professional support. A therapist or counsellor who is knowledgeable about asexuality can provide guidance, help you navigate personal struggles, and offer valuable insights. I offer coaching, and advice and support sessions, but I’m not a licensed therapist or counsellor. If you want my help, hit me up in the chat bubble.

  1. Set Boundaries:

Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial for your well-being. Be clear about what you’re comfortable with and communicate your boundaries to others. Remember that it’s okay to say no and prioritise your own needs and comfort. This means it’s okay to say no to having any type of sex or being touched in any way you’re not comfortable with.

  1. Celebrate Your Identity:

Take pride in your asexual identity and celebrate it in ways that resonate with you. Participate in asexual visibility events, connect with online communities, or express yourself through art, writing, or other creative outlets. 

Asexual Sandra at Universal Studios Disneyland Paris

  1. Find Allies:

While it’s important to connect with the asexual community, it’s equally valuable to have supportive allies in your life. Allies are individuals who may not be asexual but understand, respect, and support your identity. Cultivate relationships with those who are accepting and willing to learn.

  1. Educate Others:

If you feel comfortable and empowered, advocate for asexuality and help raise awareness. Educate others about asexuality, challenge misconceptions, and promote understanding and acceptance. By sharing your experiences, you can contribute to a more inclusive society.

Staying well as an asexual individual involves self-acceptance, seeking community, educating yourself and others, setting boundaries, and prioritising your self-care. Remember, you deserve to live a fulfilling and authentic asexual life. By implementing these essential tips, you can enhance your well-being and embrace your asexual identity with confidence and pride.

Embrace your journey and know that you are not alone – a supportive community awaits you.

If you’re not a member of my YouTube community, click the video below now, and subscribe and hit the bell icon to join an empowered community of asexuals and allies, who support one another, and help you to keep feeling ACE! Plus, you get an opportunity to ask me any questions you like about asexuality, in live stream chat or comments. Join me and other like-minded individuals here https://www.youtube.com/live/orc-8mI0p-Q?feature=share 


As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

What Does It Mean To Be Asexual – What Is Asexuality And The Asexual Spectrum

Have you’ve ever wondered what does it mean to be asexual? How do I know if I’m asexual? How can I tell if I’m asexual? What is asexuality? And what is the asexual spectrum?

If the answer is yes to any of these questions, you’ve come to the right place.

Please watch this video below, which I created especially for you to explain more in-depth about what does it mean to be asexual.

This video also explains the asexual spectrum in a way which you should find easy to understand and be able to relate to in some way, including the Aro Ace spectrum within it.

To give you a starting point of what is means to be asexual and aromantic, you can read these Asexual Flag quotes below, but please watch the video above, for a more in-depth picture of what it truly means to be asexual and part of the asexual spectrum.

 

 

 

Watch the video below for the full explanation of what does it mean to be asexual and what is the asexual spectrum.

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx