If you didn’t know, every October is when Asexual Awareness Week occurs, and this year 2018, is no exception, (21st-27th of October 2018, is Asexual Awareness Week).
Asexual Awareness Week gives each and every asexual the opportunity to promote Asexual Awareness and to ‘come out’ to others if you haven’t already. If you have any family or friends that want to help you to raise awareness too, this is the perfect time to get them to do just that.
We need more visibility, we need more education for others, and we need to get our voices heard – there is absolutely nothing wrong with being asexual and I believe living life as an asexual can be one of the most positive and empowering experiences. However, I know the difficulties that crop up, the objections, those awkward moments, the lack of understanding and sensitivity. It’s also tough finding other aces to meet in person, to form strong relationships with, and to find a life partner/s should we wish to. That is why it is so very important for us to raise awareness as much as possible. Wearing an Asexualise Asexual T Shirt, is a great way of raising awareness and that is why I have spent more time learning more Photoshop skills so I can bring you more exclusive designs that are unique and stand out like this ‘Asexual Awareness’ T Shirt on my Redbubble shop.
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I am in Bristol later today to celebrate being single – going to the zoo and for a meal and to the cinema – which is what I did last year as shown in this video.
International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th.
International Celebrate Being Single Day is just around the corner (Feb 14th), and having founded this special day for singles to celebrate being single, you may be asking yourself, just what is so great about being single.
Since being predominantly single from November 5th, 2011, I began to challenge my mind about the way it thinks about being in a relationship and being single. I was in relationships with guys who were no good for me since 15 years of age – until 2011 – about 19 years of my life! With the largest period of being single in that time, just 6 months! 2 relationships I had were long term (not good for me) and lasted years. I wasn’t a happy person back then and had low self-esteem. I did not like being on my own because I felt alone and very lonely, I liked to be needed, wanted and loved, and felt I wanted someone there for me 24/7 as life would be boring on my own. I am also a very romantic person.
It is fine to want to be needed, wanted and loved – but what I have discovered is that you need to get these 3 things from yourself first and foremost; to be at one with your own soul – then you will you be happy and fulfilled as a single person and less likely to get into a relationship that is no good for you because you will not ‘need’ to be in a relationship. In fact, you may fill your own life with so much joy and happiness that being in a relationship no longer appeals to you. Either way, you will have unleashed your power of one and be on your way to being a super successful single sensation.
7 STEPS HOW TO BECOME HAPPY BEING SINGLE
Step 1. You need to take stock of your life and realise that you have a problem being single and find out why that is.
Step 2. You need to be willing to have an open mind and accept you need to change in this respect.
Step 3. If you have been in relationships for most of your life, you need to give yourself some time to yourself and vow to do all you can to stay single for a set period of time – mine was a year; so I could have time to stop ‘needing’ someone. If on the other hand you have been single all your life and would like to be in a relationship but don’t know how to go about it, then you have some work to do on yourself to ensure you can be single and be happy – as well as work to do on your dating and relationship skills. You can still enjoy dating as a single person and it is good to see what is on offer from a variety of sources, rather than thinking one person is the only choice you have!
Step 4.You need to explore and find things to build your confidence and self-esteem, as well as discover ways to help you to be happy being single. This could include learning from books, articles, training courses, magazines, blogs, videos, audio books and podcasts, or through coaching and/or being mentored.
Step 5. You need to decide what ways you learn best – visual, auditory (listen), verbal, written, – so you can pick which learning method is best for you and implement it. If you don’t know which suits you best, try each out until you find which works best for you. Being happy to be single is a skill you need to master and maintain and you need to recognise this and accept it.
Step 6. Take massive action. You need to implement what you have learned, if you are not prepared to do this then you will stay stuck being single and unhappy – everyone has a choice regardless of their circumstances. If you have no money there is free to watch YouTube videos, blog posts and online articles to read. There is no excuse for not changing your life!
Step 7. Evaluate and monitor your progress via each learning method. If something doesn’t work, then try something else until you can honestly say you are happy being single.
For those of you who follow me on Twitter, you may have seen my www.Twitter.com/quirkycoaching profile and thought, just what is #powerofone. Power Of One is a powerful online training and coaching programme that I am creating, to show you, just how to be single and be happy being single.
How are you celebrating being single on Feb 14th – International Celebrate Being Single Day?
Please add #ICBSD to any posts and media you post online to show how proud you are to celebrate International Celebrate Being Single Day!!
What struggles do you have being single and what help would you like to overcome them?
Unfortunately, not everyone on Asexual Dating sites and within the asexual community are honest!
I know from both personal experience and through those experiences of my ace friends that some guys claiming to be asexual are actually not and they are heterosexual and pretending to be ace! How do I know this? Because some have admitted it to me, others have admitted it to other aces I know and other’s show it by their words or actions – including sending an unwanted picture of their penis! This is disgusting and something I wish to highlight to discourage it. It makes life more difficult for those who are ace and want genuine and honest relationships, be that a romantic relationship, platonic relationship, or friendship.
In this video I explain more about asexual scammers!
So one thing I get asked and come across a fair bit in conversations, is how to arrange an Asexual Meetup, and as I have experience of this, here we go, how to arrange an asexual meetup:
Go to www.asexuality.org (AVEN). You will need to register to see all the forums. There is a forum thread under ‘Community’ called Meetup Mart. Within these geographical areas you should find threads for smaller areas across your country and throughout the world. If there is not one in your local area, create a new forum thread topic asking something like, ‘where are all the aces in ……..’ then add your area. See what response you get. Then you can begin a conversation, start building a rapport and ask if others want to meet up and if so, when, where etc.
Remember, it only takes two people to make a meetup, you don’t have to wait until you have x number of people, just go for it.
Make sure you have at least one other definite person who will show up, as you don’t want to be left there hanging, waiting for people to show and no one does, especially if you are travelling to a place outside your town or city to meet up.
Sometimes you may have to travel to meet others half way, or nearer to where they live.
For safety reasons, always meet in a public place and somewhere that is easily accessible to leave of your own accord should it not turn out to be to your liking.
If you are meeting just one other person always Skype them first, or at a minimum talk to them on the phone.
In general, the asexual community is awesome, but it’s not without its imperfections as nothing is perfect and some people on Aven are ‘straight’ sexual, often as ‘allies’, but not guaranteed, so check the profiles of the people you are meeting up with – this also gives you a talking point with them. Even is not an asexual dating site, but on asexual dating sites, you get a few that are not actually asexual. I am not saying this to scare you, but so you are aware of it.
The best thing of all is to have fun and not to get too worried about it. You can stay for as little or as long as you want and there will often be people who are just as nervous as you are, but the benefits of connecting with like-minded people who understand you, are huge. I highly recommend giving an existing meetup a try or creating one for yourself.
There are a lot of asexual introverts, and that can mean that no one takes action to arrange a meetup, don’t let that be you and miss out. I arrange small meetups in the Exeter Area of the UK and almost always I average about 6/7 people at each meet, whereas previously it used to be 4. It does not matter if you have lots of people at your meet, or only one, what matters is you are connecting with another person/people who share asexuality in common and that is a great thing.
How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup UK Asexuality Conference Talk With Sandra Bellamy
If you want a more in-depth account of HOW to arrange an asexual meetup, watch my How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup talk, for absolute beginners, from the UK Asexuality Conference on 8th of July 2018. Get your pen and paper ready as you may want to take notes!
If you are looking for some asexual T-Shirts or tops to attend an asexual meetup check out the shop on this site at www.asexualise.com that have been especially selected from Amazon USA for you, and/or visit my Asexualise shop on Redbubble that ship throughout the world www.redbubble.com/people/asexualise/shop
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