Asexuality Know Better – Asexual Perspectives Author Interview With Sandra Bellamy

Posted on October 11, 2020October 11, 2020 by Asexualise

There’s nothing more exciting and rewarding for a writer/published Author, than changing people’s lives through your own written words.

When you add to that, the fact you are asexual, and you are interviewed about your book and asexual life journey, it’s just the icing on the cake.

I’m so proud to be featured in Loud and Out magazine, about my Asexual Perspectives book, and Author/asexual journey. And what a journey it’s been. I remember when I was scared to talk about sex with anyone else but a partner. I remember a time I thought I had to have sex as part of a ‘normal’ relationship. And I remember how the word asexual turned me off from using it, because it has sexual as part of the word, and I feel I’m not sexual. I remember thinking if you have sexual behaviour, how can you be asexual? Not realising sexual behaviour is not the same as sexual attraction. Asexuals lack sexual attraction, they don’t all lack sexual behaviour.

Want to know more about why I chose to write Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life And Sex book?

Check out the article here https://loudandout.com/asexuality/?fbclid=IwAR0cvSXnB5wfFMV_n4yTUdImJBYxizPC7hLvegR3wkMew5QYLNb_-jKPXu4

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

FIBROMYALGIA SELF-HELP HANDBOOK: ACE FIBRO GIRL – HOW TO BE YOUR OWN SUPERHERO AND SAVE YOURSELF FROM PAIN

Posted on August 20, 2019August 24, 2020 by Asexualise

My FIBROMYALGIA SELF-HELP HANDBOOK is now published and so is my www.acefibrogirl.com site. If you want to change your life you need this book! Yes, the book is aimed at people with Fibromyalgia, BUT this book is a revolutionary way to manage your life, to have less pain, more energy and feel happier, forever, and the formula for doing this which I share in this book, can be applied to any person’s life, to become super successful at having and creating a better quality of life for yourself. Even if you don’t have fibro, it will truly change your life! Many asexuals suffer with depression and anxiety and this book helps free you of depression, lower your anxiety, and increase your confidence, several asexuals I know, have bought this book for that reason. It also introduces asexuality in the chapter about intimacy – so this book spreads more awareness of asexuality to an audience of fibro people, who mostly won’t have heard of asexuality! ACE in front of FIBRO GIRL – I chose because I am asexual and also it means you excel in something, which for me, is managing my fibromyalgia incredibly well.

Many people with fibromyalgia have anxiety and depression too. This FIBROMYALGIA SELF-HELP HANDBOOK, is a truly revolutionary way of managing your life to have less pain, (including emotional), more energy – which many people need, and to feel happy – which we all need! You don’t need a Kindle – you can download the Kindle AP to read this book now! https://amzn.to/2HbHzVl

If you wondered why I had been so quiet on this blog, it was because I was getting this book finished and I had to keep going and put all my time, energy and effort into it! And I also started to write a second book for asexuals too, yey! With two more planned afterwards! This FIBROMYALGIA SELF-HELP HANDBOOK, was a book I wrote the bulk of in 2017, and finally got it out on Kindle last week. It’s an autobiographical self-help, how-to book! Many people who suffer with depression and anxiety – who haven’t got fibro, have bought this book to help them to truly change their life – I hope you will be one of those people!

HERE IS THE BLURB! (Even if you don’t have fibro – you WILL still get value from this book!)

If you feel like fibromyalgia is ruining your life and taking over it, if fibromyalgia leaves you feeling depleted in energy, in constant pain, and you are sick and tired of struggling, of feeling depressed, hopeless and helpless, and you desperately want to relieve your symptoms of pain, feel more energy and be happier, you need this book. I am living proof that it really doesn’t have to be that way. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia in 2012, yet I have the most energetic, happy, vibrant and fulfilling life ever, since my diagnosis and in spite of it, but what’s my secret? My mission is to empower you to live a more energetic, vibrant and fulfilling life, in spite of your fibro, using unconventional methods, simple techniques and concrete ways that really work!

This revolutionary Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook shows you a truly remarkable and uniquely holistic “Superhero Rockstar” way to manage your fibromyalgia, step-by-step, which you will never have seen before. This book exposes you to the real truth about why you are suffering with fibromyalgia and what keeps your pain locked inside you. It shows you what it really takes to manage your fibromyalgia in 25 aspects of your life, to reduce your pain, with practical, helpful, simple and easy to follow, actionable advice, that is direct and to the point, so you can finally take back control of your life; have more happiness; more energy and more freedom from your pain, so you own your fibro and it doesn’t own you. This book gets your fibromyalgia working for you, rather than against you, so you can truly thrive, flourish, and feel alive, in spite of it.

This no-nonsense fibromyalgia self-help handbook, literally gives you the antidotes to save yourself from pain. By being more informed about what’s most effective for coping with fibromyalgia from someone who has fibromyalgia, who understands your plight, frustrations and problems that fibromyalgia gives you, you’ll be able to implement positive action steps that will dramatically improve the quality of your life. Within this book, you will discover the insider secrets and effective strategies to managing and reducing your pain, so much so, that your fibromyalgia becomes insignificant!

This book is not a cure for fibromyalgia, but a complete holistic system for managing your fibromyalgia. This book is for those with fibromyalgia, those who think they show signs of having fibromyalgia; for family, friends, or loved ones of those who have the condition, and for anyone and everyone who is keen and eager to know more about fibromyalgia and how to manage it to have less pain, more energy and feel happier.

Think of this book as your fibro bible and blueprint for how to be your best self, and live your best life! In the chapters that follow, I will explain exactly how I’m able to have, maintain and sustain, my energy levels, so you can do the same. I will explain exactly what mindset you need to have to effectively reduce your pain; what foods to eat and not to eat to ease your pain; what footwear to buy to stop your feet from swelling most of the time; how to zap depression where it hurts; how to reduce your anxiety and worry less; how to thrive and flourish in spite of fibro, and so much more. In a nutshell, you will discover the secret formula for long lasting mental health and happiness, and how to be your own superhero to save yourself from pain!

If you value your quality of life, if you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, with living in agony, pain and misery, with little energy and hope for the future, and it’s making you feel depressed, if you have decided you can no longer go on like this and you need practical, helpful advice, you can put into action instantly to start making dramatic changes rapidly, to feel better, forever, this book IS DEFINITELY FOR YOU! Don’t waste another moment of your precious life suffering, when you don’t have to, buy now!

Remember – Even if you don’t have fibro – you WILL still get value from this book! It will change your life for the better, forever!

You don’t need a Kindle – you can download the Kindle AP to read this book now! UK https://amzn.to/2TJ7HfD Amazon .com https://amzn.to/2HbHzVl Check out your local Amazon store now to get this book. You can also order it in print from Amazon or any good book store.

Like my new ACE FIBRO PAGE for advice on how to live your best life, be happy and as pain free as possible! https://www.facebook.com/ACEFIBROGIRL

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

Asexual Kindle Short Reads: What Are Asexual Kindle Short Reads Books?

Posted on October 4, 2018September 1, 2018 by Asexualise

Asexual Kindle Short Reads Books

“Great Stories in One Sitting”

What Are Asexual Kindle Short Reads Books

Asexual Kindle Short Reads books, are digital Kindle Books which have been designed to be read in one sitting, as opposed to being read in days or even weeks! This is fantastic if you are a slow reader or got lots of projects on the go at once, or you lead a very busy life!

You can get Kindle Short Read books in many different genres which take different lengths of time to read: 15 minutes | 30 minutes | 45 minutes | One hour | 90 minutes | 2 hours or more. Although if you are an uber slow reader like me, you may take a while longer. I like to savor every asexy word and take it deep in my mind to analyze my feelings and thoughts on it! Do you do the same? Comment below and share your thoughts, I love to read you!

Asexualise.com is the place to be, for both long and short books about Asexuality.

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ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 REAL LIFE ASEXUAL STORIES NOT TEXT BOOK DEFINITIONS

Posted on September 27, 2018August 28, 2018 by Asexualise

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES

One asexual from my Asexual Friends group was asking about my Asexual Perspectives book and did not realise that the 47 stories are real life asexual experiences of what it really means to be asexual in this sexualised world. This 560 page book took me a year to write and I interviewed asexuals from all over the globe and across the asexual spectrum. The best thing about this book is it is NOT A BOOK OF TEXT BOOK DEFINITIONS OF ASEXUALITY, IT IS A COLLECTION OF REAL LIFE EXPERIENCES that SHOWS you THE DIVERSITY OF THE ASEXUAL SPECTRUM, and can deepen your under of asexuality as a whole, with many relatable stories.

When you first discover you are asexual, it is like you have found your FREEDOM, and a HUGE weight has been lifted from your shoulders. I constantly get asked questions about asexuals and asexuality and this book answers all of them and so much more:

Can asexuals masturbate?
Can I still be asexual if I watch porn?
Can an asexual have a relationship with a sexual and make it work?
Can asexuals really find love and a relationship with another asexual?
If I have had sex in the past, but have no desire for it now and have not for some time, could I still be asexual?
What advice would you give to someone who is just discovering they are asexual?

In this book you will find out the answers to all those questions and so much more.

In this book you will read stories of how difficult it is being asexual in a sexualised world, how people ALWAYS knew they were different, but did not know why or how! BUT you will also read what the POSITIVES TO BEING ASEXUAL are.

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

Asexual Perspectives is 47 Real Life Asexual Stories and makes the ideal self-love gift or a gift for that asexual friend! Perfect for a Christmas treat.

You can get it directly from Amazon here https://amzn.to/2LE1D2o

GIVING YOU A HEADS UP – YOU MAY NOT LIKE WHAT I AM ABOUT TO DO!

Posted on August 31, 2018August 31, 2018 by Asexualise

GIVING YOU A HEADS UP

I JUST POSTED THIS ON MY PERSONAL TIMELINE – but it’s IMPORTANT YOU READ THIS TOO, as I have been reflecting a lot lately and making life decisions that MAY AFFECT YOU TOO.

?GIVING YOU A HEADS UP NOW! Been reflecting a lot lately and so glad I am finally going out dancing, and in a place where they have foreign music, foreign guys, and I can dance to foreign tunes and most people are in their 20s, which matches my soul interests and the dancing is such an amazing freeing feeling that finally my soul can achieve and be nourished. I plan to go out dancing in my city far more, as it is so healthy for my mind, body and soul, and I am not a ‘going to the gym’ or ‘routine exercise class’ person. I want to dance in the way I like to for hours on end, and be in an atmosphere that naturally matches my 21st mindset soul and inner being. I like to be around young guys, not around guys near my birth certificate age, and that piece of paper is not me and not true to who I am. I am very grateful and thankful to be born, but that age, is not one I choose to live or be, it’s really not me and makes me unhappy and even miserable sometimes if I let it get its way or in atmospheres or doing things that trigger that or provoke it into action!

I am also going back to focusing on my life purpose which is WRITING and to change lives through the written word – writing is my number one passion in my life and my life purpose – followed very closely by asexuality.

⚡️WARNING PLEASE READ ALL OF THE FOLLOWING!

I will write some books that you will love and adore, but I will also write books that you may not agree with or not like – that is okay, you don’t have to read them and you can go on your own life path and ignore those ones – but I have to write them before I die to be blunt. I want to help as many people as possible with my knowledge and worrying about what people think is not any good for me.

‼️WARNING There is a very controversial book I plan to write and there is a NEED for it, I started writing it a while ago after I got a PM from an Asexual friend, but it is for a very niche amount of people – So I am giving you a heads up right now that some of you will not like it – some asexuals want to have sex or try it for the sake of their partner and they keep coming for my help in PM, afraid and scared and not knowing what to do – and yes, I used to be in heterosexual relationships for half of my life before I discovered I am asexual – I had sex and am experienced in that – even though I no longer want it for me. I have never experienced a need, urged want for it, but yes, I could fully feel it and experience it, probably in part due to the fact I am very sensitive, emotional, and I have high arousal levels – which I cannot help and in the past mistook for sexual attraction. I am also sexual in behaviour with the way I like to kiss with my clothes on – it can feel extreme and scary even for me. I like to get naturally excited with my clothes on, but sex does not appeal to me in the slightest – and yes, my ex was good at sex, but I am not liking sex or wanting it ever again, passionate kissing is a much bigger excitement for me and more explosively pleasurable if you must know, and I do not want sex ever again. I would rather not have had sex in the past and just had the kissing and maybe some touching when in a relationship – that is my dream relationship now – to have love without any sex, but plenty of romance, deepest ever soulmate connection, and deepest ever best friendship, with tons of proactive consistent communication, and making me a priority in his life, a guy loving my for my personality and all of those things mentioned, more than anything else, and first and foremost, but yes, I also NEED close passionate kissing in a relationship, with the tongue, bodies intertwined with clothes on, with the right younger foreign asexual guy in his 20s (in the UK permanently – if I ever find one). So yeah, I will be writing a book about hetero-sex for asexuals who want to try it and have no clue what to do. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, not necessarily the lack of sexual behaviour, although the full definition is the “lack of sexual attraction AND/OR little to no interest in sexual activities” – notice the AND/OR. So if you have problem with that and no longer want to be my friend that is fine – you can go ahead and de-friend me and no hard feelings, but I will not live my life by other people’s mindset and rules – that is not my life, it is yours. I am glad for every asexual that is still a virgin – I think it’s good for you and you are not missing out at all. I am glad there are thousands of asexuals around the globe who have never had sex, that is amazing, and I am proud of you for doing that and staying that way and think it is very healthy for you. I am happy for every asexual who does not have any arousal or sexual behaviour whatsoever, that is fantastic – I am happy for you to be you and me to be me, naturally. I don’t think it is right for any asexuals who do feel aroused or who like doing some things that may be sexual in behaviour, to feel invalidated, guilty or wrong. We are all very different. I believe I was born to be a mixture of some parts of the asexual spectrum, through my life experience, in order to help others. So if you are not comfortable with me helping those asexuals who want to try sex, rather than having a go at me or being unhappy because I am doing that as well as all the no sex ever is fantastic videos and posts, – which in my opinion it is, then please go and be happy and leave my friends list as I do not want to be the cause of your upset or pain. I just need to help as many people as possible, regardless of what you think and believe, and I cannot please everyone.

?To all of my asexual friends who love and support me regardless – and of course all of my many very beautiful sexual friends, who I also love and adore, thank you so very, very much, for accepting me for who I am and caring about me for me. Thanks for continuing to support my mission, my life, my passion and my joys, and for also being and staying with me through those rough and tough times. I love you mountains and thanks for always being in my life, even if it is just silently at times. xxxxxxxx Hugs xxxxxxxx ? Celebrating being me.

Welcome To Asexualise.com Live and Launched Reloaded

Posted on August 26, 2018August 26, 2018 by Asexualise

Welcome to Asexualise.com. It’s ace to have you here and I hope you can grab yourself a cup of your favourite drink and a slice of your favourite cake, and get settled in to making this your new asexual home.

A lot has happened since I first published this blog post on April 12th 2016. Over 2 years ago! And today is 26th of August 2018.

My www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel has grown and I am constantly adding new content.
I run 5 asexual groups on Facebook. Including the Asexual Friends group here www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus (If applying, please answer all questions.)
My Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Diversity book is published.

Sandra Bellamy

I was a speaker at the UK Asexuality Conference last month.

I have my own Asexualise clothing brand on Amazon here and my own Redbubble shop here.

And now I have a shop on here in which I have gathered the best asexual products on Amazon for you in one place. Mostly they are from Amazon USA as currently they have more asexual products, so if they don’t ship to you, you can buy a range of products from my Redbubble shop.

Last month I also launched https://www.asexualiseacademy.com which is the world’s first online training centre and school for asexuals and asexuality. And I have a free 9 part video training series on there in asexuality basics for beginners! Which explains what asexuality is and what the asexual spectrum and aromatic spectrum is! So go there now and sign up and you will be taken to the Course Library page where you enter your details again to get the course for free.

I created this site especially for you, to empower and enhance your asexual life. Jammed packed with asexual products, social media resources, blog, and more; with more to come, I hope you will enjoy your stay. Enjoy the shop and resources here. If there is anything I can help you with, or any suggestions you have, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. Twitter http://www.twitter.com/acexualise or on my http://www.facebook.com/acexualise page or via the chat box on this site.

I aim to write more non-fiction books for asexuals in the future as well as in other niches. Writing is my hugest passion in life, although I have many others – including being quirky! And I love being asexual, it’s the best thing ever for me. I also plan to create paid for online training and coaching courses in the future; if you want more in-depth help with asexuality, such as increasing confidence and self-esteem, you will want to check those out when they appear on here. There will also be related courses too, such as “Power of One” How to supercharge your single life to feel happy and fulfilled forever. All of these are still yet to come, but they will be on my new www.asexualiseacademy.com

Remember you are ACE!

Sandra xx

NEW ASEXUALISE ASEXUAL SHOP UNDER CONSTRUCTION! TO EMPOWER AND ENHANCE YOUR ASEXUAL LIFE!

Posted on July 31, 2018August 23, 2018 by Asexualise

You may have noticed something different about this site very recently! It now has an asexual shop that is currently under construction at the time of writing this post on July 31st 2018!

You may or may not remember, that this site used to have a shop previously incorporated within it? But now, it is an actual shop, rather than having one just incorporated within it. Well, almost, as I am still adding category images and still have some work to do on the aesthetics and certain pages, but 108 products are already in it. I never knew the immense amount of asexual products out there, until I went searching for them for YOU!

These asexual products are selected from Amazon.com and added to the shop here for you, so you have all the best asexual products in the one place! You can add multiple products to your shopping cart, just by clicking add to cart, and you will be automatically redirected to Amazon to checkout, but if the item is not available to be shipped to your country, for example, to the UK, it will not show in your shopping cart on Amazon to prevent any purchases that cannot be fulfilled and shipped to your country. Under each item it has a symbol of a USA flag or British flag, so you can see which items are available just in the USA – such as many of the Asexual T-Shirts you see, but things like the Asexual books you see, can mostly be got in both the USA and UK and globally!

No matter where you live around the world, you can always shop for many asexual products, including asexual T-Shirts, skirts, tops, leggings, and so much more, at my Asexualise Asexual shop on Redbubble, just take a look at the screenshot below and you can see to the left of (some of) my designs, all of the products I sell, from Asexualise Asexual Acrylic Blocks to Asexualise Asexual Wall Tapestries – by clicking here https://www.redbubble.com/people/asexualise Please note, that prices will vary from Amazon due to different manufacturers, and the prices viewed here are subject to change, so please check out my shop for up-to-date prices!

I am going to be honest with you, and let you know, that if you click through any link in my Asexual shop on this site and you do make a purchase, I may get some monetary compensation for it! This helps to keep this site running, and pay for web hosting and domain renewal (which increase in price every year) so I can continue to bring you ace Asexual resources, inspiration, help, advice and guidance, and keep this blog going! So you get Asexual products all in one place, saving you time trawling through them all on Amazon and I get to keep this site going for you – win/win!

So keep your eyes peeled for a blog post announcing the official launch of this Asexualise Asexual shop, in the meantime, I have tested the shop with the products I already have on it and the shopping cart and checkout, and they are working! So you should be able to go ahead and make your selections! Just remember if you live outside the USA, and you cannot get the item shipped to your country, it will not be added to your Amazon shopping cart and there is currently no way I can get a notice added to pop up on the Amazon site to say this, through the redirect link, it simply won’t add the item/s to your actual shopping cart! If you have problems with this or you have any queries or questions, you can always reach out to me on chat which is available on every page, if I am not there at the time, as I am away producing more content for you, please leave your email and I will get back to you! You can also email me asexualise@gmail.com I am also on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/acexualise

Until next time, stay ace!

Sandra xxxx

Asexual Perspectives Book – A Different Take On Asexuality!

Posted on March 14, 2018August 27, 2018 by Asexualise

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK

If you are still learning about asexuality or wanting to understand your orientation better, I wrote a non-fiction book to show you the difference across the asexual spectrum. This book is not full of text book definitions, but a different take on asexuality, of real life asexuals, revealing some very intimate aspects of their life to help you! http://amzn.to/2FT0nJO