Can An Asexual Still Be Sexy? This is a great question. There are many myths and stereotypes about asexuality, and just because someone is asexual, does not meant to say that someone cannot find you sexy. Sexy is a matter of perception by the person experiencing that feeling.
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I know how hard it can be to be a romantic asexual, but aromantics, also struggle too! For example, I know how hard it can be for them to form close relationships, for fear of it being misinterpreted as wanting more. And also, how hard it can be to distinguish if another aromantic just cares for them as a friend, or more!!
Some people think that aromantics just want platonic friendships, and not a relationship. But whilst this may be true for some aromantics, it simply is not true for others! And especially if they are somewhere on the grey-romantic spectrum.
Find out more about aromantic struggles and relationships by watching the videos above.
If you are aromantic, what do you struggle with the most? Friendships? Or a potential relationship?
Asexuals can live without sex and love without sex, and in a world that is so sex focused, that can be tough. It can also be liberating. I haven’t had sex since 2011 and I am so grateful and thankful for that. I didn’t like doing that, it hurt, and because I don’t need it or want it, I would have preferred to just kiss.
It is freeing to know that there are others out there who are just like me, who can live and love without sex. Check out these articles about asexuals who can live and love without sex.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/nov/29/asexual-preference-sexuality
I just had to put this video together for you. I still love passion but without the sex. How can you have passion but without sex? And what if you are aromatic, how does that work? I hope you enjoy this how to have passion without sex video and let me know what you think!!
My Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexuality Diversity book is now live and published on Amazon Kindle.
In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?
Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.
Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!
If you identify as asexual do you –
Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.
In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!
In this book you will:
•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.
•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.
•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!
•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.
•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.
•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.
•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.
•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.
•Uncover the positives about being asexual.
•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.
I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.
If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book and shop now, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi
Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.
Behind The Scenes Of What A Writer’s Life Is Really Like
This is the second part of my two-part Asexual Perspectives behind the scenes of my book video series. – What a writer’s life is really like!!
As you can see from this pile of manuscript, lots of sweat and tears went into this book!
I hope you enjoy reading the book and if you purchase a copy, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi please leave and honest review!!
Stay ace
Sandra xx
Almost done! My Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity book is almost finished and ready for publication. I am just doing the final amendments.
This book is around 442 pages at 16pt font size, with 46 asexual interviewees from around globe and across the asexual spectrum, sharing their own personal story to help you. Offering their unique perspective and advice!
I have puposefully kept the style and tone very conversational and informal, like you are having a conversation with a friend. I have allowed both English and American spelling of words in this book to maintain authenticity with minimal editing and colloqiualisms. All of this makes it a ‘quirky book’.
I have a philosophy in life – “Throw away the rule book and create your own!” – Sandra Bellamy Quote
It will be up to you to YOU to decide if you agree with each perspective in the book or not! – Out soon! Watch this space for more details!
In the meantime – stay ace!
UPDATE: Asexual Perspectives is out now to buy in both digital Kindle format and Paperback https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi
Over Christmas it is important to look after you! Christmas can be a busy time with family and friends but you must remember to look after yourself too!
If Christmas is a lonely time for you and you are feeling depressed, check out how you can avoid feeling this way in my free newsletter http://eepurl.com/cuTRTj and don’t forget to subscribe!
I am still working hard to finish my Asexual Perspectives book to publish it asap. I am currently writing the final part of it. I will let you know when it has been published.
I have extended the Black Friday prices for the pre-January sale so you can still grab yourself a bargain!
Happy Christmas.
Sandra
Stay ace xx
Hi, I am in the National Press! “Confessions of an asexual cougar businesswoman “repulsed” by sex but dreams of teen romance.” In the Mirror Newspaper; National Press Newspaper. This national press coverage is huge for asexuality and the UK asexual dating scene. Please share with as many people as possible to raise awareness. Special Edition Episode.
View article here http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/confessions-cougar-repulsed-sex-dreams-9456045
Would love to know what you think of this article?
Stay ace
Sandra
INTERNATIONAL CELEBRATE BEING SINGLE DAY DOCUMENTARY: BRISTOL ZOO. This video has taken me over 6 months to edit and put together. In this documentary, you will be with me every step of the way, from walking to the train station, to getting a tour of Bristol zoo, eating a meal and going to the cinema. Make sure you watch all of the first part where I tell you why it is so good to be single and how amazing you are. If a mooch around the zoo is not so much your thing, the more speedy bits are after 14.00.
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If Sex Without Love Exists, Why Can’t People See That Love Without Sex Also Exists?
LOVE IS NOT THE SAME AS SEX!
Sex is just one physical expression of love that some people like to do and some do not like to do. Some people experience sexual desire; having a need for sex itself, while others do not feel the need for much physical contact in a relationship – such as some aromantics. As I am a hyper-romantic, I like to express love through lots of passionate kissing, cuddling and holding hands, but also through an intelligent, emotional, romantic, spiritual and creative connection. Love is not sex and sex is not love. Love can exist without sex as they are two separate things than can be intertwined or not.
