ASEXUAL COACH

Ever had counselling or therapy from someone who doesn’t have experience of what they are talking about and they make you feel worse? I know I have. They may have a piece of paper to their name, but they don’t have the life experience to go with it. They read from textbooks, and try to fit you into a box, that just doesn’t work! I have been there and done that, and it made my anxiety worse. I felt myself tipping back into depression which I thankfully freed myself of 2012. It became that bad, I had to walk away.

I found out I am asexual in 2014, when a counsellor told me that I had to have sex in order to keep a good guy. I was horrified. I went home and Googled I love kissing but not sex, and here I am, years later, helping other asexuals, with their dating, relationships, friendships, and life. Helping those with asexual partners and relations, to understand them better.

My mission is to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation throughout the globe, so that the stigma of those not experiencing sexual attraction, is dropped, and no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. Also for asexuals and allosexuals to understand each other better, to create more deep and harmonious relationships with each other.

Counsellors have their place and so do coaches who just have a piece of paper to their name. But I believe the coaches that make the long-lasting and effective changes for their clients, are the ones who have experienced what their clients are going through and can help them with their first-hand experience because they already know what works and doesn’t work.

Are you looking for an Asexual Coach? Then look no further…

I’m an Asexual Coach, specialising in all aspects of asexuality:

Dating.

Forming healthy relationships – With both Asexuals and Allosexuals.

Building lasting friendships.

Life: Navigating, and thriving, in the highly sexualised world we live in.

Helping Asexuals to:

Understand the asexual spectrum and help them to identify where they fit within it.

Come to terms with their asexuality and how this impacts their life.

Become confident and comfortable with their asexuality. Give you the tools you need to be strong, so it doesn’t matter what others say.

Feel supported when coming out to family, friends and others. Discover effective ways of doing this that make it less daunting.

Learn ways to effectively cope in this highly sexualised world.

Better understand relationships and dating and how they work. And what that will look like personally for you.

What you can do to develop and grow yourself, so you are better able to handle a relationship, either with another asexual or an allosexual.

Understand what a sexual relationship would look like, and how that would work for you as an asexual if you wanted to be with an allosexual who wants sex. Exploring body, mind, and soul preparation, and creating an action plan, so you feel more confident about this.

Learn how to effectively communicate with a partner or potential partner, to ensure boundaries and needs are met with each other.

Learn how to negotiate sexual and asexuals needs with a partner or potential partner, without blaming the other, and to respect each other’s identities.

Learn how to comprise in relationships, without compromising who you are as a person.

Understand how an asexual could have sex in a relationship if they wanted to, while still having boundaries that make you feel safe.

Understand how a sexual could refrain from having sex in a relationship, monogamous or otherwise. And how that would work for them.

Explore other sexual acts you could do besides intercourse, that you might enjoy, in an asexual/allosexual relationship.

Explore different forms of intimacy to ensure your needs are met in an asexual/allosexual relationship.

In cases of asexual with allosexual relationship, coaching you both/all together can be more effective. So I can see the dynamic of how you work together and take into account each other’s needs when helping you. If you prefer coaching one-to-one only, I completely understand and I am here for you.

Learn how to deal with rejection more effectively so you are not stuck on one person who may be toxic for you.

Recognising when it’s time to call it quits on a relationship or potential relationship, after every other avenue has been explored.

How to effectively manage anxiety so you can quickly recover.

Learn how to reduce depression or free yourself from it forever.

How to make progress in your life, despite your mental health difficulties. Learn to ways and techniques, how to manage those more effectively.

Learn how to come to terms with autism (if you have it) and how you could still be in a relationship if you are autistic.

How to effectively communicate with a partner or potential partner if you are autistic or on the autistic spectrum.

How to have a relationship, with a disability. (I have fibromyalgia, so I know how hard it is to be physically close if you are in pain. Let’s explore what could work well for you and them.)

(Allosexuals = those who are not asexual)

What qualifies me to be an Asexual Coach?

I am Asexual.

I was in heterosexual relationships for half my life – and had sex.

I am currently in both asexual and traditional “allosexual” dating sites/groups. I have first hand experience of what you are going through.

I have been coaching asexuals on my Asexualise channel since 2015.

I run 6 asexual groups on Facebook, including 3 for dating, 1 for making asexual friends, 1 for business, and also an exclusive social learning group for Asexualise Academy Club members only, where I do group coaching/mentoring/training throughout the month. (The monthly coaching plan includes Asexualise Academy Club.)

I worked for the NHS for the Recovery Learning Community for 4 years and was a Per Trainer for them, helping people to recover from mental ill health.

I have lived experience of depression and anxiety. So if you are dealing with these issues and want to alleviate depression and reduce anxiety, let’s talk. (I am not a therapist.)

I have a disability. So if you are struggling to cope with a disability, I can help with that too.

I have had lots of counselling in the past, and learnt a lot about different and effective coping skills.

Over 10 years of personal and professional development training, from some of the world’s greatest thought-leaders.

Completed a weekend Life Coaching course with the Coaching Academy. Learnt the basics of NLP as part of that weekend and used it to change my life.

Got a certificate in Basic Counselling Skills at Exeter College.

I have done a 14 week pattern training course with S.A.F.E. Stop Abuse For Everyone, through an NHS (National Health Service – in UK) referral. This course was incredible and one of the best things I have ever done in my life. It showed me how to recognise signs and patterns of abuse/abusers, so I could stop myself from ever being in, or staying in, an abusive relationship. This truly changed my life for the better, forever. Nowadays I can more easily spot scammers, narcissists, and abusers, including through text messaging on online dating sites. So I am well equipped to help you with any of these types of issues you might run into while dating.

Although advising and mentoring are somewhat different to coaching. I like to do Quirky Coaching, where if appropriate, I will combine coaching with advice and guidance.

I hold an Information, advice and guidance diploma, as well as an admin diploma and a teacher/trainer qualification.

I have taken courses to grow and develop my own life skills. And always continuously doing so.

My coaching technique is modern, using both exploratory questions and giving advice and guidance that you can put into action immediately, to start seeing the results you need.

Some people may only need one coaching session, but usually you should expect to be having at least 3 coaching sessions, to fully benefit from coaching, and ongoing for 3-6 months, especially if you are in a mixed sexual orientation relationship and that is the major problem for you. Like anything in life, you get out what you put in. If you don’t put in the time, money, energy and effort, that says a lot about how much you really want to solve the problem. If you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting the same results. So if you want true life change, hire me as your Asexual Coach right now. I’m very affordable at £80 an hour, which includes my prep time. Message me to see if we would be a great fit to work together or not. Click the chat bubble, and let’s chat about it now! Or email me, asexualise@gmail.com

I look forward to hearing from you.