On 3rd of July, I reached 125,000 views on my Asexualise My Asexual Life YouTube channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife I couldn’t have reached this many asexuals and educated many allosexuals about asexuality, without your help. Thanks so much, I really appreciate it.
I am truly grateful for every subscribe, every like, every comment, every share, and every recommendation of my channel. It means such a lot.
As you know, from 1st of July 2018, this channel evolved into a daily chat show for asexuals. And I am blown away by the amount of asexuals who openly come in live chat and share their own personal stories to help others in our community there.
As I am sure you are aware, my mission is to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation throughout the globe, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. With your help, I am getting closer to this goal.
If for some reason you haven’t yet subscribed, please join our ACE community there now www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife Besides being an asexuality education channel, I like to think of this channel as personal development for your asexual soul. And please tell all your asexual friends, so they may also benefit from the connection that comes from our community there, and I can get closer to that asexuality mission being realised.
Join me on my channel, for the final couple of days of Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, which I founded in 2017, when I published the printed version of my Asexual Perspectives book. Celebrating our diversity across the asexual spectrum, and our differences within it. If you have never read Asexual Perspectives, you can get a copy here https://amzn.to/2X3QYGH
Once again, thank you so much for your support, it means so very much.
Love Sandra xx
Stay ACE
P.S. One thing that really helped to get more views on this channel this year, was a FREE piece of software called Tube Buddy. If you have your own YouTube channel and want to grow it, I would highly recommend this free tool. There is a paid plan if you want more advanced features. I find the FREE plan is just fine for me for this channel. I have however, bought a Pro plan for a new channel I plan to have later this year, which is not an asexual one. I will still of course, be keeping this channel. You can view what Tube Buddy has to offer here https://www.tubebuddy.com/SpreadTheTubeLove
Some asexuals have never dated before in their life, or are inexperienced at it. If that sounds like you, or you just want some help with asexual dating, read on…
7 Steps How To Get Started With Asexual Dating
Join Facebook dating groups for asexuals. Be aware that although my asexual dating groups should have only asexuals in them, some other asexual admins, aren’t so strict with who they allow in their groups, and you might find some sexuals in them, so use careful questioning to determine if they are asexual and if they would be suitable for you, when you get someone approach you, or when you message someone from those groups. Post a post introducing yourself and keep posting every so often as new members are added. Remember to say where you live, what type of asexual you are, what type of relationship you are looking for, and with what gender – including any and all. Whether you are a mover or non-mover – In other words can you move or not? And say a bit about your hobbies and interests, so someone has got something to talk to you about if they approach you. For example, I am Sandra, I live in the UK, I am a heteroromantic asexual, a non-mover, so need to find someone who would move to live near me. I am a heteroromantic asexual and I live in the UK, I am looking for a highly romantic, lots of kissing, with no sex ever relationship, with an asexual guy. I am a non-mover. I don’t want marriage or kids, and I prefer to live on my own, but would love the right asexual guy to move to live near me, but not with me. I have a preference for younger foreign guys, in their 20s, especially Indian. I love writing, going to the cinema, out for meals, to theme parks, zoos, and aquariums. Must be a non-smoker, and preferably clean shaven.
Join Asexualitic.com fill out your bio on your profile as full as possible. You can copy and paste what you posted in the Facebook dating groups, into your profile on this site. Add more as you feel necessary. The more information the better. Check out the group forums as they can often be more active that the rest of the site. Search “Members”, as well as searching in the various groups and forum threads, for suitable matches for you. Remember it’s a yearly fee if you want private message people on this site. If you don’t want to pay for the site, then in your bio add “I am not a paying member of this site, so cannot private message, if I have friend requested you that’s means I am interested in getting to know you more, so please email me at… or you can also contact me on Facebook at…” Then ensure you send a friend request to those you are interested in getting to know more about, for a potential relationship. Remember, there will likely be some people who aren’t really asexual on this site. I have come across a few.
Join ace-book.net fill out your bio on your profile as full as possible. You can copy and paste what you posted in the Facebook dating groups, into your profile on this site. Add more as you feel necessary. The more information the better. Check “Matches” and “Local Matches” to find suitable matches for you. Take part in the forums, as you never know, you might meet someone suitable for you in those. Remember, there will likely be some people who aren’t really asexual on this site. I have come across a few.
Download aceAPP for your Android or Apple phone. Fill out your bio as much as possible, in the short amount of characters allowed, with all the key point deal breakers for you, such as; no sex, no kids, UK only. Use “Bake Cake” to swipe through suitable matches, change the “filters” as appropriate, to narrow or widen the geographical area you would consider having people match with you within, and also try the “Active Now” feature, to find suitable matches for you. Be aware there are a number of people on this App who are fake, and as well not asexual. Watch the video below to find out more what to look out for. I still think it’s worth joining as I have met two genuine asexuals from that app, who attended my in person asexual meetups.
Be proactive, not reactive. Approach people in; the Facebook Asexual dating groups you have joined, on asexualitic.com on ace-book.net and on aceAPP. Don’t wait to get a message from others, you message them, and understand that rejection both by yourself and by others towards you, is a natural part of dating and nothing personal. It means you can rule that person out and get closer to getting the right person for you. So it’s a good thing, not a bad thing.
Go through the “members” list for each Facebook dating group you are in, and click through the profiles of those who interest you and send a private message to begin a conversation with them – providing there are no group rules specifying otherwise. I encourage private messaging in my dating groups. Politely say you are not interested, if someone messages you, and you aren’t. Just say something like, thanks but you aren’t my type, or you aren’t what I am looking for, but good luck with your search. If you are sending them a message, and you are not friends with them, your message will likely land in their “other” messages inbox. So if you don’t get a reply within 2 days, and you notice they haven’t seen your message, send them a friend request, as if you become friends with them, they will be able to see your messages. You can always unfriend them if they accept and you find out they aren’t even suitable to be friends with you.
If you have been messaging with someone for a while and it’s going well and you think you might be suitable for a potential relationship, have a Skype date/Video date with them. This is the next step. Always do this before meeting up with them in person. If the person refuses to do this or make excuses so they can’t do it for some reason, move on. It’s not worth risking your safety over. It’s a lot easier to find genuine and serious people, if you ask to video chat, they should be happy to. It shouldn’t be too much trouble to learn how to video chat, or learn together. Skype dating/Video dating, as opposed to a chat with a friend on video, is all about asking questions to find out if they are suitable for you to be in relationship with them. You should be asking the tough questions very early on, the deal breakers, so you have the least amount of attachment to them, so it doesn’t matter if either of you need to move on and you don’t waste each other’s time. Ask specific questions but make them general. So if for example, you are an asexual who wants kids, ask that person what their view on having kids is, despite being asexual. Don’t ask, I want a kid, do you want one with me. That will likely either frighten them off, or they might say yes, just to be polite, or because they are telling you what they think you want to hear. And neither of those is good for you. If they say they want kids, ask them, would that be by natural means or other? Again, this is a very specific question, but you are asking it in a non-pressurising way. Ask what they think of marriage, not would you want to marry me, when you barely know each other, and be aware of anyone who talks about getting married early on, as it could mean they want marriage for a visa. Ask where they see themselves in 5 years time; in terms of where they will live, what job they will have, what their ideal relationship will look like. This way you can compare your needs, wants, goals, ambitions and dreams, for the future, with theirs, in your mind, to determine if there is any likelihood this person may be suitable for you for a long-term relationship. After the Skype date/Video date, you can decide if you would like to do it agin or not. And if they are bad for you, you can say to them part way through or early on, that you aren’t compatible, but thank them for their time, or not as the case might be, and you can end the conversation there and then.
Above all, look at asexual dating, as a journey of discovery, and not something to be scared of. It should be as enjoyable as possible.
Share this post now, with anyone who needs help with asexual dating.
As always, stay ace.
Sandra xx
P.S. If you want to watch the full length video of these 7 Steps How To Get Started With Asexual Dating, filmed as a Live Stream, you can see it here:
Many asexuals struggle with depression and anxiety, but why? Why do asexuals and indeed many other people struggle and think, why’s it so hard to be happy?
If you missed my 3 hour LIVE stream last night on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel, I reveal the answer to this and give you tools and techniques for overcoming depression and setting yourself up for happiness for life. I explain exactly why people find it hard to be happy and how you can be happy, here it is https://youtu.be/KinV4dTzsG0
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This week is Asexual Awareness Week in case you didn’t already know, and on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel I have been doing a series of videos about asexuality to raise awareness and understanding of this sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction. Tonight, at 7pm UK time GMT, I have a live interview with my Asexual best friend who identifies as Non-binary. So I will be talking to them about how they first discovered they are asexual and about gender identity, particularly what is means to be non-binary! Make sure you subscribe to my channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and hit the bell icon so you get notified of every time I go live or post a new video on my Asexualise channel. I try to live stream every day usually after 11pm at night and you can catch up with it afterwards if you miss an episode. Tonight’s episode is at the much earlier time of 7pm. Even if you are not asexual, supporters and those taking a genuine interest in what asexuality is, are always welcome to join in the live chat.
If you are questioning as to whether you may be asexual or you want to know more about asexuality, please watch this video about signs you may be asexual!
If you have any questions about asexuality after watching these videos, please comment below!
I am with my Asexual best friend from today for 5 days in total and doing lots of fun stuff, including going to the Disney on Ice show on Saturday and it’s their birthday on Monday, so we are having a pre-birthday asexual group meetup on Sunday and going to Plymouth Aquarium on Monday, to see the new Terminator movie and eating in Nandos. In effect it’s 5 days of birthday fun for them and me, because I feel like it’s my birthday too! They are one of the bestest friends I have ever had in my life! So pleased I met them, they make the world a more special and precious place, just by being in it!
If you want to read more about asexuality, you can get a copy of my first book for asexuals, ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 Asexual Stories: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY, here https://amzn.to/31OkTlA
There are many common myths about asexuals and asexuality. Some due to ignorance, some due to closed mindedness and others are just outright confused, which I put largely down to a lack of education and societal conditioning! So here are 10 Common myths about asexuals and asexuality – busted!
Asexuals never have sex– Simply not true. Some asexuals never have sex and others choose to do it or try it, for whatever reason. This could be to please a partner; to do it as an activity to do, which they may even find fun, like a bored game; or to have kids.
If asexuals don’t have sex, then they never masturbate!– Not true! Whilst some asexuals don’t ever masturbate, other’s do, because they do have a libido, despite it not being aimed at any one, as they don’t experience sexual attraction.
Asexuals are asexual because they “can’t get laid” – Not true. Asexuals can have sex if they want to, many don’t want to as they are not sexually attracted to anyone and so sex does not appeal to them. However, some asexuals do have sex and I am asexual and had sex in the past with some of my heterosexual ex boyfriends. I don’t want to have sex ever again, as these days I am personally sex-repulsed for me.
Asexuals are just people who can’t get dates – Wrong. Many asexuals can get dates, but with sex usually expected at the end of the date, many asexuals would rather not bother. On the other hand, if sex is not on the table, then a large number of sexuals won’t want to have a date with an asexual, (unless they believe we will change our mind about having sex if we previously said we don’t want it), because they want sex and it’s important that they get it, and if they don’t, there is a lower incentive for them to date an asexual – Even though we have got many awesome qualities and can make someone happy without sex, some sexuals need sex, and that is it!
Asexuals never have any sexual behaviour! – Not true. Whilst some don’t exhibit any sexual behaviour, others do! Sometimes this is behind closed doors, such as masturbating themselves, or they may have oral sex, anal sex, or masturbate their partner! It may also be in front of others, such as dancing very sexily, like grinding!
If someone is asexual then it means they are gay or lesbian – Wrong. Whilst asexuality is considered to be part of the LGBT+QIA acronym – the A standing for asexual, but some also consider it to stand for Allie, Agender or Androgynous , it does not mean all asexuals are gay and lesbian, in fact in terms of not being sexually attracted to anyone, gay or lesbian may be considered the wrong term to use for those who are attracted to the same gender, just not sexually. However, some asexuals may identify as a gay or lesbian asexual – for example a homoromantic; homo – meaning attracted to the same gender, romantic – meaning they are attracted romantically (to the same gender). And some asexuals like me, identify as heteroromantic. Hetero – meaning attracted to the opposite gender – romantically. It does annoy me when I say to someone I am asexual and they say, “So you’re a lesbian then” and I say, “No, I am attracted only to guys, but romantically, not sexually. I love to kiss, cuddle and hold their hand, but I don’t want sex with them as I don’t experience any sexual attraction. I have had sex in the past because I thought I had to, as part of a ‘normal’ relationship, before I found out I am asexual! I have gay and lesbian friends, but I am not a lesbian.”
Asexuals never get attracted to anyone. Wrong again! Some asexuals, for example some aromantic asexuals – those who are neither romantically or sexually attracted to anyone, may not experience any type of attraction to anyone, others will likely experience platonic attraction. Many other types of asexuals do experience some form of attraction, even though it’s not sexual. So they could experience romantic attraction, aesthetic attraction, intelligence attraction, spiritual attraction, emotional attraction. And in my case I experience all those towards different guys, and I also experience creative attraction and clothes attraction. So I get super attracted to guys who are creative and making things and doing stuff. I also get attracted to guys wearing certain types of clothes, such as the ‘street’ look, or a black and white suit! And as part of my intelligence attraction, I get super attracted to guys who are into IT, and can build websites and code! With that attraction, coupled with romance and intelligence attraction, well I just want to snog (passionately kiss) the guy! I am a rare asexual in that I don’t experience any platonic attraction, which means I get some type of attraction for my close guy friends even, which can be rather annoying at times, as I don’t wish to feel romantic over a guy who is just a friend, but as I am also a hyper-romantic, I just have to let myself feel these feelings and accept they are a part of me. Resisting them makes things worse, so it’s best just to be open, upfront and honest about it. And no, I don’t want multiple partners as I am fiercely monogamous, not polyamorous. I would rather focus my attractions towards one romantic partner, if I had one.
Asexuals never watch porn! This isn’t true either! Whilst there are asexuals, like me, who never ‘watch’ porn, in fact I personally detest it, I know some asexuals that do watch porn. Many asexuals who do this, say it helps them to masturbate, which they want to do, to relive their libido.
Asexuals never participate in BDSM! Nope! This isn’t true! Some asexuals do participate in BDSM, just without the sexual intercourse. Some asexuals who do have sex, may participate in BDSM whilst also having sex. I personally hate BDSM and want to run a mile from anyone wanting to do that to/with me. Luckily not one heterosexual ex, ever even hinted at that.
Asexuals never have any fetishes! Still wrong! Some asexuals do have fetishes. I have known a few asexual guys who have foot fetishes for example, which makes them want to massage a partner’s feet, and pay close attention to their feet, without the person putting their foot in their penis and stroking their penis with it – which apparently is what a sexual guy likes to do, if he has a foot fetish, or so I was told by one asexual guy, but as I don’t get involved with fetishes either, and I thankfully have not had a relationship in the past with a guy like this, which is my preference, then I have no hands on experience of this, if you pardon the pun!
At the end of the day, ALL asexuals are different and whatever they do or don’t like is up to them and it’s up to you! Our difference is our beauty and it’s more important to be a diverse group of people than copycats of others. There is no one size fits all, when it comes to being asexual or having asexuality as your sexual orientation and that’s ACE!
To quote Wikipedia, the full definition of asexuality is:
And don’t forget to share this post for Asexual Awareness Week from Sunday 20th of October – Saturday 26th of October 2019, to educate others about asexuality!
My FIBROMYALGIA SELF-HELP HANDBOOK is now published and so is my www.acefibrogirl.com site. If you want to change your life you need this book! Yes, the book is aimed at people with Fibromyalgia, BUT this book is a revolutionary way to manage your life, to have less pain, more energy and feel happier, forever, and the formula for doing this which I share in this book, can be applied to any person’s life, to become super successful at having and creating a better quality of life for yourself. Even if you don’t have fibro, it will truly change your life! Many asexuals suffer with depression and anxiety and this book helps free you of depression, lower your anxiety, and increase your confidence, several asexuals I know, have bought this book for that reason. It also introduces asexuality in the chapter about intimacy – so this book spreads more awareness of asexuality to an audience of fibro people, who mostly won’t have heard of asexuality! ACE in front of FIBRO GIRL – I chose because I am asexual and also it means you excel in something, which for me, is managing my fibromyalgia incredibly well.
Many people with fibromyalgia have anxiety and depression too. This FIBROMYALGIA SELF-HELP HANDBOOK, is a truly revolutionary way of managing your life to have less pain, (including emotional), more energy – which many people need, and to feel happy – which we all need! You don’t need a Kindle – you can download the Kindle AP to read this book now! https://amzn.to/2HbHzVl
If you wondered why I had been so quiet on this blog, it was because I was getting this book finished and I had to keep going and put all my time, energy and effort into it! And I also started to write a second book for asexuals too, yey! With two more planned afterwards! This FIBROMYALGIA SELF-HELP HANDBOOK, was a book I wrote the bulk of in 2017, and finally got it out on Kindle last week. It’s an autobiographical self-help, how-to book! Many people who suffer with depression and anxiety – who haven’t got fibro, have bought this book to help them to truly change their life – I hope you will be one of those people!
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Think of this book as your fibro bible and blueprint for how to be your best self, and live your best life! In the chapters that follow, I will explain exactly how I’m able to have, maintain and sustain, my energy levels, so you can do the same. I will explain exactly what mindset you need to have to effectively reduce your pain; what foods to eat and not to eat to ease your pain; what footwear to buy to stop your feet from swelling most of the time; how to zap depression where it hurts; how to reduce your anxiety and worry less; how to thrive and flourish in spite of fibro, and so much more. In a nutshell, you will discover the secret formula for long lasting mental health and happiness, and how to be your own superhero to save yourself from pain!
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I am so happy to have been interviewed on the Freestyle Your Life (FLY) Podcast about my personal asexual journey and about asexuality. My asexual journey has been a transformational one.
My Discovery:
In March/April 2014 I discovered I am a heteroromantic asexual. I am attracted to guys romantically not sexually. I don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse. I love kissing especially and cuddling, but not sex. Yes, I had sex in the past because I thought I had to as part of a ‘normal’ relationship, as we are all conditioned to believe since birth. Yes, I did say conditioned, but sex is not for everyone. Love without sex, does exist. One of my asexual friends is getting married to his asexual partner next month and I couldn’t be more happy for them.
More About Me:
If you are new to this website and blog and you didn’t already know, I am the Author of this beautifully insightful book about Asexuality, called Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity. So if you want to read more about my personal asexual story you can read about it in my book here https://amzn.to/2YEGD2y Or here if you live in the USA https://amzn.to/30nTarT Or worldwide at https://www.sellfy.com/quirkybooks.net or you can order the paperback version from all good book shops around the globe under Quirky Books – yes, that’s my own publishing imprint.
My podcast interview with Freestyle Your Life, goes live on Tuesday 9th July 2019 on ITunes, Stitcher and Spotify. It will be available to listen to from midnight on 8th of July, so you can listen to it on the 9th, no matter what country you are in. I had a lot of synergy with this presenter as she is all about being your true authentic self, no matter what, and has a hugely powerful personal story of overcoming adversity herself.
These are the links where my episode, (episode 26), will be live to listen to from the 9th of July 2019!
This is the exact link to my specific episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep026-how-to-embrace-your-quirky-asexuality-sandra/id1458343184?i=1000443926237
Asexual dating sites and asexual social networking sites do exist. Whether you are looking for a platonic relationship, or something more romantic, you are not alone.
“Meet Asexuals with Asexualitic.com. The first community for asexual people. Date an asexual, meet friends in the asexual community and find a platonic partner. Build a platonic relationship.”
If you want to date other asexuals try Asexualitic.com – It is free to join and create a profile but not to send direct messages, you can put your email address, Skype etc, in the description details but otherwise it currently costs $19 for the year which is quite reasonable for the upkeep of the site. I have found that people on the site talk far more in the forums for longer periods of time than on an individual basis that tends to fizzle out. I like the look of the site and it is still helpful to know there are other aces out there and to have the opportunity to connect with them. I joined when the site had less than 5,000 members, in 2014, now it has over 38,300 as of September 2018!! And therefore I am a premium member and do not have to pay for membership – lucky me!☺
I am also on www.ace-book.net which is a free to join social networking and asexual dating site.
Try them out and share what you think in the comments below!
There are other asexual dating sites but these are the only two I am active on and like to be part of on a regular basis.
I also run 2 asexual dating groups on Facebook and a friends group – acceptance into them in not automatic and you have to answer questions to get into them, but if accepted then are hugely beneficial in increasing the chances of you finding someone special, be that a friendship (which is what the friends group is aimed at) www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus or a platonic or romantic partner which is what the other two groups are aimed at, depending on whether you definitely want a no sex ever relationship, which would be my Asexualise no sex ever dating group – specifically just for asexuals who never want sex in their life, https://www.facebook.com/groups/acexualisedating/, or if there is a possibility of sex, such as those who identify on the Grey Asexual and Demisexual end of the spectrum https://www.facebook.com/groups/greyacexualdatinganddemiacexualdating/
I haven’t met my asexual soulmate yet, who I believe is younger and foreign and Indian, in his early to mid twenties, but who knows what the future holds in store, let’s wait and see! Exciting!
Wearing Asexual clothing and having asexual accessories, makes you feel fantastic as an asexual because you are expressing your Asexual identity and showing you most definitely do exist.
Wearing Asexual clothing makes you feel empowered as an asexual and that you are truly living your asexual life and enjoying it. It makes you feel confident to be the wonderful and beautiful asexual you were always born to be!
Asexual Accessories can compliment your asexual clothes, and be as loud or as subtle as you wish them to be.
What’s Ace!
If you are not openly asexual, you can choose an asexual item that says ace on it, which is the slang term, or nickname word if you like, for being asexual, particularly when accompanied by the asexual flag colours, which are black, grey, white and purple.
What do the Asexual Pride Flag Colours Mean?
“The asexual pride flag consists of four horizontal stripes: black, grey, white, and purple from top to bottom. … The black stripe represents asexuality, the grey stripe representing the grey-area between sexual and asexual, the white stripe sexuality, and the purple stripe community.”
“The asexual pride flag consists of four horizontal stripes: black, grey, white, and purple from top to bottom.
In August 2010, after a process of getting the word out beyond the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) and to non-English speaking areas, a flag was chosen following a vote on a non-AVEN site. It has since been seen used on Tumblr in various LGBT areas, but had been seen alongside other sexual orientation flags previous to formal election. The black stripe represents asexuality, the grey stripe representing the grey-area between sexual and asexual, the white stripe sexuality, and the purple stripe community.
The AVEN logo is a triangle fading from white to black to symbolise the gradient between sexuals, gray-asexuals, demisexuals, and asexuals.
The ace of spades and ace of hearts are also used as asexual symbols as “ace” is a phonetic shortening of asexual. Similarly, “aro” is commonly another abbreviation of aromantic. Generally, romantic asexuals use the ace of hearts as their symbol, and aromantic asexuals use the ace of spades.
Another common symbol for the asexual community is a black ring worn on the middle finger of their right hand. The material and exact design of the ring are not important as long as it is primarily black. This symbol also found its start on AVEN in 2005.”
So if you were unable to attend the UK Asexuality Conference on 8th of July 2018, I was a speaker there and this was my “How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup” talk for beginners, those who are just starting out arranging asexual meetups and who have never arranged one in their life. I think you will enjoy this talk very much. Any questions, please posts them in the comments below.
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