Here is the first video (Asexual Relationships) from the Asexuality Conference UK. I was in a team 3 for this panel discussion and it is interesting to hear the varying viewpoints, and my short talk about Asexual Relationships starts about 03.48. My friend recorded this for me, and edited it for me. The person who introduces us did not want to be filmed, so you can only hear their voice and they have been cut out of any visuals.
Welcome to #APAM (Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month) which was founded by me, Sandra Bellamy, in July 2017, to celebrate the release of my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity book, and to celebrate the diversity of all asexuals around the globe!
Asexual Perspectives Awareness month #APAM is 1-31st July 2018, and so it’s incredible that the UK Asexuality Conference is on during our celebration and that I am both a speaker and panelist for it – what a celebration that is!!! It is dream come true for me to do public speaking in London and on a topic I know so much about, just feels acesome. And I also have a very special announcement this month. Coming soon… So watch this space and my channel www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife for more detail about that – all I can say, is that it is a world first and super exciting!
And it’s not long to go now until the UK asexuality conference, which is on July 8th, at Westminster University in London, check out our Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/UKAceConference/
In the meantime, check out this great TedX Talk about asexuality from Lisa Zhang.
To quote YouTube this video is about “Lisa Zhang, a senior at Gunn High School, is an extremely talented artist in the Gunn art department as well as the co-president of the Gunn cartoon club. Zhang aspires to expose the topic of asexuality to the Gunn community, in order to promote a more open-minded student body on the issue of sexuality.
In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)”
UPDATE:
Here are the videos from the UK Asexuality Conference!
If you have not seen this video yet, it is a must watch. David Jay is the founder of www.asexuality.org (AVEN), and discusses why asexuals who don’t want sex, still need connection!
Let me know what you think?
Until next time, stay ACE.
Sandra xx
So I wanted to share some talks in the coming posts that others have done about asexuality. This one is a TedX Talk and I really enjoyed it! What do you think? In this Asexuality TedX talk Chantal Kelly tells her story of self-exploration.
Until next time, stay ace
Sandra xx
I had to deal with a Narcissist at work, after having 2 weeks off from the stress of being bullied by him for years, because I could not take it anymore. But I learned how to deal with a narcissist and that made me stronger when I had to go back to work. I have also come into contact with narcissists during asexual dating, so I really hope this video about how to deal with a narcissist and the first one, helps you to avoid getting into any sort of relationship with one of these.
Until next time, stay ace!
Sandra xx
P.S. If you missed part one, it is here https://youtu.be/NrUEHWmDHyQ
P.P.S. If you are looking for more help, Amazon has a selection of books that may help you!
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*************12 Signs Of A Narcissist! **************
1) NO EMPATHY OR SYMPATHY (INCLUDING FOR PAST TRAUMA AND MAY SIDE WITH AN ABUSER)
2) ACTS AS COOL AS A CUCUMBER
3) NO EMOTION EVEN IF YOU ARE UPSET
4) THINK THEY ARE RIGHT ALL THE TIME
5) NEVER APOLOGISES (UNLESS TRYING TO MANIPULATE YOU)
6) ACCUSES YOU OF NOT DOING WHAT THEY EXPECT
7) EXPECTS YOU TO DO WHAT THEY WANT
8) MAKES OUT YOU ARE THE ONE IN THE WRONG
9) PLAYS THE VICTIM
10) MANIPULATING AND CONTROLLING
11) SHOWS YOU UP IN PUBLIC
12) USES YOU FOR THEIR OWN MEANS/BENEFIT
Until next time, stay ace!
Sandra xx
In my vast asexual dating experience, and particularly in asexual dating groups on Facebook, there are so many people who get worried about Facebook blocking someone who is clearly from an outside point of view being emotional abusive, nasty, or hurtful.
They spend ages worried about what the other person will think, about if that person really is being horrible to them, about maybe they should just keep the relationship going, give them chance after chance and feeling like they have to continue the relationship for some reason, or worse, that if they don’t continue it something bad will happen to them, or they will be harassed forever, (due to emotional and mental blackmail by the other person).
They sometimes realise the person is being harmful and hurtful, but still continue the relationship. This can be because they have feelings for them, or they feel it is less hassle to, or they think that person may change and don’t want to lose that connection. I totally get this as I used to be that type of person, but I learnt in my life that how we are treated is how we allow ourself to be treated, so if we feel bad because someone’s actions and attitude is not nice, disrespectful, rude, or abusive, we need to remove ourself from that situation and free ourself, instead of wasting our time and allowing ourself to be abused. I also learnt that another person’s problems is not MY problem, and that it is okay to walk away out of self-respect, self-love and self-worth!
I hope you found that helpful? Would love to hear what you think?
Until next time, stay ace
Sandra xx
Did you know asexual guys can be womanisers too?
Is this video I explain how to spot an asexual womaniser – the asexual guys who go around chatting up multiple women; who date multiple women and make them feel like they are the ‘one’ for them; and who may be in a relationship and trying to get into another one, despite saying they are monogamous. There are no doubt manisers too, as I am heteroromantic, I am speaking from own personal experience.
I hope you find this helpful?
Until next time, stay ace!
Sandra xx
I recently published this video about not missing out because I have had no sex since 2011, and I still say the same thing as I did in the video below, in 2015, that it feels fantastic – to not have sex!
These are some of the other benefits of no sex for me!
As you can see from my list of 20 benefits of no sex for an asexual, there are a ton of reasons why I am so happy I don’t have sex. What’s yours?
Until next time, stay ace! Sandra xx